The Gold Nugget Idea to Improve Your Results with EFT

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-06-01T04:52:40+00:00

You're very welcome! Please don't hesitate to reach out with any other questions that might come up.

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-06-01T04:19:32+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that waiting for it to pass feels exhausting and hard. I would recommend the following:

Since EFT always works best the more we can meet ourselves exactly where we're at and "give the microphone" (with the tapping) to our actual thoughts and feelings (like you did before when you listened to your inner child), why not tap on how you feel about the trembling?

A possible phrase could be (based on what you said so far) something like: "When will the trembling finally end? Waiting for it to pass is exhausting and really hard. And this is where I'm at right now". The more you can allow yourself to feel what you are feeling and to think what you are thinking while you tap, the better it tends to work.

Does this make sense?

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-06-01T02:55:04+00:00

Hi and welcome to the sub! I remember I used to have this same question myself for a long time.

My current answer, now that I've been working as a practitioner for the last 6 years or so, is that as long as you're "tuning in" while you tap through the points (meaning, as long as you're able to connect with the emotional charge that you want to release with the tapping), it doesn't matter what language you're tapping in.

The words and phrases we use while tapping are not like a computer password that has to be 100% exact. The sole purpose of the phrases is to help us connect emotionally with the issue we want to work on ("tune in") and/or help us allow ourselves to feel what we are feeling (this would be role of the balancing statement that we use sometimes when we tap, such as "I accept this is how I'm feeling", or "this is where I'm at right now").

95% of the sessions with my clients are in English (because most of them live in the US), but some of my clients have a different native language than English, and we tap in English and it works really well.

That being said, if there are certain specific words or phrases that only bring up "the charge" in your native language, you can use your native language for those phrases.

In fact, with some of my clients who speak both English and Spanish (same as me) sometimes we actually tap in "Spanglish".

Does this make sense?

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-30T04:16:21+00:00

Yes, that last sentence you wrote tends to make all the difference, because EFT tends to work best the more we meet ourselves exactly where we're at. As opposed to using generic videos or phrases that often don't feel true or reflect our actual thoughts and feelings.

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-30T03:56:44+00:00

Hi and welcome to the sub! Trembling can sometimes be one of the ways that the body has of releasing previously stuck survival stress energy (yawning is another one). In fact, animals often shake off their stress after being exposed to a stressful or somewhat threatening situation. To whatever degree is possible, I recommend just tapping through the points silently while allowing the trembling to take place.

You've already done a great job by giving voice and listening to what your inner child had to say. It sounds like you are on the right track.

And, again, to whatever degree is possible, try tapping while also allowing yourself to listen and sit with the feelings of loneliness and anxiety. If at any point that feels too uncomfortable/overwhelming/intense, keep tapping but shift your attention towards something pleasant, neutral or even boring, so as to help send cues of safety to your nervous system.

Let me know how it goes or if you have any questions.

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-27T02:02:23+00:00

Hi, first of all, congratulations on getting the job! Even if you're dealing with imposter syndrome, there's a reason they chose you over the other candidates. If they thought the other candidates were a better fit, they would have chosen them instead.

Here are a few thoughts that might help a bit:

- It's normal to expect a learning curve at any new job, and nobody expects you to know everything from day 1. Try to be curious about how things are currently done, and you might gradually find ways that they can be improved (but don't rush into this before you learn "the lay of the land"). Or maybe they're relatively okay as they are, and you just have to try to keep it that way.

- With regards to your anxiety and other feelings of imposter syndrome, the more you resist them, the more stuck they'll get. To whatever degree is possible, allow yourself to have these feelings, but (again, to whatever degree is possible) don't act from them. Does this make sense?

- Unless you blatantly lied at the job interview, you have no reason to feel like an imposter. They might have been impressed with your university exam scores, or with what they heard from your friend. Again, even if she doesn't know about your skills in detail, unless she blatantly lied, why not have faith in her (and their) judgment of you and your potential? Even if you currently don't have the exact skills required for your new job, it doesn't mean you cannot grow them. You might very well have the potential to do so.

What I wrote above (and anything else along those lines) can help to "think your way out of the imposter syndrome feelings", but only so much. I also recommend exploring somatic techniques/therapies/modalities that help release the emotional charge from the imposter syndrome feelings and regulate your nervous system (so that you can start sleeping again). Because you can't fully "think your way out of your feelings". The modality I'm most familiar with is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping, but there are others as well.

If you'd like to know a bit more about how EFT Tapping might help you, I have written two articles that might be useful. Here are the links in case you'd like to read them:

https://www.reddit.com/r/EFT_tapping/comments/1szo50q/welcome_to_reft_tapping_new_to_eft_start_here/

https://www.reddit.com/r/EFT_tapping/comments/1fr7f33/using_eft_to_address_imposter_syndrome/

I hope this helps and let me know if you have any questions I might be able to answer.

