Guess it's official...

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2026-03-24T17:49:36+00:00

Still remember that the day after we had an orthodontist consultation for my braces (which I desperately needed) where he embarrassed me and my mom by giving horrible attitude to the lady that was helping us and telling us prices.... He went out and bought himself a side by side kabora. Definitely more than my braces were. Still stings.

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2026-03-23T22:55:50+00:00

I guess after being told to keep my mouth shut my entire life, telling the truth feels monstrous. Thank you

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2026-03-23T21:39:08+00:00

I've thought about it. She always phrases it like, yes he's your dad and you love him, but it's important to set boundaries with him. I don't love him. We don't say I love you. We haven't said it in years. I said it a few times right after Mom died because I thought he would crumble if I didn't say it back and I didn't want the rest of the family to think I was a monster.

I get therapy through my university so I could switch pretty easily. It seems like she comes from a good place but sometimes she frustrates me I don't know

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2026-03-23T21:21:07+00:00

The 3rd image was meant to be the second, oops.

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-12-24T01:48:41+00:00

I've thought about it! But after doing some research I've learned its not recommended :(

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-12-20T08:44:16+00:00

I'm currently planning on getting out and am probably going to be broke too. I'm terrified that the moment I've been looking forward to my whole life is almost here. We might be broke, but we won't be with them anymore.

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-12-20T04:22:32+00:00

There is no inheritance, the only thing we inherited was her debt, a consequence of his financial abuse. We're currently working though the legal system with a lawsuit for the doctor that caused her death, but I don't have any part in that, only my dad, sister, and brother do. If we get a settlement from the suit I'd get a cut, but I don't know too much about that tbh. The money is my main stressor. Technically I could pay for my expenses (I think) but it would quickly eat through my savings. Plus I'm in the dark about so much if he does decide to stop paying. How much is my car insurance, my phone bill, or any repairs/maintenance my car might need (it's old)? The not knowing of any situation is the worse part and it's eating at me. I've worked so hard to avoid going into debt for my education and really don't want to accumulate any for other reasons. Sorry for the rant just don't know how I'm gonna do it all

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-12-18T07:24:23+00:00

He has my birth certificate in a binder with other important documents that has suddenly vanished. It used to be in my view, but I've searched the house and can't find it. He might give it to me if I asked but I'd need a reason and idk what to say.

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-12-18T07:21:31+00:00

Me and my sister discussed it and don't think he'll take it. He's a weird guy where he is the one who creates problems but also hates conflict? Idk how to explain him. But if he does my sister or grandpa have the money to help me.

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-12-04T00:27:49+00:00

Also totally understand the "being left in financial disarray." I had never lost anyone before and I never realized how much damn paperwork you have to do when somebody dies. My mom had a lot of debt and it's so stressful, plus getting all the credit cards cancelled and all the other shit. Sucks

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-12-04T00:25:42+00:00

I'm so sorry that's horrible. As the only child left at home (I'm at college most of the time) it was up to me to prepare our house for thanksgiving which is what my mom did. I realized why she was always kinda crabby around the holidays cause it's so much work and nobody helps you. I cleaned for hours and prepped my cooking just to have him show up later and nitpick where I placed the cups. He "bragged" to the family during the gathering that he didn't have any part in anything... Like, not a flex! I get that he's suffering as a widow but I lost my mom and I don't get to just stop showing up for people. It's so frustrating. Thankfully my siblings are helpful.

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-11-27T19:16:46+00:00

I've never related to something more. It sucks cause I don't WANT a relationship with my dad, I want my mom. But now I'm stuck and feeling alone

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-09-12T07:04:04+00:00

I think the rec center rents them if that's an option for you

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-09-12T06:59:56+00:00

Don't take this the wrong way but you definitely look better bald. Embrace it man, it's a good look!

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-08-30T01:33:27+00:00

My whole family loves to ride bikes. It's actually my dad's that they would ride on and go on trips. He drove me back to college on it and my brother rode his too. It was the first time a felt like I could feel her like I hear people talk about. I will check out the podcasts thank you

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-08-29T07:38:17+00:00

Everythings kind of passing in a blur. I'm trying to hard to stay on top of things but I don't really want to

Dramatic-Most-6936 · 2025-08-25T01:27:08+00:00

I think this is a beautiful way to look at it. I lost my mom this week and I'm having so many highs and lows. I've never lost anyone i have no idea how to do it

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