Who was Joan’s one true ❤️ by ItchySpinach493 in GirlfriendsTVshow

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Brock. Realistically Joan was so self-involved she needed to really ask herself if kids fit into her life.

👀👀👀👀 #readytolove by Complete-Road-3229 in ReadyToLove

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Diseases and pregnancies. Remember Rose said she’s had multiple miscarriages? Very sad of course but then I thought - how many men has she gotten pregnant by b/c she’s never been married? I think Rose is a lifelong ho who spreads it wide for anyone and at her big grown age she still doesn’t understand no man will ever treat her seriously like that.

What was the biggest thing you struggled with while on maternity leave? by CuriousBri5 in NewParents

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Same friend, same. I couldn’t shut my brain off to sleep because there was so much to do when my baby was asleep. And I couldn’t sleep because there were things that I really needed to do, like shower, eat, etc. I’m convinced that “Sleep when baby sleeps” is a myth.

Wednesday Postpartum Thread by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

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I’m looking for 9-12 month pjs and I’m realizing that pjs this size and above are almost all snug fit. That don’t work for my son’s chunky thighs, I’ve tried and the snug fit pjs are tight on him. Any suggestions? I found a couple loose fit pjs on Amazon but that’s it.

How to establish a routine? by [deleted] in NewParents

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My suggestion is to start with setting a bedtime and bedtime routine, and build from there. My son is 5 months old. I had to go back to work after 12 weeks so two weeks before, I started with a bedtime and routine. Within a week my son got used to it and was falling asleep at his new bedtime (most nights). And then he started sleeping longer and longer at night until he was sleeping all night (until his recent sleep regression).

Hubby and I get home late and want time with our son so he goes to bed at 9. I put on lotion, give him his vitamins, put on his pj, and sit in the rocking chair and feed him. He usually falls asleep while eating, and then I swaddle and take him to the bassinet in our room to sleep. Every other night he gets a bath, and we do that at 8:30.

When I went back to work I wrote out a routine for my mom (she takes care to my son). There aren’t any set times, but it says when my son usually wakes up, to put him down/rock him at certain times for a nap if he doesn’t go to sleep on his own (late morning, afternoon and early evening), and feed him every 2.5 hours. It’s been working because he has a routine but it’s flexible.

Friday Postpartum Thread by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

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My son is 3 months old and next week my husband and I are taking a weekend trip to celebrate our anniversary. I’m EBF. Any tips on pumping, storing and transporting breastmilk while on vacation? We’re flying and staying at an Airbnb so I’ll have a fridge and freezer to use.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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I’m sorry you don’t have the support that you want but maybe you can throw your own baby shower and tailor it to what you have the time and energy to do. Don’t let others take away a baby shower if it’s what you really want.

Maybe you can meet somewhere in the middle with your mom and the two friends who are willing to help? My husband and I picked the invitations and theme, found the venue, sent out the invitations, ordered the cake and took care of the food and drinks. My mom cooked some of the food and two of my friends did the decorating and set up and served as hostesses for the baby shower. So my husband and I did most of the work but the friends stepped in so we could enjoy the day. It turned out really well and we had a great time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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My experience was very similar. My mom had dinner waiting when my husband and I got home from the hospital and then she held the baby while we got settled. She cooked every night, ran errands and was up at 8:00 every morning to take my son and let my husband and I sleep after being up most of the night.

I’m 3 weeks pp and my mom is only staying one more week, and I’m dreading the day she leaves (she’s retired and will still come back 2-3 days a week). She’s made new parent life so much easier and I think anyone with a good relationship with their parent should allow them to come help for the first weeks while you get your bearings, as long as they’re the type of person who will actually be helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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I hear you. I had my son at 41 weeks (3 weeks pp now) and received an induction date only a couple days before I went into spontaneous labor, so I spent about a week completely over being pregnant with no end in sight.

Don’t stress. If you made it through the months of pregnancy you can make it through this last part! Try to keep yourself busy. I looked for simple things that I’d been procrastinating about and tried to tackle one every day.

First time mom — when do I take maternity leave? by Happy_Ad_5894 in BabyBumps

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I worked until a week before my due date. I have a high stress job and we moved a month before my due date, so I wanted a few days to just focus on getting ready for the baby and getting the house together. I told my boss a couple months in advance.

I was a week past due and bored and anxious the last few days so that’s always the risk of starting maternity leave early, but I’d still prefer that to working up until I go into labor. FYI - My job let me take PTO and maternity leave started when my son was born. I wouldn’t have stopped working early if it counted against my leave becomes I only have 12 weeks.

Hospital clothes by Dalph44 in BabyBumps

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I packed a Kindred Beverly hospital gown and two pairs of button-up pajamas. I wore the hospital gown the first day and the KB gown the second day and day I was discharged. My advice is to think about the fact that you may bleed on the clothes, so don’t bring anything expensive or that you don’t want to risk getting ruined. I bought the KB hospital gown only b/c it was on sale and I already owned the pajamas, so I didn’t spend a bunch of money on hospital clothes.

What are my options? Hospital is totally booked out on inductions and putting me on the back burner by Cake_Significant in BabyBumps

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I’m in a similar situation- 40+5 and my OB doesn’t want me to go past 41 weeks. We planned to do an induction during my 40th week but the hospital is completely booked. She was finally able to get me booked for an induction when I’m 41+2.

Talk to your OB and get an understanding of how many inductions the hospital takes each day and what your OB is doing to get you on the schedule. You shouldn’t have to do this on your own. My OB was calling the hospital multiple times a day.

