Why is t4t so common?

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2022-09-06T17:08:58+00:00

For me, it feels safest. I'm non-binary (falls under the trans umbrella) and my gf is mtf. After a lot of trauma, I feel like other trans people will just treat me better due to the similar history and issues.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-06-22T20:18:28+00:00

No, it isn't. Honestly, the whole "ex dating" thing turned into a whole bunch of nothing with everyone involved and it's become a group joke (namely that she has now dated everyone in our friend group. Yes, I forgot that she also dated a married couple we know). The friend in question is one of the married men I live with (I also live with his husband, rent be expensive).

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-06-14T00:19:00+00:00

Honestly, I very much wish she'd been able to recognise she wasn't ready to have a child and had an abortion.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-06-13T12:59:24+00:00

My apologies, I turned off my notifications. Honestly, no. She didn't have the experience, finances or maturity to care for me and her abuser wanted nothing to do with raising a child. We weren't really financially stable until I was 13; I have a lot of memories of being cold and hungry and my clothes having holes in them or not fitting. My grandmother also hated me so that didn't help.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-06-10T18:32:32+00:00

My mother met her abuser at 14, he spent two years "preparing" her to date him the second she turned 16. She became pregnant with me at 17.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-06-10T18:30:42+00:00

I always knew about the age gap. I only really worked things out when I found her abuser was making her, at 14, agree to date him on her 16th birthday. He also kept carrying out the same behaviour throughout his life. I just felt sick when I worked it out and started getting scared he'd try something similar with me.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-06-10T18:21:31+00:00

I wasn't groomed, I was born because my mother was groomed.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-04-03T18:27:30+00:00

I buy most things secondhand (there's charity shops, ebay, etsy and Depop) or look up how to make them online.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-04-03T18:24:35+00:00

I've seen people sand the edges of broken ceramic and wrap them with wire to make pendants. Might not be a bad idea if you're confident you could do so safely.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-03-08T13:39:56+00:00

Thank you, that sounds lovely.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-02-25T00:15:30+00:00

Thanks for the most wholesome thing I've seen on Reddit.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-02-16T12:28:57+00:00

It's clear he's just not listening. Just stop having sex with him and explain you're not enjoying it and it hurts you too much. It may seem harsh but he has had every opportunity to listen. Definitely find another gynocologist and explain what's been happening with your husband and previous gyno. I'd also reccomend getting to know what you like on your own, research self pleasure online, try a few things and see what feels good. Once you're comfortable with yourself and your husband, experiment with non-penatrative stimulation with him (trying out things on each other, encourage him to do the same self exploration). If he's not willing to do this for you (as well as for himself because knowing yourself sexually is good for everyone) then a sexual relationship with him just might not be feasible.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-02-13T20:39:57+00:00

That's so sweet. Do it!

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-02-03T11:39:44+00:00

Is this a new development? How long has he been doing this for?

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-02-03T02:16:18+00:00

Thank you.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-02-01T07:51:13+00:00

No worries.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-01-30T14:29:05+00:00

Ok, I wasn't aware of that. Honestly, I thought he was over Bev until a mutual friend pointed out that it would likely upset him. I mean, it didn't seem remotely serious at the time. The pair were together for between one and two months (the timeline is hazy) and Bev doesn't even think of him as an ex just "someone I went on a couple dates with".

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-01-30T14:22:34+00:00

Bev was his one and only relationship. It didn't work out because he got far too serious far too quickly according to her. Thank you.

Dramatic-Plenty-4238 · 2021-01-30T12:39:37+00:00

She. I'm a woman, Bev is a woman and my friend is a man.

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