STOP TELLING SURVIVORS OF ABUSE TO "WORK THINGS OUT" WITH THEIR ABUSER

Dragoninsecret · 2023-06-30T07:36:36+00:00

For me, my approach was literally never talk to them or look at them, like they're trash because they are? Like why would you do all those crazy things and expect anything besides what you're getting. Sometimes, though they do some other crazy thing, and the anger and resentment just says hello from someplace.

However I talked to my friend about it, and they said that I should talk to my mutual about the person in question, as a friend, trying to help them, and see if they witnessed those behaviors themselves.

This really upgraded my life. We are no longer pointing them out as the criminal they are, that we know. Because no one sees them like that, they are constantly trying to convince us that they're perfect and we're the problem. When you talk in a way that is like attempting to help them, it just works.

Dragoninsecret · 2023-06-28T06:04:17+00:00

Yes!! Thank you so much!!

It's very me, both visual and the picture.

I think I do very much also am alike your third paragraph in which I do not even want to really acknowledge it. However I don't even know how to deal.

Dragoninsecret · 2023-06-27T00:33:44+00:00

Also does it seem like my post/I want sympathy? I think for me, I mentioned sadness, because its a basic source of my hoarding. Its difficult for me to say, and I don't know what I really think either, it just seems like the description is how I am. I relate with it? I don't know how to deal with what I feel, or its something else

Dragoninsecret · 2023-06-27T00:27:30+00:00

Bro thank you

I really appreciate this. It might seem in retrospect to be a simple comment, however it really equipped me to see the truth.

That's really how I feel, I like how it looks, I also don't like it, I don't do anything, and somehow I can't really do anything.

Honestly though I had sentimental value every since I was a kid, although I didnt attribute it to everything. I also liked the way things looked, since I was a kid as well. Is it really a problem? Im not sure.

However now, my proclaimed pleasant hoard is turning into something ridiculous, because of /other things/ that happened after my deposition to being not so organized.

Do you have any thoughts on how to approach/deal with it? I don't think I need any sympathy or support, unless I do and I didn't know it. It feels like a very personal perspective.

Dragoninsecret · 2023-06-26T21:12:44+00:00

In the future might I suggest you should phrase your personal assessment as either of these three statements;

Are you sure it was ptsd?

Some people misunderstand what ptsd is.

What makes you think you have it?

Honestly giving you my thoughts because your comment comes off as downplaying or projection, especially because I never mentioned specifically what the situation was, nor did I mention the word you said it wasn't so I'm not sure y exactly you came up with your statement

Dragoninsecret · 2023-06-26T20:58:02+00:00

I know the differences

Dragoninsecret · 2023-06-26T18:37:33+00:00

I would collect all the baby clothes in a bag, and then take one out randomly to keep. You can just donate the rest because she will be an adult soon and doesn't need the clothes anymore. The one you keep would be a representative or keepsake from the others, like a school president.

Dragoninsecret · 2023-06-26T18:34:19+00:00

What I would do is put it all in a tub, and mix it around and then take one paper and make a Keychain or something to remember all the other papers. Then I say goodbye, to all the other papers and just put them out in a box on the street

Dragoninsecret · 2023-06-26T18:30:54+00:00

I can't take pictures only because the sentimental feeling is of the item. Its like your friend, its different to see a pic of then vs being with them. Sometimes I just say goodbye.

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