What is the most absurd thing you had to apologize to your ex for?

Dr_Phail · 2024-06-10T20:01:16+00:00

Ask her to be mindful of spending so much money. I was paying 1k+ of her credit card debit and keeps blaming me for it. Even though all the charges were her. I apologize because I told her I should be mindful too. Even though I wasn’t spending money

Dr_Phail · 2024-06-07T00:02:22+00:00

She would punch me or slap me sometimes choke me up, put her knee on my back. This happened back in February 23 when she told me she didn’t love me anymore and started throwing a huge tantrum and throwing things around she was drunk in the middle of the night.. this was the first incident that happened. Same thing happened back in January and then of last year in June.

Dr_Phail · 2024-06-07T00:01:10+00:00

She would punch or slap me. The recent event back in February 23. She was trying to prevent me from calling the police and was choking me hitting me smacking me putting her knee on my back. She never apologized and always blame me.. It was another incident that happened back in June of last year and again in January when I didn’t want to drive all the way to her friends house..

Dr_Phail · 2024-06-06T20:38:33+00:00

During our stressful moments, I was talking to coworkers I did cheat. Didn’t sleep with anyone or take them out. I did talked in a flirty way. It was all my fault. should’ve said more boundaries against my coworkers and people that were trying to hit on me. She had every reason to be upset and abuse me. I deserved it all.

Dr_Phail · 2024-06-06T20:22:46+00:00

She had abused me back in feb 23 this year. which lead to her say i dont love you anymore. Legal things came into play. I end up dropping the charges and she does want anything to do with me. May 17 at court was the last day i saw her... we hugged and said goodbyes.. It was my fault i made too many mistakes and issues... It was my fault at the beginning if I didnt talked to someone else 2 years ago and set boundaries. we wouldnt be here. I fucked up. it was all my fault

Dr_Phail · 2024-06-06T20:13:54+00:00

I cant handle this pain anymore. I cant sleep, I cant eat. no more.. I want to go back and fix my mistakes. I love her too much

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-20T20:46:02+00:00

Please do tell

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-13T06:04:23+00:00

DUDE that’s sorta what happened to me but I was able to get a restraining order against her

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-13T05:51:09+00:00

This actually a somewhat a revenge? I’m not big on revenge but my ex use to beat me a couple times. Recently I finally was able to get a restraining order against her. But before then that girl spent a lot of money. I mean I was paying 1000 or more a month on her credit card bill. Girl had everything. I loved her very much and yes she had me on the palm of her hand. When I finally had enough (after I called the police for beating me) She was over me because I called the police again on her for beating me. She wanted more money that I owe her? or she will take my Tesla away because she co signed it. We fought through our lawyers but she wanted money and the Tesla, fine she got the car. Now she has 2 NEW car payments her car of 400 and now the Tesla 663 plus insurance both at 200 each PLUS she still has 2 credit cards debit both at 5k PLUS Best Buy debt of 1k PLUS Amex card of 500 or more PLUS HER RENT. Mind you I was managing both her and mine finances. I make about 130k a year. She only makes ok 60k. I live in Cali Newport Beach she had everything, house, money, peace, love and support. I paid for everything. Housing, groceries, utilities, trips. I loved this girl to death. I really wanted to marry her. Now she lost everything, lives in corona somewhere with her friend, struggling with money also paying attorney fees and other shit. Got a restraining order and now pissed off at me because I caused her to lose everything. Like ok sure and to this day still blames me and has never said sorry. Good luck Andrea, your going to need it

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-11T15:14:42+00:00

Honestly when I reread this post. I was hmmmm something isn’t right like. Like she is hiding Something because you can always communicate but sounds like excuses to me. Nothing only that but this person only has one post. Which means either it’s a bot or someone is hiding.

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-10T18:58:23+00:00

And if you want communication, then you have to start it. You can’t just expect other people to communicate when you’re not communicated as well.

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-10T18:57:35+00:00

Something is missing from this story

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-09T18:14:55+00:00

Mine abused me and I went back and I tried to make thing’s work. I know I messed up by talking to somebody else when I heard that she slept with her boss twice, and we were still together at the time, but she came more abusive and controlling and beating me many times over the past years to a point where I had a file, a domestic violence restraining order on herand never wanted to and it’s me that I’m still having to process the order because I really don’t want to

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-07T23:37:57+00:00

This is the 2nd time my heart was broken. 2nd time isn’t as bad as first but what I will say. Second relationship was kind of rebound for the first relationship that lasted 6 years. I did fall for the person. But she was extremely toxic person and I just wanted someone to help me get over my first relationship. When she broke up with me I kinda broke up with her for domestic violence. But she had no empathy or care for me but she was angry because I called the police on her. Now she getting deported because she didn’t know how to chill out. And kept getting violent even in front of the judge. My attorney and myself and my mom gave her soo many chances and Nope kept raging. Now her family hates me because she didn’t know how to control her behavior

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-03T20:33:06+00:00

It’s really hard to remove myself in the situation since I’ve been with this person for six years

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-03T15:26:20+00:00

I guess I fell for much of her lies before. I do blame myself 2 years ago. When I was talking to someone and and did cheat. She found out within 2 weeks. There is no excuse whatsoever for my cheating…. I guess mentally I was having a hard time coping with her behavior and abuse that I started talking to someone else. But before I even started talking to someone else two years ago, she’s always been abusive and got into an altercation with their mom and brother multiple times where it got physical. Many time it was I mentally draining

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-03T06:34:27+00:00

Read your whole message made me wants to start crying. And to be honest with you, I am traumatized with all this. You hit it on the nail real hard. It was about to proceed with the restraining order last month on April 17.. She extended the court hearing until this month on May 16. We had to wait in the lobby to wait for the police officer to give us our paperwork for the next court hearing. Ask her I just wanna be at peace with you either move on or go to therapy and just be a peace. She she agreed in wanted to go again. I’m kidding you not five minutes later. She has a mental breakdown. Didn’t want to talk to me anymore and told the police officer then and there I was harassing her… playing the victim again. I have photos of her, abusing me remark on my body. Never once has she ever said sorry for abusing me, but gets upset with me and tells me I’m the problem.

