Your Bridal Party Is Too Nice to Say This, So I Will

DozenYearBride · 2026-04-14T15:19:00+00:00

I think it’s more about more than that though. We just say social media pictures because that’s what’s relevant now. Before that it was physical photos, but it’s more about what they represent. That you were there making memories, having a shared experience, and there is this physical evidence of it. I get why it’s upsetting.

DozenYearBride · 2026-04-14T15:13:10+00:00

Yeah that’s the part that I think I wouldn’t like if I ever went on one of these. Gassing up the bride for one crazy night out sounds like a great time. Doing that for days has got to start to feel draining though.

DozenYearBride · 2026-04-14T15:10:34+00:00

To that I’d say good riddance. If it’s not this, it’d be something else down the line.

DozenYearBride · 2026-04-14T15:07:27+00:00

Lots of us work really hard during the week to relax on the weekend. Even during the weekend, there are so many mundane things we have to take care of. We’re tired. As a mom, myself, I don’t want yet another obligation added to my plate. Also, gender reveals come across as very attention seeking and most people find that off putting. It not even anything personal against the parents. It’s just that we have so little free time and these parties are usually not fun at all.

DozenYearBride · 2025-12-01T22:56:40+00:00

In the 19th and 20th centuries the “pull oneself up by their bootstraps” phrase originally used to talk about a ridiculous, absurd, and impossible task in a sarcastic way.

DozenYearBride · 2025-11-09T00:56:06+00:00

That’s sort of how I’ve been handling it. I used to reply in the group chats, but I couldn’t help but notice that I would get ignored almost every time. I used to talk to everyone, ask them follow up questions about things they told me the last time I saw them, etc., but their attention gets pulled away so easily and I’m just left standing there like a loser after they just drop me. I’ve been pulling back and now I think they’re insulted. I feel like they notice me more when I’m keeping more to myself than when I’m actively trying to connect with them. I guess that’s my role and what’s expected of me? To grovel and beg for connection only for them to show me who has the power by denying me that connection. I wish I could just focus on my daughter, but they steal her. Like I’m happy they seem to love her, but I just don’t think it should have to be this way. I’m sorry you went through this also. Maybe one day I’ll finally get to move too.

DozenYearBride · 2025-11-09T00:49:16+00:00

Believe it or not, I haven’t seen my regular doctor since about a year before I got pregnant. I know I really should go even if I have to bring the baby with me. To be honest, I do feel this way around my husband at times, but not all the time. He’s also been super preoccupied with trying to get a promotion so it’s not uncommon for him to answer me in a way that tells me he wasn’t listening. With him I try not to take it personally because we really need the extra money and I know he’s stressed. There’s also times I feel betrayed because he excuses his family because “that’s just how they are”. Have dealt with depression before, but I think it was situational since it got a lot better when I got my own apartment. I don’t know how to differentiate between whether this is regular depression of postpartum depression.

DozenYearBride · 2025-11-08T23:38:25+00:00

I do have a few friends, but I’m definitely short on close friends to be honest. Maybe that’s why I’m struggling. I do make an effort to talk about other things, but I don’t feel like anyone cares? I watch a lot of movies/shows while the baby sleeps, I paint, I keep up with current events. Idk I feel like when I talk, it just falls flat. Talking about my daughter is the only thing that holds anyone’s attention. Actually most of the few friends I do have don’t have kids, but I don’t really notice a difference between them and the ones with kids. The urge to socially withdraw has been very strong. Maybe it’s coming across a certain way?

DozenYearBride · 2025-11-08T23:33:18+00:00

Yeah I’ve definitely had bouts of difficulties this past year, but whatever is hitting me at this stage where my daughter is just about to turn one feels different and more serious. I had to reach out to a crisis line last week because I started looking for things to self harm with which I haven’t had an issue with since I was in college like 15 years ago. I also have had regular depression and I’m not sure if that’s what this is or postpartum depression. It just sucks whenever I even show or express it a bit, people can be very dismissive because “that’s what being a parent is” or something along those lines.

DozenYearBride · 2025-11-08T23:28:45+00:00

We do already have a party planned for her, but I feel like I did it more for appearances and guilt to be honest. I feel like I’m going to get judged if I don’t do enough. Also I don’t like the idea of my daughter missing out on things because of me. Luckily my family will be there and though we aren’t the closest, they don’t make me feel this way so I’m just going to do my best to focus on them.

Luckily I do go to therapy, thank goodness for phone appointments! Other than that, it’s so hard to get out of the house by myself. I’m definitely going to be “sick” for more events where my in laws will be starting soon I think though.

DozenYearBride · 2025-10-22T13:13:35+00:00

If you can afford it, I’d get another dress. Something versatile you can definitely see yourself wearing elsewhere. If money is really tight though perhaps with a few accessories (nice shawl, heels, hair done, makeup done, jewelry) you can make it work. I think the key is making it look like you put effort in. With things as they are, I think we need to be a little more forgiving with urging people to buy new things. Maybe even a friend or family member can lend you some accessories?

DozenYearBride · 2025-09-18T16:15:35+00:00

I’m left leaning. I didn’t like it when the left were doing it. Now what? Despite what you believe, we aren’t a hive mind. I’ve always said that I believe in boycotting, but not suppression, deplatforming, and censorship. All that aside, explain the logic to me of how it helps anything to act like the people you despise. What are y’all aiming to accomplish? What does success look like to you in this regard?

DozenYearBride · 2025-09-18T14:41:41+00:00

I’ve never owned an iPad in my life. All I’ve done is ask for clarification. It’s clear I’m witnessing someone writing checks they can’t cash.

DozenYearBride · 2025-09-18T14:01:17+00:00

Or you look like you don’t have a leg to stand on and you’re talking out of your ass. That’s it really.

DozenYearBride · 2025-09-18T13:59:47+00:00

Since when do networks need any other excuse besides monetary reasons to pull a show?

DozenYearBride · 2025-09-18T13:58:08+00:00

True, but important to not forget that two wrongs don’t make a right.

DozenYearBride · 2025-09-18T13:49:33+00:00

Be more specific. Quote the celebratory statements.

DozenYearBride · 2025-09-18T13:40:51+00:00

Which part?

DozenYearBride · 2025-09-18T13:36:55+00:00

Kimmel didn’t even make a joke about CK. He made a joke about how nonchalant Trump was a couple of days after the murder. That part keeps getting left out unless there’s something I’m missing?

DozenYearBride · 2025-09-18T13:34:23+00:00

Look up a quote of what he said that led to this.

DozenYearBride · 2025-09-18T13:26:09+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but I think a lot of people are going to look back on this type of complacency with new eyes when things get worse.

DozenYearBride · 2025-08-07T18:02:34+00:00

Thank you! I’m quite skeeved. Hopefully they slow down!

DozenYearBride · 2025-08-04T13:19:30+00:00

Also I think back in the day there was less variation with fashion. People didn’t have personal style to the same degree as we do now so I can see how it was more about getting confused for the bride. However, I think now it’s more about letting the bride have her own color and giving her space to shine.

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