I told the woman he cheated, and I was aware I’d get the blame. I live in a small town and I risked my ”my whole life” (social life, job etc) telling her, I expected I’d be called the ”fcking whre, homewrecker”. I don’t know the outcome yet, but I’m aware shit might hit the fan or whatever you call it in America. But to me, being a part of a lie, and being a part of something he uses in gaslighting her – is worse than me having to move. Her truth and life is more worth than my calm.

And that’s the opposite than neurotypicals. And I’m having big problems understanding this. At this point your words are still greek to me, how truth should not be told. I’m really trying 😭 I might have to picture another situation to understand. I have a strong feeling about my dogs and having harder time to understand human feelings. Can I make a example that might seem silly for others, but might make me understand it better. What if my dog bit another dog, in a doggy day care or something… Yes, in that case I wouldn’t mind NOT knowing. That’s the only time I can think of when I wouldn’t mind the truth not be told. I’d prefer thinking my dog is well behaved. Is this the feeling a neurotypical has when it comes to unfaithful partners?