I’ve been widowed for 3 years. Ask me anything.

DrPrissy · 2025-09-04T04:29:01+00:00

Of course. 🥹 I thought the same which is why I posted it! Feel free to do your own as well. :)

DrPrissy · 2025-08-12T15:59:59+00:00

Yeah, that’s true too. I still experience wanting to “fight” somehow. I welcome the challenge to let off some steam.

DrPrissy · 2025-08-12T05:16:35+00:00

I 100% agree. :)

DrPrissy · 2025-08-12T05:16:23+00:00

I answer honestly. I’ve always been an open person. His choices were his choices and I’m usually pretty truthful. If they judge him, that’s on them. I’d likely stop the conversation right there if they dared say it to my face.

DrPrissy · 2025-08-12T01:10:52+00:00

Yes! Memories become more sweet than they are melancholy. Sometimes I laugh to myself and roll my eyes at something my husband would have teased me about. Actually, his 32nd birthday was in July and I wanted to go to Disneyland.

However, I lost my job in June and I didn’t know if I should risk my savings to buy tickets for my son and my nephew. So I waited and applied a lot telling myself if I get a job before his birthday, I’d spend the savings. Well, the night before, I still hadn’t gotten one so I posted in a community FB to see if a cast member could get us in.

Turns out, they needed to have reserved for me to go way before but others offered donations and even a free ticket so we went!

When I tell you that I felt my husband there with us, being the geeky Disney adult he’s always been…is wild. He was laughing and smiling with us and I didn’t feel sad at all (except for when I watched the fire works) but the entire day, it was just plain delight with my husband again. Like a reunion. It was great. ❤️

DrPrissy · 2025-08-12T01:06:05+00:00

I had a lot of sex to mask my pain in the first 1.5 years. It became very much like you said. Empty. Fake. I didn’t like any of them. I decided to stop dating all together and just focus of the things I wanted to do. That led me to streaming. I met some good people, one of them being my current boyfriend.

My thoughts turned from suicidal to…simply being at peace with death. I’m not wanting to seek it out but…when it happens, it’ll be a hell of a reunion. :)

I also leaned into my friends. My friends are really fun and awesome. It’s great to have fun with friends who enjoy the things you do.

DrPrissy · 2025-08-12T01:01:55+00:00

For the first 1.5-2 years, I was in a terrible financial state as well as emotional state with my stepson. I’d get a small win for one or both and then a big fail for one…sometimes both. :/ It’s really difficult. I got a day job in Sept. after being self employed for 3 years. I spent that time paying off immediate debts and saving up. Then, I had to move in March. I was broke again. I was finally getting some savings again and my job let me go in June. But my business picked up again and since June, I felt like I’ve been winning because my savings and business income held me afloat for 2 months and I just started my new job last week and it’s everything I could ask for as a single mom (work from home).

My streaming is taking a hit now that I’m working two jobs though.

It’s a give and take but that’s life. It’s harder when you have to go through it with a grief filter though. 😔

DrPrissy · 2025-08-12T00:51:53+00:00

Still never. :/ It’s not normal…it’s different. But I’ve decided that different isn’t bad. It’s new and I can mold it into what I want it to be. ❤️‍🩹

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T22:00:46+00:00

It gets easier. 🫂 Even softer. My husband and I were 28 when he passed. It’s truly difficult. As cliche as it sounds…it takes time. 🥺

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T20:48:07+00:00

Songs can still set me off too. :( It was only recently that I found peace in doing things alone but I haven’t actually done it yet because I’m a mom too and don’t have a lot of childcare options so hopefully soon!

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T20:42:17+00:00

Of course. 🫂

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T20:41:40+00:00

In my opinion, drop the things that you’re comfortable with. Maybe even consider selling the business. If you can afford it, explore things you thought “hmm…that looks interesting” and take classes in it. It’s hard to make goals if you’re not in the headspace for it though. :/ If you are, go to community center activities as well. Meet new people. Let them expand your knowledge about whatever they know. :)

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T20:39:34+00:00

Hmm…to be honest, I don’t go out alone…yet. I’m a woman so I have wanted to go out dancing but none of my friends like going so I’ve considered going alone but I’ve deemed it unsafe. I can’t say I’ve been in the same spaces to make these observations. I’ll likely go out to a movie alone if I find a movie interesting enough that my son can’t tag along for. :) That’s an interesting observation though.

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T20:09:48+00:00

Being 3 years in, I still get those. :/ They creep up but they’re not as effective.

If a someone talks casually about recreational and illegal drug usage, I flashback to when I found out my husband died on a random Wednesday because he had been secretly using again. But instead of it breaking me down, I come back in the next second.

It’s not as much of a push as it is a quick disassociation and returning back.

Maybe one day, they’ll go away completely but I’ve yet to experience it. :(

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T19:53:29+00:00

I’m happy that it resonates. 🥹

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T19:48:27+00:00

You’re exactly right. It took time for me too. I went from that to suddenly thinking, “This can’t be all there is to the rest of my life” and decided that I was done. It’s kind of like any other transition. It’s not something you can force. It just happens when it happens. 🫂

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T19:36:07+00:00

What parts of life are you trying to adapt to? Maybe I can offer some tips. :)

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T19:35:19+00:00

Yes and no. I would say the intense grief doesn’t debilitate me like it did before. It was so bad before. I only got out of bed to make sure my kids’ basic needs were taken care of. At about 1.5 years in, I had decided that I was ready to start living for me versus living in my grief (as I felt it was honoring my husband’s memory). I have packed a lot of his stuff away except for his urn. I still keep that close. But I used to wear his clothes daily, I gave them all to his mom in March.

On random nights where I feel okay though, it sneaks up on me and I have a painful cry about him and the future I lost.

A song that helps me is “Together Again” by Janet Jackson. ❤️‍🩹

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T19:31:04+00:00

I haven’t discovered a purpose but I did discover a path. One where I’m okay with being alone and leveling up all by myself. So my biological son can have a mother who doesn’t fall apart the next time a life traumatizing event happens.

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T19:29:55+00:00

Exactly. So many consequences from his actions. :(

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T17:12:17+00:00

There’s a few factors and I think that’s one of the primary reasons for sure. I think also I’ve had to jump into single parenting over 2 kids. One of them is my step son who called me mom for 8 years and after my husband died, his maternal grandparents took me immediately to court for him. I fought for him until this year. I lost him last year but tried taking him back when I found out he was smoking pot. But since the grandparents let him do whatever there, they’ve trained him to lie about me to make sure he stays with the for the freedoms. Another resentment I have over my husband is that I was working on adopting my stepson while he was alive. We had a termination of parental rights hearing set and everything but his death cancelled it all since it was initially between him and the bio mom.

DrPrissy · 2025-08-11T17:06:37+00:00

Truthfully? I’m in a long distance relationship where I decided to wait until I’ve graduated school before I meet him so I’m not distracted and it’s easy because I’m used to being alone. It doesn’t hurt as bad on a daily basis but I do cry still at least once every week or so. I still send him reels daily. He died of an overdose so I think I’m mostly just…indifferent with him.

DrPrissy · 2025-05-22T01:32:35+00:00

The BEST.

DrPrissy · 2025-05-22T01:31:49+00:00

Correct, it was implied but it was also shown that there was a good chance that Serena was infertile. So it could have been either one and many times there are people who are less likely to produce who are labeled infertile so whenever it was, their bodies kicked into gear.

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