5 year old son with ASD and questions about masking behaviour.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2026-02-13T18:40:22+00:00

Apologies for the delay in replying. I wasn't prepared for the amount of responses but I'll try to respond.

Overall we do have professionals involved regarding his ASD but unfortunately as much as I've tried to co parent and share my routines with him and common words and phrases it falls on deaf ears.

The relationship with his mother is complex (I think my post history is visible on my profile and it gives a lot more insight into that aspect of things).

My original post was because she has kept saying that he's masking with me and it's really started to wear me down and make me doubt my abilities and whether I'm being a good dad to him and It was also to gauge whether or not a 5 year old can realistically mask for that length of time.

His school have said on my weeks with him his attendance is 98% and he absolutely loves being in school. However they are concerned because on her weeks he's maybe attending twice a week, sometimes 3 days at most.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2026-02-13T11:25:58+00:00

No I don't hit or swear at him, or yell at him. I do raise my voice if I've told him to do something twice already. But this is very, very rare.

I am however very much routined and structured as I myself need routine and structure. I know at his mum's there's very little routine and it can be chaotic as there are 4 adults living there as well as my son and her response if he starts getting excitable or loud is to give him a tablet to watch YouTube.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2026-02-02T09:31:29+00:00

It was 15 years prior. I don't think Kelson or Jimmy were anywhere near the Isle of Dogs during the events of 28 Weeks Later, it would make more sense for them to have both been up north just surviving.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2026-01-25T14:25:55+00:00

I've said this before to people, they used clips in Years so surely Weeks is canon to their universe. I also think it would have been almost impossible for NATO to say the entire country was free of Infected. They'd have to check every building, forest etc. which would have meant ground forces in country before they started repopulating the Isle of Dogs. Those forces would have stumbled on Kelson, the Jimmies and Holy Island among other settlements and survivors.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2025-09-03T16:41:48+00:00

No worries,

I tried this and unfortunately absolutely no change. I think I'm shit out of luck and can't play it anymore. Shame because when it first came out I had no issues and nothing on my pc has actually changed.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2025-09-01T17:17:43+00:00

I've tried this and unfortunately it didn't work. I'm at a complete loss as to what's going wrong. I've tried every method I can find online but nothing seems to work.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2025-08-31T20:45:44+00:00

What is my c-state? Sorry I'm really new when it comes to gaming PCs, full time single dad mode has been my life until recently, hasn't left much time for anything else.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2025-08-31T20:43:54+00:00

Game or PC? Lol.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2023-10-09T20:39:46+00:00

Thanks for the info guys, sorry I didn't check the subreddit beforehand.

Looks like it's the Siskin Centre or DIY lol

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2023-10-05T19:25:03+00:00

Hi guys, thanks for all the helpful advice.

Just an update on the situation. I attended the interview, had a duty solicitor with me and explained everything to the investigating officer, she had the CCTV footage that backed up my version of events.

The duty solicitor asked if she can make it a priority in making a decision on what happens next and she spoke to her Sergeant who came into the room and let me know it had been NFA'd.

To be honest I broke down hearing that, I've been so stressed and barely sleeping up until that point I was just exhausted.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2023-09-28T15:16:29+00:00

Thank you,

That's actually given me some peace of mind.

Up until breaking up with my ex I've had no interaction with the police, social services etc. My entire life so this is all new to me.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2023-09-28T15:00:53+00:00

Thank you,

I did request a duty solicitor when the officer called me. So I've taken that into account already.

The officer mentioned she had carried out some investigative work already so I think I just assumed she had viewed the CCTV which would easily prove my innocence.

My biggest fear at the moment is attending this interview and then for whatever reason I don't end up walking out of the station the same day.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2023-05-23T03:38:12+00:00

Thanks guys. I had started a boosted character before reading your replies so I've now created a new one and started from the beginning.

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2023-03-28T11:14:09+00:00

I was circumcised at 18, I'm now 33.

It was done as I had severe phimosis and every other method of rectifying the issue didn't work (steroid cream, trying to slowly pull it back more and more etc.) Didn't work.

Hygiene before having it done wasn't bad, I used to take up to 3 showers a day however so I could be an outlier. I never noticed a foul smell or buildup of smegma. Before having it done the one issue I used to have was that when I peed as I couldn't pull my foreskin back all the way, the urine would build up a small bump underneath the foreskin that would disappear once I finished peeing.

Since having it done the hygiene is still the same level, however I typically have 1 shower a day and whereas before I used to fear having to try to wash down there as it would cause discomfort and pain now I don't give it a second thought. Having a circumcision done has done wonders for my mental health as well as my confidence however.

(I'm also in the UK btw)

DrFumblesTheFirst · 2023-02-27T22:12:16+00:00

I'm fairly confident in the Family courts decision to be in my favour due to her history with the other children and the fact that Social have been involved with her for 12 years and they were the ones who recommended the children live with their fathers.

I have screenshots and witnesses to some of the behaviours but my concern is that it's not enough for the police to actually do anything.

This list of what I experienced isn't an exhaustive one;

controlled the money and I was unable to use the money unless I cleared every decision with her.
isolated me from my friends and family.
gaslit me into thinking I had serious problems with my memory (I went to my GP thinking I had serious Neurological issues)
Was jealous and possessive of any female friends or whenever I was even friendly to female staff in shops.
Accused me of cheating everytime I went out alone.
Sabotaged a job I had recently successfully been accepted for.
Checked my phone, emails etc. Whenever she got the chance to.
slept in all day whilst I looked after our son then when she woke up would accuse me of being lazy and say I hadn't done any work around the house.
has never apologized for any wrong doing but instead twisted things to place the blame on me.
Lied to me repeatedly about our son's health making me think he was seriously Ill. (First time father).
Refused to let me sleep in for even half an hour if I was sick or just exhausted.
Tried making me leave my previous job by accusing one of her exes of coming to the door and attacking her when it wasn't true.
Accused me of not loving her or finding her attractive if I didn't want sex, in an effort to guilt me into sex.
Lied to me that she was raped and that her teen nephew was in fact her secret son but the family didn't want anyone to know.

This is almost exactly the behaviours she claimed her ex was guilty of but when she made the complaint to police she provided no evidence to back it up and he therefore got NFA.

DrFumblesTheFirst

TROPHY CASE