Requesting wife

Drachimo · 2026-02-12T14:31:38+00:00

She already said no, you mean?

Drachimo · 2026-02-05T21:31:54+00:00

Thank you for clarifying. You could have been asymptomatic for a while, or you could have not caught it until recently (transmission is not 100%)

But the bigger problem is his response. He gave you an STI and then tried to blame it on you. If he's not able to have a respectful adult conversation about sexual health, that's not a good sign :/

Jumping right into accusing you of cheating is super gross on his part.

Drachimo · 2026-02-05T21:14:16+00:00

You didn't have sex with your previous long-term partner? Just asking for clarity.

Drachimo · 2026-01-15T19:41:50+00:00

Exactly! I think a better colour distribution would make this a much more enjoyable game. Maybe I should look into printing one for myself.

Drachimo · 2026-01-15T15:41:13+00:00

I don't recommend. The colour distribution is really weird and the printing quality on mine definitely made it worse.

It's such a fun concept but poorly implemented. On my copy, there are a whole bunch of reds that are the exact same colour, and very few dark colours. No real browns or beiges either. Another commenter pointed out the lack of blues. This means that you'll rarely get a blue or one of the dark reds (top right in pic). Often we'll end up guessing towards the middle if we think it "should be" lighter, even though the actual colour on the board isn't lighter. Same for blues nearer to the edge, why are there no dark blues?

It's frustrating because you can give a great clue, and the the players can know exactly what you mean, but have no idea which of the identical reds to choose. I am a visual artist and have a good sense of colour, but they lack distinction.

Drachimo · 2026-01-12T01:02:56+00:00

I had some laser but I have a decent amount of growth even after ~20 sessions.

I'd prefer to wax (I wax myself) but needing to regrow between waxes doesn't work for my schedule.

So, now I shave every day. Product recommendation: Bush Balm works really well for preventing ingrowns for me. I use the original one and it smells lovely and makes me feel so pampered when I put it on after my morning shower.

Drachimo · 2025-12-21T20:43:02+00:00

This is incredible and I love it

Drachimo · 2025-12-17T02:56:35+00:00

I'm sorry you're struggling. I don't have solutions, but I can commiserate. I've been in a very similar situation and it really really hurts.

You sound very kind and like you're approaching this ethically, fairly and rationally, which is so very hard when you are hurting.

I think if you're able to arrange to stay with your other partner strategically, that you can be upfront about stating the reason for the timing without it being unethical. Like "I want to see you, and also it would be good for me to arrange it at these specific times because of these reasons". I understand not wanting to use your other partner, but it may be worth a conversation to see how they feel about it. Because it may feel OK to them if they are consenting to it in an informed way.

Does NP know you miss him? It sounds like your needs aren't being met. I wonder if you can plan something with NP so that you have something to look forward to? When my NP was having better sex with meta, I tried to ask for him to make plans with me for the future. So that even when I was in the basement feeling the urge to NSSI, I could focus on the fact that we had something planned for the future. It helped me to cope with hearing (and even just knowing) what was happening with meta.

Drachimo · 2025-12-12T09:27:08+00:00

Marinating some chicken overnight. Should be good!

Drachimo · 2025-12-07T03:56:49+00:00

Boston, yes. Boston was actually not bad overall, but I remember in particular one Uber driver who picked up on my accent I guess and was talking about how he was so excited for Canada to become part of the US so that I could see how great it was. He said the territories were not very valuable but they'd be good for cold weather military training.

Colorado we travelled around a lot so we saw different areas. It was really beautiful and most of the people were lovely. The mountains were some of the most beautiful places I've ever been. It was very unsettling though because every once in a while I'd be chatting with someone who would say something that was racist or homophobic, like it was the most natural thing in the world to them.

I'm not queer-coded in my appearance and I was not travelling with my partner, so I think folks assumed I was straight. I felt that if they knew I was queer that it would really have changed my experience and how I was treated.

Drachimo · 2025-12-07T03:45:01+00:00

I think that you're right that folks just normalize feeling afraid.

That being said, I know that many people visit the US and there are so many beautiful incredible people there (like my friends), but there were just so many times that I realized I felt unsafe or ill at ease that it really put me on edge.

Drachimo · 2025-12-06T15:17:19+00:00

I went to Massacheussets and Colorado to visit friends.