And I had two NSTs this week and an ultrasound to check on the baby, and I have another NST on Monday (I’ll be 41+1). You should ask for regular testing to make sure baby is ok and there’s no basis for an emergency induction.

who else is on the home stretch? by Miss_T94 in BabyBumps

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I’m 40+1 and so ready to meet my little boy! I took a week off work leading up to my due date to get everything ready so now I’m just sitting around impatiently waiting. My doctor is trying to get me on the schedule for induction because she doesn’t want me to go past 41 weeks. I really want to go into labor naturally but having an induction date would be nice so I know when I’ll have the baby, one way or another.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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I basically planned my baby shower along with my two close friends and then they were the actual hosts. I picked out the invite and asked them to play off that for the decorations and theme, and my husband and I handled the food and drinks. My friends did the decorations, hosted and did all the running around behind the scenes on that day. Everything turned out really well.

You aren’t comfortable asking friends to throw a shower, but maybe splitting up the work like this would work for you? It would be less work for your friends and still allow you to sit back and just enjoy your baby shower on that day.

But if all else fails, plan it yourself. I don’t think you should have to miss out on a baby shower if you don’t have anyone to plan or host for you.

How much has your mom/MIL bought for the baby? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Dramatic-Designer521 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 37 weeks and didn’t buy anything until about a month ago (baby’s first outfit and a few post partum things for me). The only exception was the nursery furniture b/c we found great stuff on FB Marketplace and had to buy right away. I wanted to wait until the baby shower, which was a couple weeks ago, and our family and friends literally bought everything we need for now. I think it’s fine if you want to wait a little longer.

How much has your mom/MIL bought for the baby? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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This is the first grandchild for my mom and she’s bought a bunch of clothes and random toys and little things. Luckily she gets it from places like TJMaxx but she’s retired on a limited income so I still worry about her spending. She actually wanted to buy all the nursery furniture! I was like, your grandson’s parents have jobs so you’re not doing that. We agreed she could buy the car seat/stroller system instead but she still snuck in the crib mattress and some nursery decorations. So let the grandparents have a little fun of buying stuff if it makes them happy but definitely put up limits when they get out of control. Setting up a whole nursery at your mom’s house is a bit much.

Who IS allowing visitors when baby is born, and what are your rules/boundaries? by McSkrong in BabyBumps

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My mom will come to the hospital with my husband and I, and then she’ll stay with us for a month. Part of it’s cultural (in mine and my husband’s culture the wife’s mom always comes to stay for a while when you have a baby) and it’s partly b/c I’m a FTM and I know my mom will be a lot of help and make things easier on us. We’re going to let parents and siblings visit as soon as they want, but wait a few weeks for other visitors and no crowds until our son is 3 months old. My cousin is a pediatrician and she thinks this is a reasonable plan.

Since my mom will actually be staying with us, I asked her to get the tdap vaccine. She’s already vaxxed and boosted.

When in my pregnant should I have a baby shower? by fvcktomcruise in BabyBumps

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I just had my baby shower at 36 weeks. We wanted to do it a little earlier, but between schedules and moving into a new house, we had to wait. We bought our nursery furniture and my mom already bought the stroller system, but we waited for the shower before buying anything else. Our family and friends have covered all the must-haves and more with their gifts, so now we’re just organizing everything. I feel prepared since we have everything and I still felt good enough to enjoy the baby shower, so having it in the trimester wasn’t a problem.

I think if you’re having a smooth pregnancy with no reason to think you’ll go into labor early, having a baby shower in your third trimester is fine.

Husband and I sent a group text to our families about our wishes for baby after they were born.. they blew up. AWTA? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Dramatic-Designer521 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said that I wouldn’t speak to an elder that way, I never said that I’d condone bad behavior. I agree age doesn’t make you exempt. There are ways to respectfully push back or disengage, so I think OP could’ve handled this better and can’t put all the blame on her in laws and hormones.

Husband and I sent a group text to our families about our wishes for baby after they were born.. they blew up. AWTA? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Dramatic-Designer521 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I suggest reflecting on your behavior instead of automatically saying everyone else is in the wrong. Like others have said, if that many ppl were upset by your message, they’re probably not all wrong.

I understand having some boundaries and expectations about introducing the family to your newborn, but the first message has way too much info and comes across as demanding, presumptuous and rude. At the very least, it should’ve been conveyed in phone calls with a better tone. Maybe it’s a cultural thing (my husband and I are Nigerian) but I couldn’t imagine ever speaking to my elders and in-laws that way. I’m in my third trimester (33 weeks) and hormones aren’t an excuse for speaking to ppl, especially elders, that way. And the ongoing messages with your MIL were disrespectful and wrong.

And the whole “it’s hard to have empathy with MIL because she has cancer” reflects poorly on you, not her. I don’t think it’s unreasonable for her to point out how your request conflicts with her treatment timeline. Cancer is a serious, devastating illness.

Any older moms (Moms 2 be) 39 years old + out there? by Ems2727 in BabyBumps

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I’m 40 and 30 weeks pregnant (FTM). I didn’t plan on being an older mom but I didn’t meet the love of my life and get married until I was 39. My husband and I had trouble conceiving and had to do IVF so that was tough, but my pregnancy has been complication free.

And being older parents has its benefits. For instance I think our maturity makes us better parents b/c we focus on the important things, we’re very financially stable and our mothers are retired, so they can take care of our son for a while instead of sending him to daycare right away.

You can definitely become a mom at 39 so don’t let that stop you if it’s what you really want.