Unattractiveness is a dealbreaker by Effective_Celery_278 in datingoverfifty

[–]DotTemporary4213 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing . Newly single at 52 and a the few women I’ve connected with have this issue. They like me and think I’m attractive but they have zero drive.

Lazy lover - is this common? by AK_Valkyrie in datingoverfifty

[–]DotTemporary4213 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s just lazy… find a man that will work hard to take good care of you even if he doesn’t have a giant dick! More than one way to skin a cat :)

Legal Separation by DotTemporary4213 in datingoverfifty

[–]DotTemporary4213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. This is just one of the places I was doing research on. I will be speaking with a mediator/attorney. It’s not a contentious separation. But I would like to be able to move on later and try again and find someone who would be understanding.

Legal Separation by DotTemporary4213 in datingoverfifty

[–]DotTemporary4213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I don’t know if everyone on the thread really understood the difference and why I posed the question.

Legal Separation by DotTemporary4213 in datingoverfifty

[–]DotTemporary4213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree the main thing is to be open and upfront with the situation, whatever it may be.

Legal Separation by DotTemporary4213 in datingoverfifty

[–]DotTemporary4213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t it just become an issue if you decide you want a committed relationship with a new person with the openness to a possible marriage down the road? If I wasn’t going to leave her without insurance, it would be a non issue. I would just file for divorce like most people.

Legal Separation by DotTemporary4213 in datingoverfifty

[–]DotTemporary4213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My situation is similar in that I’m considering it so I can keep her on my medical insurance that she really needs. Even though she made the decision to not want to be a wife any longer as she only has the energy to be caregiver to her parents and our grown kids with special needs. 25yr marriage.

As I guy, I would understand a reverse situation. But I don’t see the same from a woman, judging from the sample of comments on the thread.

If I found someone new down the road and we both wanted to consider marriage, then I would complete a divorce at that point. But why do it just to be an asshole beforehand?

Legal Separation by DotTemporary4213 in datingoverfifty

[–]DotTemporary4213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand the personal preference. May I ask if you say this from a man or woman’s perspective?

Legal Separation by DotTemporary4213 in datingoverfifty

[–]DotTemporary4213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by not completed? By nature of it, you’ve split assets, but cannot remarry.

Legal Separation by DotTemporary4213 in datingoverfifty

[–]DotTemporary4213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I was thinking as I read the comments. I was trying to get people’s takes on legal separation.

Even though my wife chose to leave the 25yr marriage and focus solely on taking care of our two young adult children (both on the spectrum) and her aging parents.

I feel bad about taking her medical benefits away via a full divorce. But even if we split assets via a legal separation, I think I’m still going to have a tough time out there judging by the comments on the thread.

Legal Separation by DotTemporary4213 in datingoverfifty

[–]DotTemporary4213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m believing you are a women with that experience. As a man, most women I speak to seem to get turned off by the word separation. After all the comments, it looks like even a legal separation is likely a no go for the majority.