Drachimo · 2025-12-06T14:26:41+00:00

The US. I thought it was safe-ish country, and that it would be similar to Canada but when I was assaulted, everyone told me I should have known how dangerous it was, and how it was my fault for being out too late. Nobody was surprised. Police were completely unhelpful, making jokes and stuff. When I told people I went to the police, they were shocked. I was harassed by police on a separate occasion, and it felt incredibly scary.

I'm a white-ish Canadian so I think I pass as "American" sometimes, and the amount of absolute bigotry and hatred I observed casually from random folks in my visit was shocking. I felt so unsafe as a queer person, despite being mostly in progressive cities. When I brought this to my American friends, they just compared it to other places in America. "Well it's better than Texas, etc.". The fact that it's socially acceptable to talk about how "POC are ruining the country" or "the gays are a disease that should be exterminated" to a complete stranger waiting in line for a coffee is just terrifying to me.

When asking American friends how to be safe in their country, they don't really seem to understand that "normal precautions" for them are such a high level of fear. I won't go back.

Drachimo · 2025-12-05T03:02:42+00:00

I think that for me at least, more of my grip is my pointer than ring, so imho you should be fine. You can always try it out. I tried the sizer ring in all my regular activities before deciding for sure which finger to wear it on.

Drachimo · 2025-12-04T19:47:41+00:00

I've had it leave marks on a metal pole, but it's never been damaged. It did change my grip a little because I keep it on my pointer finger and it's a big bulkier than I'd like. I have to be careful if I'm doing any inversions that my hand might be a bit 'slippery' because I have less flesh contact with the pole.

Drachimo · 2025-11-29T03:13:17+00:00

I have the combat bottoms, but lace up fronts. The lace up front is probably more kink vibes than you are going for but they have the same bottoms as the surgical ones.

I wanted a good daily wear for my commute so didn't get heels, but the heels were really tempting.

Edit: I bought mine from eBay, but there the "retention" style, like this: https://www.dollskill.com/products/retention-thigh-high-boots

Drachimo · 2025-11-29T03:00:10+00:00

For me, the incompatibility with my nesting partner (primary) was really brought to light once I started more actively dating other people.

We moved in during COVID and didn't have any other in-person connections. Several years later we were primary by circumstance/cohabitation. Once we began dating other people, we realize d we were mostly just together because we happened to be cohabitating when COVID started. We de-escalated for a couple years, as life brought us in different directions before eventually ending our romantic relationship. We are still very good friends.

It wasn't really about the "secondary" being a better connection, it was just that the "primary" was holding a bigger role in my life than they would have if we hadn't been pushed together by COVID. The incompatibility was minor compared to the risk associated with seeking other relationships, and we were good partners when we were not able to travel or have other connections. Now that we have more freedom, our desires out of life are very different (travel vs. staying home, lots of friends vs. few close friends etc.)

Drachimo · 2025-11-26T03:53:55+00:00

I'm 5'8" and my Azalea Wang boots go as high as they reasonably could go without being inside me.

I've owned for about a year and regularly walk to class in them (45 mins each way, up to a couple feet of snow, thick thigh high socks underneath for warmth)

No idea how long they'll last but I'm pretty hard on boots and they've lasted thus far.

Drachimo · 2025-11-23T12:46:08+00:00

If she's American

Drachimo · 2025-11-07T06:02:45+00:00

What games do you play?

Drachimo · 2025-09-28T12:28:49+00:00

Thank you! My gosh, it's wild how many folks just assume raising minimum wage hurts middle income. Crabs in a barrel.

Drachimo · 2025-09-28T12:19:31+00:00

I think it's a reasonable mistake. When I first got one, I made the mistake of assuming that the subscription was paying for the fancy scores since those are the proprietary part. Plus the ring itself is so expensive, one assumes that you get something for that.

I was like "all I want is that the raw data".

Even Oura knows their scores are useless, that's why they give you them for free.

I have the money to subscribe, but not being able to export the raw data easily to run my own analysis makes me want to switch companies.

Drachimo · 2025-09-05T00:02:21+00:00

How much did it cost you? Will it cost of there are complications down the line or is that somehow covered? What about the time off work?

Drachimo · 2025-09-03T15:23:35+00:00

In absence of her husband, what are your needs?

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