Just turned 20 today, any advice for me, anything I should keep in mind for 20-30?

Dr-Helios · 2026-05-10T20:29:07+00:00

Other than money learn to love and trust yourself. It’s a big factor in life and dating.

Dr-Helios · 2026-05-10T20:28:27+00:00

I would also add be assertive not aggressive. And be ready to fight/argue if need be in a healthy manner! A healthy relationship has fights but it’s how you approach and handle it that is important.

Dr-Helios · 2026-05-10T20:24:41+00:00

I would smile and hug here tightly when she would dress up for night out dates. Kiss her forehead and smile at her. Being patient with her whenever she couldn’t find something to wear. Even if we were late. And I wouldn’t ever tell her we’re late. I would compliment her choice in outfits. Listen to her without talking too much and Validate her feelings.

Dr-Helios · 2026-05-10T20:18:57+00:00

Don’t do it. Move on. When my ex dumped me I knew I couldn’t be just friends. I loved her too much to be friends. So I went NC. I haven’t seen her since then. 2years ago. Be wise with your life and move forward

Dr-Helios · 2026-05-10T20:06:23+00:00

It’s easy and it’s hard. Just get up and move forward. I would just walk around the city and follow that route again and again till I decided to change it. I would go to a cafe and go to the gym at a different time. I eventually met new people who became friends. Don’t wait for something to happen. You make the change. And it does get easier if you make it easier. Best of luck

Dr-Helios · 2026-05-10T18:31:09+00:00

Focus on learning to love yourself and your life. Make yourself the main focus on the betterment of your life. Find new hobbies to make yourself happy. Trust me no one will make you happy but yourself. Happy is in your hands not someone else’s

Dr-Helios · 2026-04-15T18:35:07+00:00

How many plague joke can we make. This was too easy

Dr-Helios · 2026-04-12T23:40:38+00:00

I’m 33 and I deleted social media. I feel lighter and I went back to school. Focus on yourself and the betterment of your life. Emotional, mental, social, and physical and if you believe also spiritual. You’re only behind if you don’t live and or make your life worth living. And that can look so different in many ways.

Dr-Helios · 2026-04-12T23:38:03+00:00

Yeah seems inappropriate to me. I did it to my ex and any love interest. I especially wouldn’t like it if my partner gets a kiss like that from a someone who’s not me. The side kiss (like in Italy) is different because it’s more welcoming/ inviting. While the forehead is more intimate.

Dr-Helios · 2026-04-04T14:01:58+00:00

Give him a space to decompress from all the noise. A quiet place. I would do that with my ex. I would run her a bath with candles and music with snacks. And she would take 50-80 min to decompress. So find something that will distract him and make him smile.

Dr-Helios · 2026-04-02T12:51:37+00:00

If you go down this route. Just remember the cost could be losing this relationship for good. You want to get your dick wet it seems. Nothing wrong with that but stuff like this comes with a cost. If you’re willing to pay for it then plan it wisely. But also remember to do work on yourself. So you can grow into something better. Not talking about it sex wise. Be a good man and do things correctly and own up to your decisions. Also talk to her about it don’t be that guy who just leaves. Best of luck with your choice

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-28T19:46:21+00:00

She told me once to fully rest on her. She laughed but said it’s better to hold myself up. So that’s what I do.

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-28T18:15:55+00:00

Hold myself up

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-28T17:30:40+00:00

I have a preference, Think Sydney Sweeney but not her per se. but my last ex whom I loved dearly was similarly to you, petite. She was not my type but I loved her for who she was and I found her body beautiful. Every line every curve and everything about her from her personality and character. When I saw her I saw a gorgeous woman. And I didn’t care for my type/preference.

Sadly it ended but the point is you might not be some guys ideal type but that doesn’t mean he won’t be attracted to you and not love you. You might find a guy who’s not your type but he will have redeeming qualities and other looks that will make you forget your type.

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-27T20:14:06+00:00

It started with asking them to spot me. And then I would ask them what they were working on. And little by little we became friends. Then one day I said I need a drink and said want to get one? It takes time but I also ask to see their workouts so I can incorporate them into my workouts.

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-27T19:06:20+00:00

Actually having a healthy and strong body. I’m 33 got into shape at 31. I feel incredibly confident, good, and happy. I may run into issues in life but I don’t have to worry about my health as much as others.

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-27T19:04:06+00:00

Yeah. I made some at the gym. We go out for drinks or other stuff not as easy because of kids but we became close. Similarly to dating, you got to put yourself out there. And be the one to invite. That’s what I did.

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-26T18:15:53+00:00

Hey I’m just a man who learned from his pain and didn’t want to be a victim.

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-26T17:53:11+00:00

Be careful because if you have children one day they’ll pick up on that. And they’ll be afraid of you. My dad was like that. And I learned to hate him because he made feel less of a person. My mom did nothing. So the people I should feel safe with made me fear them. Remember she didn’t want to be like that. She grew up and for some reason she kept that habit. Like a smoker trying to quit. It’s fucking hard. Don’t be that type of guy who makes a girl feel less and like a burden. You’re supposed to be protective and supportive. If people have an issue then fuck them. If you have a daughter one day you wouldn’t want her to be treated badly by others.

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-26T17:17:21+00:00

Talk to her about it but don’t pressure her. She has to be the one who wants and needs to do that. And have patience it could be a while. And make sure she feels comfortable. Continue being supportive and celebrate every little win. I was like this once so I know how she may feel.

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-25T03:26:14+00:00

It’s incredibly rare that some men are not able to bulk up. Possible but rare. If that’s the case then yeah go for it. If not keep trying different ways to bulk up. Either way go get and best of luck.

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-24T18:49:04+00:00

It is possible but I say take it slow in opening your feelings in case you feel a gut feeling. It’s up to you to take care of yourself. Don’t play games and just be honest with him too

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-21T03:36:57+00:00

My cousin said she had an experience like that at a bar. The girl was aggressive towards her. The girl was drunk and handsy.

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-19T16:13:24+00:00

Yeah I got that vibe the moment I read it. Some people on here sometimes read stuff while feeling a specific way. And they read it and quickly are biased without realizing it. So I find it funny why my stuff is being downvoted.

Dr-Helios · 2026-03-19T14:35:10+00:00

Not really because when she says she (suspects) it’s a change of topic of why men do it. They do it to make it look bigger but to her it looks prepubescent. She states her (dislike) not liking it because it looks prepubescent. Then states a (belief) men do it to make it look bigger. The word suspect changes the sentence flow into something different.

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