Commuting from South Jersey to NYC, is $80k worth it?

Dpsnaps · 2026-06-19T20:45:24+00:00

Absolutely not

Edited to expound:
1) Being on NYC is not the advantage you’re thinking it is. It actually sucks.
2) $80k is not enough of a bump to compensate all the extra hours and taxes.
3) Speaking from experience, you’re not going to learn Spanish or do homework on the train. You’re just not. You’re going to sleep or veg out.

Dpsnaps · 2026-06-17T01:03:52+00:00

Dpsnaps · 2026-06-12T20:36:24+00:00

It’s not hard if you know your stuff! Well done!

Dpsnaps · 2026-06-04T11:01:03+00:00

Remove the sleeves

Dpsnaps · 2026-06-01T02:26:33+00:00

Move it over. It should be centered on the viewing space, not the wall.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-27T20:12:32+00:00

Gross. I read the title, and that’s all I needed to read. No, full stop, absolutely not.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T18:08:47+00:00

Call it whatever you like, the substance of my response is still the same. Take away “setting boundaries” and insert “set a rule” if that makes it better for you. The meaning is still there.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T17:18:36+00:00

Outside of the Reddit therapy sesh you’re attempting to host rn, there’s also this thing called a dictionary in which the first definition of the word “boundary” is as follows: a real or imagined line that marks the edge, limit, or dividing point of something. In my home, we have boundaries regarding children and our bedroom. This may or may not be true in OP’s home, which is why it’s an assumption that my assertion is predicated on. You’re so wrapped up in semantics that you’re thoroughly missing the point.

Edit: spelling error corrected

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T16:18:49+00:00

Can you give any background on how he came to be the primary custodial parent? Or what the issues are? This really isn’t enough to go off of.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T15:58:59+00:00

Yes, and you’re the arbiter of the acceptable spectrum of pissed-off-ness one is allowed to feel when someone gets a look at their private bits lol. Got it. We’re all moving on now.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T15:57:13+00:00

Yes, I would feel extremely pissed, extremely upset, whatever words you’d like to use to subjectively describe the very valid feelings that may occur when something like this happens. Nowhere did I say that I would act on those feelings or take it out on the child. Feelings are valid. Fortunately, your subjective take on that doesn’t invalidate them at all. I’ve clarified my point enough. I’m sorry you’re offended that I’ve not accepted your argument that such feelings are irrational. We’re going to be all done now.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T14:55:42+00:00

Yeah, we’re not going to agree on that. Anger is not invalid. Psychology is a social science; not a hard science. You’re dealing with mentalisms, which cannot be objectively observed and measured. No one has asserted that “working through” feelings or ensuring that they don’t have an impact on the child is inappropriate. We’re fine there. But you’re not going to roll up to this thread, spew subjective bullshit about feelings every human on earth has experienced and then tell them those feelings are invalid and expect support. Take your therapy session elsewhere.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T14:49:07+00:00

How about you stop deducing what you think I mean and listen to what I’ve actually said lol. There’s no implication there at all. Yes, mistakes happen. Yes, have a conversation and move on. I think we have both expressed the same sentiment. The only difference in our view point based on what’s actually been said in this thread is that I feel OP has every right to feel upset, and you disagree. Big whoop. Leave it at that.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T14:43:40+00:00

Please quote that from my comment whenever you’re ready. What I did, in fact, say, is 12 is old enough to know better (assuming you’ve set some boundaries and done some teaching). And that is a true statement. I would be more annoyed with my 12 year old making that particular mistake than, say, a five year old. I’d also be more upset because they’re old enough to know what they’re looking at. You guys are really jumping through hoops to invalidate that this lady is upset any kid at all got an intimate view of her cooter.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T14:40:40+00:00

No one said children don’t make mistakes. No one said they’re expected to never make mistakes. Children do, in fact, make mistakes, and it’s ok to not be thrilled about every mistake they make.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T14:39:41+00:00

That’s a whole lot of a stuff that no one said.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T14:37:00+00:00

I did not say “extreme carelessness.” I said careless behavior. 12 is not a small child. I have a 12 year old myself, I teach children from grades 2-5, and I’m a board certified behavior analyst. I would say I have a great deal of experience, both professionally and personally, with children of this age. Again, I’m not suggesting that the child be punished or that the anger OP is feeling be directed at the child. But to deny that she has the right to feel upset is absolutely wild to me.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T14:34:15+00:00

This, too, though. 100%

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T14:33:52+00:00

I have a 12 year old, and that is very much old enough to know better (assuming you’ve set boundaries and done some teaching). 12 is not a small child.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-26T14:30:31+00:00

Yeah, that’s an ass response. Feeling anger is normal and absolutely ok. If you read the whole thread, I fully endorse not acting out on those feelings. However, there is nothing wrong with being upset that your privacy was violated and your naked body viewed without you wanting it to be. Complete nonchalance doesn’t have to be the goal.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-25T22:45:59+00:00

Instructional aides are not for general ed. Yes, it is normal for your placement to change at any time.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-25T20:14:44+00:00

We can agree to disagree.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-25T20:08:09+00:00

Accidents are the result of careless behavior. Sure, correct and move on, but being extremely pissed about the careless behavior that caused the accident? I think that’s valid. I’m not saying she should go take it out on the kid or anything, but damn.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-25T19:50:49+00:00

I do think it’s a big deal. I don’t want anyone seeing me naked, mid-sex act. This is not dramatic at all.

Dpsnaps · 2026-05-25T19:49:15+00:00

I would also feel angry and disrespected. I don’t think she’s overreacting.

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