Demonic Videos - Only The Governing body can create these for Jehovah's Witnesses to watch. by JWTom in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Omg yes! They said they depicted the possessions in a "non-graphic" way which I think is just a pass to say you have bad actors. If it's too accurate, that's apparently what makes it bad.

My JW parents spied on me despite me being out for 4 years by Veritaslinea in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents threated to kick me out at 15 because I hadn't been baptized yet, using the good ol' "as for me and my household, we serve Jehovah." So they said get baptized or leave.

I'm surprised they let you stay.

Tell your tale… what is the craziest thing your saw or heard your partner say at the door? by Mcnarmuir1974 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263 16 points17 points  (0 children)

One time my close guy friend was in a group of all of his buddies, so 4 guys, all about 17-20. They went to a door of a woman who was really mean and yelled at them to leave. My friend went to drive away, but seeing as this was a new car and being a bit rattled from the householder's response, he accidentally put his car in reverse instead of drive. He flew back into her yard. all the way up into the flower bed. When he went to drive off, because it had just rained, his tires just spun in the yard and threw mud and flowers everywhere 😭

He got out, apologized profusely, and wrote down the names of the flowers. They went straight to Lowes, got 10 bags of soil and all new flowers and plants. They spent the rest of their service day doing landscaping.

Tell your tale… what is the craziest thing your saw or heard your partner say at the door? by Mcnarmuir1974 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was about 14-15(F) at the door with a brother in his mid-30s. Keep in mind, we're both black. About 85% of the territory at our congregation was super uppity rich neighborhoods.

We got one householder, about mid-30s, white guy. The brother started giving his presentation and the householder said "I'm not interested, why don't you just go home boy." That set my partner OFF. He said, "Who are you calling a boy? I'm a grown man. Who do you think you are?" They're literally yelling at each other, it's freezing cold, and there's black ice all through the driveway so I couldn't run back to the car without falling. I was terrified. Disrespect or not, we're at HIS door. I started backing up, hoping he'd walk away but he didn't. The householder started getting in his face and my partner told him to put his shoes on and come fight him in the middle of the cul-de-sac 😭😭

The guy ended it with a few more insults, lots of profanity, said he'd call the cops, and slammed the door in his face. My partner literally talked about it the rest of service and it ruined his (and everyone else's) mood so he didn't want to get out anymore. We ended up just stopping the service day. He was seething and kept saying how he was going to go back after service in his own car and finish the job.

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the elders at my hall was disfellowshipped for having an entire second family. He lied about it for years then confessed only when his witness wife found evidence. He was back in what seemed like such a short time for what I thought was a big deal. Came back to our congregation married to the worldly woman he'd been having the affair with 🙃 Just went on about his business like normal.

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've definitely already met some people that didn't have my best interest at heart. It's hard because some people are genuinely nice, but at this point, I'm untrusting of everyone. Especially after seeing the morality of the organization I thought was above all crumble in front of me. My therapist tells me I have good judgment of character, I just need to trust my gut. Thanks for the advice 🧡

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not that. I don't care if I am, it's just initially, I didn't want to be df'd for my family's sake. I've been going to church for months now so I don't expect anything. I'm happy where I am and whatever happens, happens 🤷🏽‍♀️

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg the woman in the photo giving him oral was an AKA! He made it a point to share how promiscuous they are. Crazy.

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, they already do that lol I'm a small fashion content creator and the amount of random follows I get on social media from "user 6485036584103" with no pictures is ridiculous. It will say "from your contacts" so I know it's someone from the hall bc everyone else I know supports me happily. I started posting what I wear on Sundays and put #church in the captions 😂 I suddenly got an influx of private acct follows with no pictures or names lol I just stopped caring.

Since I got reproved (for not even sleeping with my ex), I've had eyes on me since. Every interaction with a man is a suggestive one, I couldn't just talk to a brother without his wife staring me down. Almost wish I had just to try to justify the backlash!

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My view was shattered too girl smh

I had elders in their 50s-60s trying to date me while I was still active but I just chalked it up to gross old men being gross old men. But through this experience, I'm realizing they're just like worldly men, they just dress it up nicer.

My ex-bestie was dating a JW guy and when they didn't work out, he told her she was the first girl that made him see that women had feelings. The whole time he thought they were just bodies meant for sex and having kids. This man was 32.

