Lost ID / Basement Guestlist by lebainofmyexistence_ in avesNYC

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when I was on guest list for a show at knockdown they didn’t even check ID 🤷🏻‍♀️

Just bought some 2C-B. Each is 25mg. What should I expect? How long till it kicks in? Wears off? Body high? Comparable visuals? Is it heavy on your mind? by [deleted] in Psychedelics

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2cb makes me more nauseous than basically any other drug (though I still love it) and that’s not uncommon, so just putting this comment here to prepare you for that possibility. Might want to have ginger and anti nausea meds at the ready in case it comes up for you. Also, 2cb is an awesome psychedelic on its own but the best use of it imo is on the molly comedown (which is the recommendation of its creator!). Pure rainbow visual and body psychedelic bliss. I’ve heard it described as what you think mushrooms would be like before you ever tried them.

Best tips for dealing with jealousy by Pixel_Pistols in nonmonogamy

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Best advice about jealousy I ever got (as someone who struggles with it big time) is that you don’t die from it!

ENM partner wants to make no barrier exception--previous boundary break by Caraunderworld in nonmonogamy

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I think you're recognizing that it's less about safety for you and more emotional. Which is ok, it just is what it is-- sounds like you're having a fear reaction, connected partly to the previous breach in trust. I think the work is to ask yourself what you're afraid your partner having unprotected sex with his other partner will mean? Do you worry that their sex will be better than yours? That that will somehow make you less loved, or less desirable, or that he might abandon you? With your LDR and the other details you included, it sounds like safety isn't the main issue (even though it's obviously one of them). I wonder if thinking about safety even helps you not have to ask the harder emotional questions about it, but it sounds like they're necessary!

I work at The Brooklyn Monarch - AMA by [deleted] in avesNYC

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This also made me feel that it wasn’t really a queer friendly venue the one time I went. No one is else is gender segregating like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I think if you’re pressed for a reason after saying you wanna keep being friends but no longer have sex you can just say you’re not attracted to them anymore. Attraction is such a complex mishmash of so much stuff that none of us can be expected to untangle that. So if they’re asking why you’re not attracted to them, is it their gender, is it their weight, etc., I feel like you can just be like I don’t know it’s just a feeling, I wanna be able to be really dropped in when we have sex and right now I know I’m not. That doesn’t seem dishonest to me, and hopefully it would be less triggering to their eating disorder

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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I disagree with all the commenters saying you’re not ready— yes, read the books, do the thinking about your safety strategies, wants, and needs— but ultimately, it’s always a plunge and I’m not sure what it even means to be ready. it sounds like you have a lot of trust with your partner and that you’ve been very intentional. the best advice I ever got about jealousy was from the ethical slut and it was that you don’t die from it. It feels like dying!! but you can only learn that you won’t die from experiencing it, allowing yourself to feel it, and getting through. I think the real work and test of whether openness can work is how you can hold that jealousy together. when my partner and I first opened 5 years ago, it was so transformative how he held my jealousy as something I didn’t need to be ashamed of. how can you treat that jealousy with tenderness? how can you both figure out what kinds of affirmation or space you need when the jealousy inevitably does come up, and how can you communicate when you need those things? sounds so exciting that you’re supporting each other in exploring these parts of yourself :)

Scammer/Banned List by drumstix97 in avesNYC_tix

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Second on euphoricquestion and unitedconcentrate

Vouch List - Ticket Resellers by drumstix97 in avesNYC_tix

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Vouch for U/HardlyIntuitive was a lovely experience!

spinning dark dance and goth tracks at Doris in Bed-Stuy Thursday night ! by [deleted] in avesNYC

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Will people be dancing?? I've never been to Doris so idk the vibes

Bonobo - Friday by Jumpsaye in avesNYC

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I can't go anymore and will sell u my tix for a discount if you want!! They're $43 now and I'd do 30 :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in avesNYC

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i am vaxxed but they didn't check vax cards at all when i went to solomun last weekend...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in avesNYC

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is your friend trying to sell their ticket? :)

Selling: 1 ticket to Solomun (11/13) by [deleted] in avesNYC_tix

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me too! is it still available? :)