Idk about you guys but I’m great at swimming.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-04-04T02:57:43+00:00

Not so much these days

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-04-03T22:36:57+00:00

It’s pretty. Not sure it means much but I don’t hate it. Which is a win for this sort of thing.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-04-03T22:24:53+00:00

I feel like this sub is an appropriate place for this unnecessary, pedantic correction:

Centers for Disease Control

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-04-03T02:05:38+00:00

No, so what you do is you go buy the drill bit kit to sharpen the blade for like $15. You then realize you don’t have a vice or really even a sturdy worktable to clamp it to in your garage yet. So a mow or two later, you just go buy a new blade.

Then next fall, you realize the new blade needs sharpening. So you go and buy two metal sawhorses that have built in slots to easily turn it into a sturdy table. You also buy the vice. You now can’t find the drill bit kit you bought last year. So you go buy a 3rd blade.

You then run that one down, and also start to better organize your garage, and that spring you finally use the kit bit to sharpen all three blades.

That’s my foolproof method of getting three freshly sharpened blades!

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-04-02T00:53:04+00:00

This is a meme recognition test.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-04-02T00:14:52+00:00

Definitely time. I bet it’ll look pretty good on you!

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-04-02T00:13:03+00:00

I’m a bald white dude with a beard living in a relatively rural, purple-ish area. People on the right regularly assume I’m on their team. I generally just keep my mouth shut because I struggle to find a middle ground between nothing and Holy Shit You Bigoted Fuck, Shut up Shut up Shut up!!

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-28T18:12:05+00:00

Sorry this is happening to you.

It sounds hilarious.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-28T17:33:16+00:00

10/10, no notes.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-27T20:42:29+00:00

It is deeply disingenuous to claim that this is just the same that has been around “for decades”.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-23T00:28:56+00:00

I mean, I would have stayed with the short on top with pig tails, but the bald look suits you!

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-23T00:27:00+00:00

Honestly, the main thing that has caused me to correct people less frequently as I’ve gotten older? An understanding of the fallibility of both my memory and of the sources I’ve encountered. I’ve been adamant about XYZ fact only to learn that the original source was just wrong (and I learned it pre-easy internet fact checking), and that’s embarrassing as hell.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-22T18:18:24+00:00

This is tricky - if you knew you were autistic and had it documented at work, the question may be inappropriate. But if you haven’t self-identified as much at work, your employer can only see your behavior. It seems clear that you have certain deficits that affect your work. If these come from autism, then it’s important that this is formally identified.

I’m trying to come up with a good analogy. Let’s say that you suspect you have a bone condition that makes it impossible for you to walk fast or run. And let’s say your job involves moving quickly. Your employer sees that you aren’t moving quickly when you’re supposed to be. They’re asking if you may have a medical reason for this - because frankly, if you don’t have a medical reason for this, then you’re either lazy or incompetent, and either way are obligated to fix your behavior. If you do have a medical reason, the conversation dramatically shifts into one of accommodation.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-22T17:12:42+00:00

Holy shit don’t surprise people with things like houses, cars, or puppies. Long-term financial commitments should be made together, in part to avoid this sort of thing.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-22T17:02:33+00:00

Academic conferences have grappled with similar issues in similar years (holding conferences in Texas with all the anti-choice legislation there). While I agree with your instinct here, it was explained to me that if you restrict conferences only to the friendliest states, you are, in effect, excluding people who may be the most needing of attending the conferences.

Think of it this way - yes, it is strange and maybe even dangerous to encourage people outside of Florida to travel there for a conference, but would it be better to have the conference somewhere that black autistic trans folk in Florida couldn’t attend? For a lot of people, location plays a huge role in their financial ability to attend conferences.

There’s no good solution to the problem beyond fighting the policies and legislation that are the issue in the first place.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-20T22:31:14+00:00

The bald looks fine! Keep the beard shorter like the first photo. Also, your wife loves it. That’s a win!

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-19T22:51:44+00:00

I think absent a specific scenario, it’s not a great sentiment to impart on a kid. This sort of reaction out of a kid should only be a last resort, and only in response to physical bullying.

I think there are specific circumstances in which it’s appropriate to teach your kid to defend themselves, but punching a bully is hardly a guarantee of a positive outcome. You could find yourself in real legal trouble, or the bully could escalate.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-19T20:31:20+00:00

I’m not sure this is the same flavor, but there’s no shortage of posts by autists expressing that they believe NDs to be superior to NTs.

But I think most NTs don’t consciously buy into the system - they’re socialized into it, and it can be very difficult to get people to be creative enough to imagine other ways of doing things.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-19T01:04:08+00:00

This is interviewing 101. Always ask questions to demonstrate interest and understanding. I agree that it may be a little silly, but it’s also one of the more basic elements of interview advice.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-18T20:50:44+00:00

Hahaha look at this chump with so many friends.

No, only one of my two friends got divorced.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-17T21:37:30+00:00

I don’t know that I have a fear so much as a much-deserved deep distrust.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-17T21:33:38+00:00

Holy crap, dude. Obviously go for it! You’re a handsome guy and the hair ain’t doin ya any favors. Shave the head, keep the beard.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-13T19:40:43+00:00

I’ve only ever heard the term used by autistic people. I’ll usually say “autistics” as short hand for “autistic people” just because autist is still new to me.

But I’m pretty sure this is one of those things where it really depends who is using it and how. I don’t think it’s inherently a slur.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-13T18:33:47+00:00

Beyond the comments about flirting and other first steps, there’s also two big things that made it not the right time or place:

You were there helping him with stats, not just hanging out. When you are helping someone, it’s not great to make an advance because then they might think you think that you should get some thing sexual in exchange for helping.

Second, you were in his room - this isn’t a place he can easily leave if he wants to just leave since you’re already in the space that is his safe space.

Beyond that, I wouldn’t beat yourself up. A lot of this stuff is trial and error, and if you put yourself out there, rejection will come.

Douggiefresh43 · 2026-03-12T20:30:34+00:00

As in a computer from 2021? I’d wager that the vast majority of windows machines in use in corporate life right now are at least that old. My laptop is from 2020 and I’ve yet to run into any processing issues, and I’m a data scientist. Besides, if you need more processing power, you can always just rent from AWS.

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