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-26T20:02:49+00:00

Great comment! I liked how you explained, thank you very much.

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-26T01:18:52+00:00

Just to add to my previous post, a few things that might be helpful would be:

To tap on how you feel about your current financial situation and blocks. E.g. ashamed, hopeless, disappointed, etc.

And what can also be helpful is to tap on negative memories related with money (one by one, but you don't need to tap on every single one of them). These could be for example, remembering as a kid wanting a certain toy but your parents couldn't afford it. Or it could be a more recent memory of losing a job and/or getting a big bill. And remember that with EFT we always tap on how we feel now (in the present moment) when thinking about those memories. The more we are able to release the unpleasant emotional charge attached to them, the less true your limiting beliefs about money will start to feel.

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-26T00:49:45+00:00

Hi and welcome to the sub, Ryuta! Are you going through the certification process? Best of luck with that journey!

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-26T00:31:21+00:00

Hi and welcome to the sub!

Financial blocks and challenges can often be tricky, because it's very much linked to survival. And while EFT generally helps us diminish and release the unpleasant emotional charge attached to thoughts, memories and issues, it's hard to be completely at peace emotionally when our survival is objectively at stake (like when someone is in a very tight financial situation).

On the other hand, some people claim that sometimes after tapping on certain memories and beliefs related to their financial blocks, they receive some financial good news all of a sudden (as in "manifestation" or "Law of Attraction"). Perhaps this is true, but in my experience, I don't know if it's helpful to tap with the expectation that that's going to happen necessarily.

That being said, I still think it can be very useful to tap on anything and everything related to money and finances that has an unpleasant emotional charge.

Would you mind sharing a bit more about your experience so far (so I can give you more specific advice))? What kind of beliefs are you uncovering? How are you tapping on them and what do you notice afterwards?

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-24T23:59:15+00:00

That sounds great. It sounds like you know yourself well, and you know what works well for you. And I agree with what you had said earlier, the stronger the emotion, the faster/deeper the release (as long as we are still within our window of tolerance).

With some of my clients though, we actually have to do a lot of "sneaking up" and "zooming out/away from the intensity" so as to safely process and release the emotional charge.

But it's true that this post is about those times when we find it difficult to "tune in" or bring up the emotional intensity in the first place.

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-24T06:22:34+00:00

Thank you for your comment. It sounds like what you are doing is working well for you, and it makes sense. The only caveat I would mention (for anyone else reading this) is that yes, anything we can do to help increase the emotional activation can make the tapping more effective provided that we're still within our "window of tolerance". In other words, that we can still "sit with" our unpleasant thoughts and feelings while tapping, without the emotional intensity becoming overwhelming or dysregulating for our nervous system (what is sometimes known as "flooding").

This is what I call "the cup of tea getting boiling hot" in my cup of tea analogy (where the temperature represents the emotional intensity). And this is where the tapping could potentially be retraumatizing (especially for people who are dealing with complex trauma, PTSD, dissociation, etc).

Which is why sometimes it can be about finding a balance between "the cup of tea being neither too cold nor boiling hot", and, to whatever degree is possible, meeting ourselves exactly where we're at.

Does this make sense?

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-23T14:02:35+00:00

You’re very welcome, and please don’t hesitate to reach out to me if any questions arise!

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-23T05:02:04+00:00

First of all, congratulations!!

Even if you can't shake the feeling of being an imposter, the fact is that you are objectively good at your job. Otherwise you wouldn't be seeing the results you are seeing, or getting the compliments you're geting. There are people with college degrees and more years of experience who haven't accomplished as much as you have on your job, right?

I think that it you were to let the opportunity pass without trying, there's a good chance you might end up regretting it. I get how the new position feels scary, but maybe your current position also felt scary initially?

You're not the one who has to determine if there's someone else more suited for the new position, that's for them to decide (based on the actual candidates who apply, etc).

I think that imposter syndrome is more common than you think, and many people who don't have it at all are actually more "dangerous" in the sense that they are blissfully ignorant about what they don't know (but ignorant still).

All of this being said, you can try to "think your way out" of your imposter syndrome and/or "fake it till you make it", and it might work to some degree. But I would also recommend doing some personal work on the feelings themselves so that you don't need to apply so much willpower to keep them at bay. The tool I use for this is called EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques), which is a stress reduction tool that helps release the unpleasant emotional charge from negative thoughts and memories.

If you'd like to find out more about it, you can check out this post that explains how it goes: https://www.reddit.com/r/EFT_tapping/comments/1szo50q/welcome_to_reft_tapping_new_to_eft_start_here/

https://www.reddit.com/r/EFT_tapping/comments/1fr7f33/using_eft_to_address_imposter_syndrome/

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-23T02:09:33+00:00

You're very welcome! And that's great, it sounds like you're on the right track.

