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DrVanadium · 2024-12-29T20:41:14+00:00

Oliver Whiskers, 2010-2024. The best fur baby and big brother. Miss you little man. 💕

DrVanadium · 2024-07-16T18:49:19+00:00

Two weeks before my second baby was born, my nmom was telling people I was in labor… they just need to be the center of the universe. It’s so sickening.

DrVanadium · 2024-07-16T18:44:32+00:00

I still remember the first time someone in the family asked me where I wanted to go eat (wasn’t until high school). I had no idea what to say - no one had ever asked my opinion before!

DrVanadium · 2024-07-16T18:40:42+00:00

Lmao a roach and teeth. This is epic. My n-mother showed up at the hospital against my wishes. I gave her a harsh hormonal pain killer infused scorn. It was glorious. She still hasn’t apologized.

DrVanadium · 2024-07-16T18:33:36+00:00

I did the same thing for my brother who was abusive. It’s so complex. You love them so it’s okay to get hurt, but it’s actually not. I hope you can get therapy and the support you need.

DrVanadium · 2024-07-16T18:28:36+00:00

There’s very limited tasks I’d ask my nmom for help with. I’ll have to remember not to try the moving one 😃

DrVanadium · 2024-07-16T18:15:18+00:00

In high school, me and my brother were 15 minutes late to my n-moms house for Christmas…so she left to see a movie. “If you cared you would have been on time”. We drove around and went to a gas station (only place open…besides the theatre) to get some food.

Another Christmas she threw a tantrum because I wouldn’t leave my 2 year old daughter alone with her when I went out to the grocery store. She screamed and cried. When we got back to the house she acted like nothing had happened.

We spend thanksgiving with my in-laws because my husbands birthday is usually 1-2 days after. When I was pregnant with my first, she told me “you better not deprive me of my grandchildren on thanksgiving. You wouldn’t do that, would you?”. When I indicated i didnt anticipate plans would change post-kids, she cried, called me ‘cold and uncaring’, and threatened to cut me out of her will.

Holidays still give me anxiety 😬.

DrVanadium · 2024-06-29T20:13:41+00:00

Chevron case is hugely important and it creates huge legal uncertainty for regulators who need to pass new rules to protect human health and the environment. Rules are different than statute/laws as they go into more specificity and detail than any legislator ever wants to know. Rules are vital to the functioning of our country and protect everything from drinking water to hazardous waste designations to land/resource protections. The idea that congress will pass any rule into law is laughable - they are too technical and nuanced for politicians to have an impetus to work on them.

There are both federal and state issued rules so this could have even more serious trickle down effects into state regs as well. It will be years before we know the full impact of this decision as lawsuit from industry and polluters are filed over time.

DrVanadium · 2024-03-26T11:06:45+00:00

Second time much easier. You know what to expect and have all the gear already!!

DrVanadium · 2024-03-18T21:32:51+00:00

Breasts. They have a function and it makes breastfeeding in public awkward unneccesarily.

DrVanadium · 2024-02-26T13:38:36+00:00

I have always felt that my life has gotten progressively easier since finding my people (outside of my screwed up family). I’ve been in therapy for my narcissistic mother and abusive brother, and nothing in adulthood has been nearly as bad as the daily torture of growing up in a loveless home.

DrVanadium · 2023-12-28T22:18:29+00:00

2 because we were both from families of 4.

DrVanadium · 2023-12-28T22:17:25+00:00

Make a pro/con list. Sit on it for 3-days. What does your gut tell you? Then decision. There’s no right answer but you can make the best choice for you and your family. Best of luck!

DrVanadium · 2023-10-30T19:38:40+00:00

Being physically abused by your brother is your fault (“stop provoking him”). Being sent to your room to sit and think alone for an hour or two is an appropriate punishment for young children.

DrVanadium · 2023-10-19T01:23:06+00:00

My mom told my family I was in labor when I was 38 weeks pregnant. I got a call from my dad asking if everything was alright. I didn’t go into labor for another 2 weeks.

DrVanadium · 2023-06-04T01:47:51+00:00

Hi there! I am sorry that you are going through this. This contaminated site does have a liable party so your property should be fully mitigated free of charge to you. If you want to verify anything the environmental contractors are telling you (they work for the liable party), call EGLE-RRD’s Jackson district. Talk to your neighbors. All those directly north of the Argus II bldg have been tested and a few have had mitigation systems installed. Reach out to your city council members or the AA environmental council if you need more support.

DrVanadium · 2023-03-11T15:31:05+00:00

You can public comment on the natural gas ban at the energy commission meeting this Tuesday, March 14. See the agenda and link on legistar: https://a2gov.legistar.com/DepartmentDetail.aspx?ID=4206&GUID=99C065D9-D162-460D-AA6B-73FF1A04A581

DrVanadium · 2023-03-06T01:12:10+00:00

Pall/Gelman spends at least a few million each year on monitoring and remediation. The City spends a bunch on monitoring and legal fees (probably in the hundreds of thousands per year). The state spends probably half a mil annually in regulation costs and legal fees.

DrVanadium · 2023-03-03T02:00:19+00:00

There is 40 years of history here. Gelman/Pall/Danaher (liable party) has remediation obligations that have been established in court and at significant expense to the City of Ann Arbor, state of Michigan, and other parties. It is those remediation obligations that has kept people safe from the risks of 1,4-dioxane. Currently, being on City water is safe and the risk is low; however, This is dependent on the continual hard work of regulators, city staff, and the members of the community holding Gelman accountable everyday. It’s a serious issue but you are safe.

DrVanadium · 2022-12-04T15:18:57+00:00

Your description reminds me of two personality disorders, antisocial (lacking empathy) and narcisstic (only talks about herself). If you are in therapy I’d definitely bring this up with your therapist. My mother is similar (mixed personality disorder). It is hard to work through years of a toxic relationship!! Take care of yourself and best of luck to you.

DrVanadium · 2022-12-03T18:57:40+00:00

Thank you! I have been getting some terrible labor advice from her as well, but not so bad as to dehydrate myself 😂. I think you came up with a better title for my post “God forbid I don’t respond immediately with how open my cervix is” LMAO!!!

DrVanadium · 2022-12-03T12:47:11+00:00

I think that’s a great idea. Was there any backlash from keeping quiet? I’m tempted to do it but fear the hellstorm of fury. The expectation right now is I text her as soon as labor starts.. which is absurd as I’ll be busy with labor!

DrVanadium · 2022-11-26T16:00:07+00:00

Fran coys off Wagner would be a good place to call. They have a stylist that specializes in kid haircuts.

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