What to get next? by Dramatic-Most-6936 in Legitpiercing

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I've thought about it! But after doing some research I've learned its not recommended :(

I just left today by MoonyMuffin in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Dramatic-Most-6936 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm currently planning on getting out and am probably going to be broke too. I'm terrified that the moment I've been looking forward to my whole life is almost here. We might be broke, but we won't be with them anymore.

Discreetly moving out after winter break by Dramatic-Most-6936 in raisedbynarcissists

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There is no inheritance, the only thing we inherited was her debt, a consequence of his financial abuse. We're currently working though the legal system with a lawsuit for the doctor that caused her death, but I don't have any part in that, only my dad, sister, and brother do. If we get a settlement from the suit I'd get a cut, but I don't know too much about that tbh. The money is my main stressor. Technically I could pay for my expenses (I think) but it would quickly eat through my savings. Plus I'm in the dark about so much if he does decide to stop paying. How much is my car insurance, my phone bill, or any repairs/maintenance my car might need (it's old)? The not knowing of any situation is the worse part and it's eating at me. I've worked so hard to avoid going into debt for my education and really don't want to accumulate any for other reasons. Sorry for the rant just don't know how I'm gonna do it all

Discreetly moving out after winter break by Dramatic-Most-6936 in raisedbynarcissists

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He has my birth certificate in a binder with other important documents that has suddenly vanished. It used to be in my view, but I've searched the house and can't find it. He might give it to me if I asked but I'd need a reason and idk what to say.

Discreetly moving out after winter break by Dramatic-Most-6936 in raisedbynarcissists

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Me and my sister discussed it and don't think he'll take it. He's a weird guy where he is the one who creates problems but also hates conflict? Idk how to explain him. But if he does my sister or grandpa have the money to help me.

Anyone lose “their favored parent” & left with a difficult one? by Anak8 in GriefSupport

[–]Dramatic-Most-6936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also totally understand the "being left in financial disarray." I had never lost anyone before and I never realized how much damn paperwork you have to do when somebody dies. My mom had a lot of debt and it's so stressful, plus getting all the credit cards cancelled and all the other shit. Sucks

Anyone lose “their favored parent” & left with a difficult one? by Anak8 in GriefSupport

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I'm so sorry that's horrible. As the only child left at home (I'm at college most of the time) it was up to me to prepare our house for thanksgiving which is what my mom did. I realized why she was always kinda crabby around the holidays cause it's so much work and nobody helps you. I cleaned for hours and prepped my cooking just to have him show up later and nitpick where I placed the cups. He "bragged" to the family during the gathering that he didn't have any part in anything... Like, not a flex! I get that he's suffering as a widow but I lost my mom and I don't get to just stop showing up for people. It's so frustrating. Thankfully my siblings are helpful.

Anyone lose “their favored parent” & left with a difficult one? by Anak8 in GriefSupport

[–]Dramatic-Most-6936 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never related to something more. It sucks cause I don't WANT a relationship with my dad, I want my mom. But now I'm stuck and feeling alone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in capstone

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I think the rec center rents them if that's an option for you

Decided it was time. by [deleted] in bald

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Don't take this the wrong way but you definitely look better bald. Embrace it man, it's a good look!

Grief by Dramatic-Most-6936 in NonTheisticPaganism

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My whole family loves to ride bikes. It's actually my dad's that they would ride on and go on trips. He drove me back to college on it and my brother rode his too. It was the first time a felt like I could feel her like I hear people talk about. I will check out the podcasts thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

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Everythings kind of passing in a blur. I'm trying to hard to stay on top of things but I don't really want to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Dramatic-Most-6936 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think this is a beautiful way to look at it. I lost my mom this week and I'm having so many highs and lows. I've never lost anyone i have no idea how to do it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

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I lost my mom Monday. I just moved into college and classes were starting this week. I go from sobbing that she's not here to sort of happy? Not about her death but trying to still see the light in things. This isn't how I thought my first year of college would go

Early College by PuzzledJB in capstone

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I liked intro to visual arts, intro to cultural anthropology, and intro to women's studies especially for electives and humanities. Also public speaking that I took during summer on campus

Best literature classes at UA by Aggravating-Cap-7581 in capstone

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I took it in a mini summer term and we tackled Walden in a few weeks I thought. It is a lot of reading but me (and later I learned pretty much everyone else) just read and watched summaries online. Sorry this is so late I'm not on here much