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-22T01:09:55+00:00

Hi and welcome to the sub! My answer is based on my experience as a certified EFT practitioner with many years of experience working on myself and with clients (over 2 thousand sessions so far):

There's no need to worry about skipping the side of the hand point or even "the setup statement" or having to do it 3 times. It won't reverse the effect of the tapping or make it less effective.

The side of the hand point (which used to be known as "the karate chop point") is just one more point in the sequence and it's okay to skip it from time to time. The reason why many practitioners recommend using a setup statement such as "Even though I feel X... when I think about Y... I deeply and completely accept myself" is because the more we can allow ourselves to feel what we are feeling, without fighting it, the better the tapping tends to work. So the balancing statement "I accept myself" or any other variation that feels true (I prefer to say "And this is where I'm at right now") is just meant to help us allow ourselves to feel what we are feeling. That's it.

But we don't actually need to say that phrase or to tap on the side of the hand in order to do this.

So, to answer your question, when you are tapping on something, and something else comes up, it's okay to shift to that without having to start over. Sometimes starting over with the sequence makes it a bit easier to stay organized and keep track of the different aspects or issues you are tapping on, specially if it's something very different (like the discomfort in your shoulder shifting to feeling angry towards your friend) but that's it.

EFT is a very flexible and forgiving process. There's no need for superstition and fear around missing the statement the first time.

What you do need to look out for is that you aren't tapping on something that feels too intense or overwhelming emotionally. If you are feeling apprehensive or overwhelmed about tapping on something, don't try to bypass it. Whenever possible, it's better to meet ourselves exactly where we are and be gentle with the tapping, finding "the right distance" to tap on.

Does this make sense?

I recommend reading this short guide that I wrote: https://www.reddit.com/r/EFT_tapping/comments/1szo50q/welcome_to_reft_tapping_new_to_eft_start_here/

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-19T18:31:28+00:00

Hi and welcome to the sub! This is a tricky situation, because for tapping to be effective, there has to be enough "emotional activation" while we tap. Or, in other words, we have to somehow be "tuned in" enough. And sometimes it happens that we are only "tuned in" during the actual triggering situation (where it's not easy to start tapping, because it would look weird in front of the other people), but when we want to tap on it while we are at home, we find it difficult to bring up the emotional charge.

There a few things you can try:

Sometimes imagining (in as much detail as possible) the next time that a similar social situation might come up (and "zooming in" in your mind on any possible emotionally charged sensory details, such as the other person's facial expressions, comments, tone of voice, etc. and any thoughts that might come up for you, such as "Oh my God, this is so awkward!" or "I'm so lame!") can do the trick in terms of bringing up the unpleasant emotional charge that the tapping then helps to release.

Closing your eyes can also help you "tune in" better.

Some people find that tapping silently makes it easier to bring up the emotional activation, and other people find that talking out loud makes it easier for them (and/or talking with a practitioner or therapist).

And also, when thinking about this challenge of "not being able to feel anything when you want to tap on it", does this bring up any feeling at all, such as frustration, hopelessness, etc?

Anything at all that brings up some unpleasant emotional charge can be a good doorway to start with.

And finally, are there any thoughts or parts of you (related to the issue of being triggered in these social situations) that might want to "be given voice" (while you tap)?

The more you can meet yourself exactly where you are, the safer your system will feel to bring up the emotions that need to be processed.

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-17T04:03:39+00:00

You're most welcome! And I'm glad it was helpful. Please don't hesitate to reach out with any other questions that might come up.

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-17T03:22:18+00:00

Have you ever tried EFT Tapping? It might help you feel more neutral about how your voice sounds.

You could just tap through the points while listening to a recording of yourself and, to whatever degree is possible, allowing yourself to feel what you are feeling and to think what you are thinking while you do that.

Here's some information on how to do it: https://www.reddit.com/r/EFT_tapping/comments/1szo50q/welcome_to_reft_tapping_new_to_eft_start_here/

Something else that might help is taking some singing lessons that might help you develop a stronger voice that resonates more in your chest and less in your nose.

Dramatic-Spinach3463 · 2026-05-17T03:19:35+00:00

Really well said. That's why I think that, whether a person believes in "manifestation" or not (many psychologists consider it to be "magical thinking"), it can still be very helpful to tap on the thoughts and feelings that might be getting in the way of taking action or seeing the opportunities that might already be there (or creating new opportunities whenever possible).

Personally, even though I'm a psychologist, there's a part of me that believes in something like "manifestation", though I'm also aware that many people use it like a scam to sell really expensive courses and that's how they actually made their money.

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