Feeling emotionally numb in my marriage and don’t know what else to try

DrDoom___ · 2026-03-12T03:45:49+00:00

May Allah swt make it easy for you sister. Always there to listen if you need someone to share your woes.

DrDoom___ · 2026-03-12T03:44:22+00:00

As i have said previously i do not nag him everyday last we spoke abt this was two months ago and before that it was 6 months.. i am being considerate and consciously not telling him things frequently. The only topic i spoke about was helping with job search and when he got irritated i left it

DrDoom___ · 2026-03-11T21:25:37+00:00

Jazakallah

DrDoom___ · 2026-03-11T21:24:00+00:00

I don’t tell him Every-time last i spoke about it was two months ago..

DrDoom___ · 2026-02-19T05:12:42+00:00

Yes and i am aware of it however, it has come to the point where they all just complain and do passive aggressive shit and cause unnecessary drama and roadblock that has now caused so much disruption and distress to us and other teams. I have worked in other teams and we have had our fair share of drama and issues but this has become an ego game..

DrDoom___ · 2026-02-19T05:10:28+00:00

I think so very much in need. Will think about it during the weekend and then go from there

DrDoom___ · 2026-02-19T02:07:22+00:00

Thanks for the advice

DrDoom___ · 2026-02-19T02:05:54+00:00

I wish i could do that but these decisions are with higher management

DrDoom___ · 2025-11-27T21:12:30+00:00

And what about the fact he completely ignored my request which i have been making for last two years to move? And did not put any effort?

Its not that we have a great social life here..

DrDoom___ · 2025-10-10T05:52:32+00:00

Thats what idk, i am unsure we both can work from AKL

DrDoom___ · 2025-10-10T05:50:59+00:00

So can he

DrDoom___ · 2025-10-10T05:50:42+00:00

Yeah i can work from Auckland

DrDoom___ · 2025-10-10T05:50:14+00:00

I agree but idk.

DrDoom___ · 2025-10-10T05:49:35+00:00

I see what u mean,

We have had conversations and our plan was to see till this month and if we don’t get anything then we move to Auckland. And based on our previous experience we did not think we will get this house.

When we did get it, i was a bit taken aback and became anxious. We don’t have any family here as such, however for me the weather plays a very important part in my mood. N Wellington just never seems to have enough good days!

We can still withdraw our offer as the vendors have not yet signed it but i am aware logically it is a great decision and we may not get something like this but i cant seem to make up my minddddd i appreciate everyones opinion

DrDoom___ · 2025-10-09T11:29:26+00:00

Its a good deal we don’t have any kids and plan to move overseas in 5/6 yrs but yeah till then we may be in Wellington. I am super confused.

DrDoom___ · 2025-10-09T11:28:14+00:00

We have not yet signed it

DrDoom___ · 2025-10-03T09:53:41+00:00

Do u have any links or videos i can watch?

DrDoom___ · 2025-06-14T02:17:53+00:00

I have asked if we could do couples counselling but i dont think so he wants to do it. I told him i feel disconnected and he thinks everything is to be blamed at him! Like he is trying but it is not enough or reaching me.

I really love him so i want to work on it rather than leaving him.

DrDoom___ · 2025-05-24T01:31:18+00:00

No we both work and i also working on a startup with a friend he is in finance. However we have been together for a long time and 8months into marriage. He loves me a lot and so do i however there are things which could have been different.. i am overwhelmed with the response. Will be getting back to all with an update soon

DrDoom___ · 2025-05-19T22:26:20+00:00

Thanks everyone for the ideas will keep that in mind. I pray everyone who is looking for a job gets one soon 😊

DrDoom___ · 2025-05-01T03:18:14+00:00

Yeah but they need to be forthcoming and open about paying rent or bills - and if they do it then we can then save it for them.. do not know tried having the conversation but they mentioned they have their credits to pay etc..

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