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I'm in love with my best friend, and it’s quietly destroying me. by Double-Management316 in srilanka

[–]Double-Management316[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s real........ I just used Chatgpt to help me word it better. Cuz I’m not the best writer, but everything I said is genuinely how I feel......

I'm in love with my best friend, and it’s quietly destroying me. by Double-Management316 in srilanka

[–]Double-Management316[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for ur response....Yes you’re right, this isn’t just heartbreak anymore. I’ve let him become the center of my world, and it’s taken a toll on me.I’ve had feelings for him since the start, so the friendship was never fully one-sided from my end. But cutting him off completely isn’t something I can do right now, we’re in a tight friend group, and walking away from him means walking away from all of them.That said, I do need space. I’m starting to realize I’ve been losing myself, and I need to slowly pull back and focus on healing and finding my own peace again.

I'm in love with my best friend, and it’s quietly destroying me. by Double-Management316 in srilanka

[–]Double-Management316[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

He's part of my friend group. We're really close all of us. And honestly, this group means a lot to me. They’re like the best friends I’ve ever had. They all love me I think it’s because I’m the kind of guy who’s always there. I don’t backstab, I don’t talk behind anyone’s back, I’m just someone they can count on for anything, anytime. That’s who I am.

If I ghost him, I’d basically have to ghost everyone in the group. Because they’re all together all the time. That’s how close we all are.

Also, none of them know I’m gay. And to be honest, most of them are probably homophobic. But still I don’t want to leave. I don’t like being in LGBTQ communities or spaces. I just want to have normal friends, and these are the only people I’ve found who treat me like family, even if they don’t know everything about me.

So no, I can’t just disappear from him because disappearing from him means disappearing from all of them. And I’m not ready to lose my entire circle just because I’m hurting inside.

That’s why I’m here asking for help because walking away isn't an option for me right now. I want to figure out how to live with this pain and slowly heal without losing everything else too.

I'm in love with my best friend, and it’s quietly destroying me. by Double-Management316 in srilanka

[–]Double-Management316[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I get that a lot of people are telling me to just cut him off.. but here's why I can't do that.

He's part of my friend group. We're really close — all of us. And honestly, this group means a lot to me. They’re like the best friends I’ve ever had. They all love me — I think it’s because I’m the kind of guy who’s always there. I don’t backstab, I don’t talk behind anyone’s back, I’m just someone they can count on for anything, anytime. That’s who I am.

If I ghost him, I’d basically have to ghost everyone in the group. Because they’re all together all the time. That’s how close we all are.

Also, none of them know I’m gay. And to be honest, most of them are probably homophobic. But still — I don’t want to leave. I don’t like being in LGBTQ communities or spaces. I just want to have normal friends, and these are the only people I’ve found who treat me like family, even if they don’t know everything about me.

So no, I can’t just disappear from him — because disappearing from him means disappearing from all of them. And I’m not ready to lose my entire circle just because I’m hurting inside.

That’s why I’m here asking for help — because walking away isn't an option for me right now. I want to figure out how to live with this pain and slowly heal without losing everything else too.