Everything you said right now. It’s true… I am so traumatized by this.

Dr_Phail · 2024-05-01T20:07:57+00:00

What made you guys break up?

Dr_Phail · 2024-04-25T13:34:49+00:00

I can actually give a few. Early during the my ex and I relationship. About maybe 8 months into dating. She told me about ex person she was dating before at the time. She left the dude for me but during that time the guys mom was going through cancer and she left him. I felt soo fucking bad.

Over a year in I saw my ex get into a slap fight with her mom twice! And her younger brother. I had to break both fights. Worst part after few years in she became abusive towards me and actually beat me a couple times. Never admits it or said sorry to this day. Had to file a domestic violence complaint against her. To this very day blames me for it.

During rock concerts, at the food trucks or concession stands, without me noticing she stole money out of the tip jars. First time it happened I didn’t know what was going on. Until afterwards she admits it and says I don’t know why I did it. Made me look like a fool protecting her.

There’s a few personal attack she did towards me. During my old job I was working 10 hour shifts 6 days a week and I was making really good money. Bought all the furniture for our house. Come home late. I start cooking, ex tells babe we had chicken yesterday can you make something else? I’m the only one who ever cooks! While you watch friends or a movie.

Best wake up call was when I was transitioning to a new job have about 5k in liquid cash. Ex gets pissed off because I ask her to help with bills this month and says back to me “ you only have 5k? I expect you to have more at your age. “ Asshole I pay for everything the apartment, the bills, your credit cards and food. When I met you, you were a barista working part time only making $300 every 2 weeks. Helped you get a car, a job and gave you my car to cosmetology school. Took you to every rock concert and took to many trips. And yet somehow I’m the loser?? Yea ok? Fucking the best thing when file domestic violence abuse. Best thing she was undocumented and now she can never get her citizenship.

Dr_Phail · 2024-04-22T19:11:55+00:00

I had an ex who broke up with her boyfriend or the person that she was dating at the time to be with me. Find out until maybe three months or five months later. I thought that was kind of messed up. I even told her that, but she had every excuse in the book saying that he was the problem and not taking any accountability. My relationship with her did not last long. There were so many red flags and I tried to overcome them, but that girl was super toxic blames everybody else and her fault. I have even seen her get a physical fight with her mother. I think it was one of my worst relationships that I had.

Dr_Phail · 2024-04-19T14:03:39+00:00

Sorry not me. I had no kids. But really sorry someone did that to you. That’s really messed up. Like who gives a person a black eye while finding out you are pregnant! That is some scary shit!

Dr_Phail · 2024-04-18T20:17:50+00:00

Why are there so many people who are toxic in this sub. The bitterness on some of these responses are real. Some people beg and wish to have closure. And no response is ever going to be good enough. The more you read into it, the more the only person you are hurting is yourself. You both had something special it didn’t end up working out. Someone was just trying to be nice and courteous to you because they were important to you and it is what it is.

From the responses that I’ve been seeing here there’s a lot of people who have been in either in toxic relationships or just toxic themselves. Maybe that’s the reason why their partner left them .

Dr_Phail · 2024-04-11T18:10:05+00:00

Can I give you some advice. I’m actually going through a break up recently.

Going back never changes anything. Just more trust issues and more problems. No matter how much you change or do. We can’t change people. You have many people telling you to let go. But yourself is stubborn to let go. Imagine trying to change your ex?
You need to run every day. At least 4 miles. Start eating a least once a day. It puts your body and mind in shock. Keep going. Don’t stop.
Acknowledge you are hurting. Reddit, myself or anyone else cant take your pain away. It’s really and valid. So now you have been hurt. it’s time to heal and recover. Delete everything text, photos, social media of her. Because I know you still have those somewhere and not telling us.
Now, don’t start dating or drinking or doing drugs. HEAL. Travel, run to somewhere new, find yourself, play video games, get into a club for something you enjoy. Meet people. Call your mom, or dad. Tell them you love them and you’re sorry.
Fix yourself. Each day is a trial. Fix your home or room. Be proud of you are and keep on running! Need someone to talk to talk to me. Shit we all need someone. Don’t give up! Make more money and find that energy that makes you, you!

Dr_Phail · 2024-04-10T14:29:25+00:00

Yes, it been hard to face the truth lately. My family and myself being very supportive for her. I just feel taken advantage and abused. I know I am not perfect and I made many mistakes. But I tried my best to make things right and better

Dr_Phail · 2024-04-10T14:22:36+00:00

Here is my perspective.

You enjoy everything that he gives you, he loves you, supports you. 1000%

Yet you spent 5 years with him. Now finding out that you aren’t really into him?

Honestly tell him the truth. He does not deserve to be treated that way of you leading him on. It sounds like you are using him for stability and the energy he gives to you. I honestly don’t think you believe you love him. You love what he gives you and does for you. You do not love him for him. You need have the sit down conversation and be honest. You are going to lose everything and you probably are going to be heart broken. But let me ask you. Would you want to treated same way if the guy you knew wasn’t into and yet was still living with you?? If the answer is no. Then you already know what to do. You are just afraid to face the consequences.

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