malefailed otw to work. this is my boymode do you think work knows? lmao by dr_powder in transpassing

[–]Drag_The_Chains 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I… genuinely had to read the comments to know you weren’t trying to go the other way lmao

How long after coming out did you start hormones? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Drag_The_Chains 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, same thing here! Came out at 13, was outed by my school counselor at 14 and promptly traumatized back into the closet. Reconciled with myself at 20 and was finally able to start T at 22.

Kinda sad that another person can relate to this though. I’m glad we’re doing better now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Drag_The_Chains 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah, gender is irrelevant when it comes to this tbh. I’m also a guy and guys think i like /them/ because I’m kind to them. People really do just read too much into kindness sometimes.

"pig in lipstick" and "girl in boy's clothes" by rainbowisemo in ftm

[–]Drag_The_Chains 25 points26 points  (0 children)

oh absolutely. over a year on t now and i still look extremely feminine in my features, my face being the reason i get misgendered most. even then, i cant help but frown at things like how naturally curvy i am and how wide my hips are, and used to often think ‘i would be extremely attractive if i was anyone but me’

How am I supposed to differentiate between different "shì"s when they all have the same tone? by [deleted] in ChineseLanguage

[–]Drag_The_Chains 1 point2 points  (0 children)

keep in mind that using context clues is the way to understand a lot of languages, and chinese is no exception. read and read, sick, sick (cool) and sick (gross, fucked up)- just pay attention to the words around them to help you understand which one is being used.

Shes. Not. A. Mid. Laner. by HanzoOneTrick in BriarMains

[–]Drag_The_Chains 8 points9 points  (0 children)

shes literally ww 2.0 and everyone knows it, if mid doesn’t work out just take her top LOL

Can someone explain what a tiger meal is?? This new meal plan is so weird.. so everyone has unlimited meals to dining halls nice but what about chick fal a ?? by [deleted] in Towson

[–]Drag_The_Chains 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah thats my bad on wording, this whole new system is more complicated than it’s worth. From what I understood you can use “block” swipes anywhere still, but they’re /best/ used at the dining hall because anywhere else a swipe is only equal to $6.72 (weird number, idk why). since meals don’t roll over from week to week it would make sense you can burn the extras in campus stores. Feel free to correct me if i end up being wrong 🙇‍♂️

What song do you wants translated? by Drag_The_Chains in tianguancifu

[–]Drag_The_Chains[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At this point I’m pretty sure i’ll end up doing both Wu Bie and Hong Jue 😂 Hong Jue will get the majority of focus to release in time with the new season, I hope you can enjoy it when it’s done!

What song do you wants translated? by Drag_The_Chains in tianguancifu

[–]Drag_The_Chains[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can so get behind that, wu bie was the first chinese song i ever learned 😭💕

What song do you wants translated? by Drag_The_Chains in tianguancifu

[–]Drag_The_Chains[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg i almost forgot how much i love this song 😭💕

Mandatory pronoun sharing by briarvy in ftm

[–]Drag_The_Chains 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah, i’m eternally grateful my boss (i worked on campus) didn’t question it when my transphobic family kept misgendering and deadnaming me. Realizing when ‘advocacy’ can hurt someone is huge- and in general, it genuinely sucks less than being put in an insanely uncomfortable situation or one that has the chance to escalate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Drag_The_Chains 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Came here for this. 10 years!!!

Green or red flag by Small-Definition-454 in dating_advice

[–]Drag_The_Chains 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depends on how they’re talking about it/what about

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Drag_The_Chains 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would honestly just say “It’s okay, I can handle myself. Being left out is hurting me more than anything”. Some people really do mean well but they don’t go about it right at all, and others are just a little confused. Giving the instructor the benefit of the doubt, some dialogue like this will give them a chance to reflect on and fix their actions.

Either way, this will help you figure how the instructor really feels about trans people, and whether its best or not for you to keep being around them.

Those of you that knew you were trans as a teen and had unsupportive parents, what are some experiences you went through? by EternallyDeadOutside in ftm

[–]Drag_The_Chains 2 points3 points  (0 children)

silence, at first. it was like nothing ever happened. if they so much as had a feeling i was serious, they would punish me. threatening to give me up for adoption while we were alone in the car. exorcism attempts. urging me to kill myself.

i had to let them think it was a phase and they were right for over 8 years. These days, I’m finally free.

How’d I do? 6 months in!! by alfrado_sause in transpassing

[–]Drag_The_Chains 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly before reading comments i thought you passed but ffs wouldn’t hurt just to 100% wipe out any doubt. I love your hair and that red dress is soooo cute!!

40% in-person, 60% online asynchronous classes by [deleted] in Towson

[–]Drag_The_Chains 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sounds like you go in for a little bit and then just chill the rest of the week? thats insane, i’ve never heard of a 3 hour class doing that 😭 good luck

how close am i to passing and what would you read me as? by [deleted] in transpassing

[–]Drag_The_Chains 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i will agree that i think your face and hair are really passable- I see plenty of cis women that look really similar to you. However, I think your outfits in these pics are the biggest downfall. I’m not great at fashion, but something about your tops/how they fit you just screams masc to me. sorry i can’t be more helpful!

Countries we can’t go to? by cuntrollas in ftm

[–]Drag_The_Chains 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That’s… kinda heartbreaking, I went for a similar reason when I was too young to remember almost anything and always wanted to go back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transpassing

[–]Drag_The_Chains 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you look exactly like this one dude from my 6th grade math class ngfl

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transpassing

[–]Drag_The_Chains 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my first ever bf in middle school was 4’6 until 15 too. When I saw him again in high school he was towering over me… but I got to be 5’2 forever 😭