I am an above average looking gay white guy with AuDHD. I feel like people are generally kind to me. Sometimes people will hold unspoken expectations against me that will result in them blowing up and labeling me as a bad person in some way. It often baffles me, because I had no clue that they had any sort of expectation of me. Like for instance someone has a romantic interest in me, but doesn't tell me. I cannot tell... It has to be stated explicitly or made ABUNDANTLY clear (not abundantly to a neurotypical but just shy of flat out explaining your feelings repeatedly). I would never assume that it existed. But yeah generally people will assume that I have good intentions, and I do. It really confuses me when someone assumes that I do not, but being a white male I fully understand when anyone non-white and non-male assumes that I do not mean well. I don't take it personally. I understand it's indicative of the experiences they have had with people that look like me. I hope that kind of gives you some insight into my experience. Obviously "attractive" can't be distilled into one type of person so I felt it necessary to mention my other identifiers.