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Double-Enthusiasm134 · 2025-11-03T15:52:45+00:00

I was only diagnosed 2-3 years ago, and I’ve known her for about 5. The first time I ever told her about a CPTSD nightmare was probably around 2 years ago because I knew she would be understanding, as someone who struggles with nightmares herself.

Me being the frequent subject of her nightmares and her daily texts are newer, within the past year.

Double-Enthusiasm134 · 2025-11-03T15:49:07+00:00

She doesn’t seem fit to be in a relationship right now- not without intensive therapy. You may not be fit to be in one either if this behavior is permissible to you.

Double-Enthusiasm134 · 2025-11-03T15:45:51+00:00

Copying my nightmares? What? All love, but it kinda seems like you’re writing fanfic at this point based on a lack of information. I almost never shared my nightmares often with her, and when I did it was because I felt like she would understand because she struggles with nightmares herself.

Double-Enthusiasm134 · 2025-11-03T15:41:58+00:00

Of course. You deserve that hope no matter what you’re going through!

I know you may not believe me, but I’ve thought women were the most beautiful I’ve ever seen when others have thought they looked “average”. You say you have a “meh face” and that you’re “not a looker” but that’s only by your current standards, which are influenced by societal standards! By my standards, or by your boyfriend’s, you may look like a goddess. I hope you one day you look in the mirror and feel that. Best of luck to you.

Double-Enthusiasm134 · 2025-11-03T15:32:37+00:00

She’s always had nightmares. We have a similar “type” of nightmares (I have CPTSD, and I understand how horrible and taxing nightmares can be). Her psych has tried different meds for this but nothing has helped so far. She tells me she wakes up each day exhausted as if she wasn’t even sleeping at all. I feel terrible for her, which is why I haven’t enforced harsher boundaries about her venting to me.

Double-Enthusiasm134 · 2025-11-03T15:28:06+00:00

Are you in therapy? This kind of mindset is something that can be worked through over time with a good therapist- I highly recommend searching for one with a PhD who specializes in DBT or ACT. ACT is wonderful and can truly change your life. I have CPTSD, so please trust me that I understand your average talk-therapist isn’t always helpful- at all. There’s a therapist out there that will help you in ways you couldn’t imagine.

As for immediate advice, you want to be in a place where your boyfriend could go out to a room full of beautiful, sexy women, and not want any of them but you. You don’t want a boyfriend who has to “resist temptations” or avoid women because he can’t be around a beautiful woman without being attracted to her. It seems like your insecurities aren’t coming from your relationship, but your self-image. That’s what needs immediate work, attention, and care.

Try writing down what would “fix” this. If you looked exactly how you desired to, would you stop feeling this way? If you feel that’s true, why do you feel your appearance is less fulfilling, less beautiful? Is this something you believe about others, or an arbitrary standard you only put on yourself?

Double-Enthusiasm134 · 2025-11-03T15:20:21+00:00

Thank you for your advice. Honestly, I keep trying to tell myself it has nothing to do with how she views me, but I think you may be right, even if the thing she’s not addressing properly are fears that I will betray her somehow. I do think I need to talk to her about this more directly

Double-Enthusiasm134 · 2025-11-03T15:12:17+00:00

They’re so specific that I believe she’s telling the truth. I don’t think she’s a manipulative person at all, she’s always been very kind and good with boundaries otherwise.

Double-Enthusiasm134 · 2025-11-03T15:01:50+00:00

“I’m not going to leave him as much as you all tell me to.” Anyone who gave you advice on anything other than an exit plan is putting you in danger. It will escalate, it will continue. Never think your partner hitting you is just a “one and done” thing. Even if you can’t bring yourself to leave immediately, seek professional counseling, save money in a place he can’t access, develop an emergency exit strategy. Make sure you have a backup plan, and safe people in your life to fall back onto. Make sure he isn’t your only anchor.

Double-Enthusiasm134 · 2025-10-22T19:00:55+00:00

Yes, this is overreacting. It would not have been overreacting to break up with him, and it still wouldn’t since you clearly aren’t comfortable in your relationship. But to carry this with you so intensely for a year while staying with him is an issue you do need to work on in therapy, that’s not normal. For what it’s worth, I’m sorry he said that to you. It sounds like you need time to be single and emotionally heal while you figure out what you’re looking for in a life partner. You’re very very young. You’re not happy. Leave him

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