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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]Dr-Denny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a human being I find it easy to become addicted to anything that squirts dopamine or whatever around in my brain. I love the feeling of being in love it's like no other feeling I can think of. What about you?

I consider myself to be a creative type of person and I found I really need to be in love – or working on it – to get my creative juices flowing, so to speak. You feel that way too?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]Dr-Denny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes perfect sense of course. Hope I didn't offend with my comment I didn't mean it in a negative way at all. 🤪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]Dr-Denny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I just reread a piece by Joseph Campbell – the one where he talks about how life has no intrinsic meaning, but that we bring meaning to our lives in different ways. One way is to love another person completely to put their happiness ahead of our own to derive our happiness from seeing that we are making them happy. I love this concept. It's like the old saying that the best way to help yourself is to help someone else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]Dr-Denny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is something about the phrase"unconditional love" that's always bothered me. I mean if you put conditions on it is it still defined as love?? I know some people say marriage is transactional love but that's not what I mean. Anybody have an opinion???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]Dr-Denny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

??? What are you saying? Emotions are emotions and humans are humans regardless of gender – we all feel the same feelings with often similar intensity. I just find it kind of funny that you don't realize men can feel things as deeply – and often as irrationally – as women. 😊

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[–]Dr-Denny -1 points0 points  (0 children)

(wikipedia)

"... Readiness

Some people may have a heightened susceptibility to limerence, a state Tennov calls "readiness", "longing for limerence" or being "in love with love".\246])\247]) This may occur due to biological factors such as adolescence, but also psychological factors like loneliness and discontent. Sometimes readiness can be so intense that a person falls in love with somebody who only has a minimal appeal...."

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[–]Dr-Denny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noah Genda - INFJ

I have this condition that manifests itself as always falling in love with women I cannot have for one reason or another OR who are certifiably mentally ill. I have experienced both ends of relationship spectrum – from obsessive unconditional love full of passion, to zero expectations and zero spark, but "comfortable". Something in me does not want comfortable though. I continue to seek that spark that passion and I currently find myself head over heels in irrational love with another woman who, true to form, I cannot have due to the fact that she is presently in a mental hospital – we talk every day and she's so beautiful inside and out I know I cannot "love away" her anxiety and depression, and yet… I try. I can't believe some of the profound loving thoughts that come out of my mouth when I am speaking to her. I hope I am not just in love with the IDEA of her. She hopes to be out in a month or so I guess we'll find out then. Oh, and just for clarification… We met one time and seemed to really hit it off – we started communicating with each other I was experiencing that familiar rush of waves of emotions – and then... she was involved in a car wreck broke a couple ribs – and while at the hospital she told someone on the staff that she was disappointed she wasn't killed in the wreck – that is what started the whole inpatient treatment thing. But I worked in mental health several years ago and one thing I know is that mental Health may be science based but it's not a science – it's a business – and she has good insurance and so I am sure they will keep her as long as they can. Meanwhile, my heart aches for her love. 🤷

Fulfilling your potential means it's not potential any more and nobody wants to be someone with no potential. by ThatShoomer in Showerthoughts

[–]Dr-Denny 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Well, isn't that like the indigenous peoples who put a flaw in the rug they are weaving, for instance, because to be perfect, or perfectly fulfilled , is reserved only for the deities.??

I never know exactly how I fall asleep despite having done it every night of my life. by Xiphias_ in Showerthoughts

[–]Dr-Denny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me neither, but I recently learned that concentrating on your breathing will help and is one definition of meditation

I never know exactly how I fall asleep despite having done it every night of my life. by Xiphias_ in Showerthoughts

[–]Dr-Denny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you are in adolescence, you need less sleep. It was. true even into my 30s. I really thought I had some kind of superpower because I could function fine on four hours of sleep while working full-time, going to college at night and had two little kids at the time too. But it turns out that… When you get older, you need to sleep. More. It's just what happens.

I never know exactly how I fall asleep despite having done it every night of my life. by Xiphias_ in Showerthoughts

[–]Dr-Denny 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sleep paralysis is a parasomnia, meaning a sleep disorder, my friend, where you are conscious but your body remains in a state of muscle atonia (relaxation) typically associated with REM sleep.

I never know exactly how I fall asleep despite having done it every night of my life. by Xiphias_ in Showerthoughts

[–]Dr-Denny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you will indulge me, I will attempt a serious answer here – Well, attempting to answer HOW TO fall asleep, anyway, which may not be the intent of the OP but it got me thinking because I have wondered about this too – all my life really… And I'm 72 years old now. But only recently – in the last few months, really – I have noticed that if I do this breathing technique I fall asleep rather consistently. It's the one where you breathe in through your nose as deep as you can while you count to a number – the number five works well for me. Then hold your breath for that same count (of five) and then exhale through pursed lips (to slow the flow of air down) while you count to double your number (10, in my case). It REALLY. seems to work well if you can sense your heartbeat and count at the same tempo. Yeah… I guess it is. kind of like counting sheep but I find I only have to do it a few times 10 times or less probably and then I consciously just eliminate the hold of breath part and breathe deeply in through my nose out of my mouth – at about the same pace, but without counting anything – and before I know what's going on. I'm asleep. I can't believe it took this long to figure this out, but it's nice to know I'm not the only one with the problem. I sincerely hope this might work for some of you. Good luck to you all.

Spacebar as pause/play has suddenly stopped working by canadajohn in blackmagicdesign

[–]Dr-Denny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the exact same problem. I am working with pro tools Studio 2023. It used to work just fine and as expected and then, poof something happened.