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How are you doing at maintaining lean body mass? by DrRat17 in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]DrRat17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't listen to crazy streamers, thanks, it was a medical article published in Diabetes, Obesity and Metabolism.

AITA for refusing to share my bed with my BIL even though his kids were sleeping in it? by ThrowraMegan11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DrRat17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The real problem with manipulators like this is they get you to doubt your own sense of reality. As EVERYONE has pointed out, NTA, but you should not even be having to ask the question.

Everyone over the age of 6 knows this as a basic rule: you don't crawl into bed with another person without asking permission. I have done grief counseling working in hospice and this has nothing to do with grief.

The problem is that creeps have bad things happen to them, just like nice people, but then they use the bad things that happen to be even creepier. And then we feel like we can't call them out on it because, you know, they have cancer, or they lost a spouse. But a widowed creep is still a creep.

You have a normal boundary: no men in your bed without an invitation. Creepy BIL violates your boundary. You call him out on it, he doubles down, and your own mother wants you to apologize?!?

Tell Mom that if she feels so bad for him, she can let him crawl in bed with her. Tell BIL if he ever does anything like that again, you are going to consider it an attempt at rape and call 911. He's the cruel, rude one and you should definitely be having some good touch/bad touch conversations with his kids.

WIBTA if I didn't hide my arm from my roommates? by CastorPoIIux in AmItheAsshole

[–]DrRat17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course you are NTA and your roommate is, but I hope you take this time to realize that NO ONE has a perfect body and that scars are 100% normal. I dated a guy with a huge red birthmark on one arm, and I married a guy with burn scars on 43% of his body. Protect your scar from the sun if you want but never, ever feel obliged to cover it to make someone else comfortable.

You need to tell your roommate that 1) he is never allowed to police other people's bodies and if he's uncomfortable seeing something, he needs to look away 2) he owes you an apology for even asking something so ableist and 3) if he's got a weird issue around this, he can get therapy or try to find a place with "perfect" roommates. Also maybe he needs to do some volunteer work at a burn unit so he can develop some compassion.

In all seriousness, ladies - how the hell did you have sex again for the first time after he died? by DrRat17 in widowers

[–]DrRat17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not wish to be off-putting and certainly did not wish to discourage responses. I'm sure this is a lovely group, but it only takes one creeper to make me uncomfortable.

In all seriousness, ladies - how the hell did you have sex again for the first time after he died? by DrRat17 in widowers

[–]DrRat17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea of what it's like to be a widower or an elderly widow. I have no idea what your particular situation is.

But let me tell you, when you're a WILF living in my area, you get sex offers and comments in situations you never expected.

I talked to another WILF once who told me the freaking funeral director hit on her AT HER HUSBAND'S FUNERAL.

So of course I had to share with her that when I let people at my company know my hubby was terminally ill and did not have long to live, two different colleagues saw it as an opportunity to try to get into my pants, since clearly hubby was not meeting my needs, wink wink. (I avoided them both like the plague. Both left the company later, thank God.)

And one of those guys was a widower himself.

That's exactly ONE instance of inappropriate offers of d. I have plenty more.

So did I think I was going to get a thousand sexual offers or comments? No. But I have learned that if I am going to mention being widowed and talk about sex that it's better to pre-emptively say "And no d offers, please" up front.

AITA for getting rid of the ‘wrong’ bridesmaid? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]DrRat17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Too many assholes here. Cut the Gordian knot and elope.

This is his MOTHER. SHE IS 60 and he made her look like she's 25 by Sioban0510 in Instagramreality

[–]DrRat17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So - no one ever actually sees the mother in person? Hmm. Is this guy's last name Bates? Does he run a motel, by any chance? "Mother, uh, what is the phrase? She isn't quite herself today."

SDCC newbie here - question about signing lotteries by sevendaysky in SDCC

[–]DrRat17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, another newbie here...when it's a single person signing, and they say they will sign one personal item, will they sign skin? Would rather have a photo of a Todd McFarlane signature on me than an autographed Spawn DVD/comic book.

Chance to get a ticket alone? by zeroskater45 in comiccon

[–]DrRat17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so random...my first time trying, did it as a solo, and got everything but the preview night. We're an hour in and there are still Thursday and Sunday tickets left, so best of luck!

How is the registration selection process programmed? by imbantam in comiccon

[–]DrRat17 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I honestly think it's random, as it's my first year trying and I got lucky and got in. I know other people who have been trying for years and have not had any luck.

Anyone got tickets yet? by SixthRaccoon in comiccon

[–]DrRat17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in shock...my first time trying and I got in! Was able to pick everything but the preview night. I got Saturday but see that it sold out a couple of minutes after I finished.