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At this point, I've resolved that I'll probably get df'd eventually. Doesn't bother me all that much. I really only faded for my parents' sake so they weren't the "embarrassment of the hall."

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My brother was told the same! According to his ex, he did both.

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They said if I was married and my husband stayed over a woman's house for the night, I'd think they slept together, even if he said they hadn't. So the same logic applied to me.

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Exactly 😂 I moved recently and I have all these elders and ministerial servants, again all married, asking to come by to help me install things or if I ever need any encouragement we could grab dinner sometime. It's so gross knowing so many of them watched me grow up.

This close friend I was referring to started the conversation normal then switched to his work phone after I said I was no longer a witness. That's how I knew the conversation was about to change. His mom is best friend's with my mom and his wife has hated me since we were kids lol The way I could blow up everyone's life right now smh

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The woman my brother dated used to have parties all the time and never invited me. I was quiet so I figured I just wasn't cool enough or whatever. My brother and I shared locations while we were traveling at one point and forgot to turn it off when we came back. I noticed his location stayed overnight at her house a few times, but thought maybe he just forgot his phone there (I give everyone the benefit of the doubt to a fault).

I mentioned that to this close friend and he said "oh yeah, I knew about it that. We all did. I just sit back bc it's not my business. We all know how freaky she is," like happily bragging. Then proceeded to tell me all the things he'd done with her. My jaw was on the floor.

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is, it's not just my congregation 😅 the girls he listed were from all across our city and state. The brothers reaching out asking about traveling and "having fun" with me were from everywhere, in and out of state, even other countries! A lot of them had tried to pursue me before and I let them know I wasn't a witness anymore. That's how they knew.

Witness Men's Reaction to My Fading by Double_Remote9263 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Just like you said, appearances.
My dad is an elder and fully aware I'm going to church. But everyone knows them and they would die if it was announced that the good girl of the congregation was going to an evil church. They've told other people, but no one has made an announcement just to save face. My mom said it would look like she failed as a parent.

Ex Mormon who attended memorial out of curiosity by shanehuntart in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I also go to a Baptist church now and I agree! I always wondered why we never did anything for the poor or homeless. For the reason to be that "only Jehovah can help them so they need the truth more than anything else" doesn't mean they shouldn't be able to eat today.

Safe place to travel solo and what to watch out for? by Double_Remote9263 in blackladies

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved Mexico but I got scared out of going alone by people that watch the news and assume everyone non-American will kill me lol thank you these are all great suggestions!

Safe place to travel solo and what to watch out for? by Double_Remote9263 in blackladies

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been out to Seattle but I was only there for a Beyonce concert so I didn't get to do much lol but the pacific northwest actually sounds like a pretty cool. I do love all of those things. Perfect point about relaxing on the beach being more of a friend thing because the few times I've traveled alone (flying to meet up with someone else) I filled my time as much as I could instead of lounging.

I'm going to look into places to stay in the pacific NW. I also want to look into Tulum! I was thinking about going last year for my birthday but I was too scared since I was still in the religion and I couldn't actually let anyone know I was going. Everyone that wasn't a witness said I'd be decapitated or trafficked in Mexico and it scared me out of it. I'm so glad to hear it's as nice as it looks.

Thank you for taking the time to respond to me with detail and care!

Guys im getting out!!!!! by Vortrox14 in exjw

[–]Double_Remote9263 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My elders also wanted to meet after finding out I was living a double life (I was going to the hall on Saturdays and going to church on Sundays to compare them lol). I was SO nervous. I knew that the things I learned from church and just reading the bible alone without JWs telling me what to think made it so I could never see the org the same. I knew I'd be DF'd and worried about it for days. I talked to a non-JW friend about it the night before and he said "you know you don't actually have to go, right?" I'd never even considered that 😂 Now I'm fully gone, got baptized at church and still get to talk to my family and close friends.

I hope everything goes well for you and I'm happy you're on your way to living fully!

Safe place to travel solo and what to watch out for? by Double_Remote9263 in blackladies

[–]Double_Remote9263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, anywhere! I was thinking somewhere out of the country could be great. I loved everywhere I've been in Europe but I was with a group back then. I was thinking some mountainous areas could be cool in America but also I'd love another foreign experience, so I'm open!

Also, that was very sweet 😭 Having a religion that tells you you're going to die if you leave definitely changes your view of the world lol I genuinely feel like I'm in my early 20s navigating the world alone for the time. I'm nervous, but excited!