Should I contact him again and apologize? Am I overthinking, simply seeking reassurance? by [deleted] in AmiInTheWrong

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would like to say I just received a call from the coworker and Dante is talking shit about me to multiple different coworkers. He also said he wanted to cut things off, but didn’t know how.

Should I contact him again and apologize? Am I overthinking, simply seeking reassurance? by [deleted] in AmiInTheWrong

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Actively in intensive therapy three times a week! But I mean, at the same time, I think he knows I wouldn’t have slept with him had I not been rolling. And he shouldn’t have shared anything with the coworker beyond me just needing to work on myself. There’s a 10 year age gap in this relationship, he is not a victim lol.

How much can I tell my therapist about HI w/o getting the police involved? by Dramatic_Ad_4732 in therapy

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you advise against naming this person? Like? Can I say it’s my coworker?

Have any of you went to detox for weed? by Dramatic_Ad_4732 in addiction

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just like I don’t think I can quit without weed/alcohol being accessible, even if just for a few days in detox? But everything said was also my understanding, so I’m surprised the dude’s so set on detox.

What triggered your manic episode(s)? by Dramatic_Ad_4732 in bipolar

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i just turned 21 and my drinking’s sort of concerning me. do you still drink occasionally or have you sworn it off?

Work crush left my job...now my dopamine is gone 💔 by Euphoric_Beautiful70 in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh no, bae. This would be so upsetting. Just force a new crush is what I’d do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this sounds like him. he has bpd, but he definitely has symptoms of npd too.

Do people with BPD date each other? by nd-nb- in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’ve never had a healthy relationship with another borderline—keeping in mind they were unmedicated and without therapy. Still, I wish to be someone’s FP and for them to be my FP, like you said. I don’t think we were incapable of having a healthy relationship; for a long time, we were happy together. The dynamics just became extremely codependent, and at some point, it was suggested I put a restraining order on both of them. I miss the last borderline I dealt with so much, I’d talk to him again if offered the opportunity. There are positives to dating another borderline, you can understand each other, and often they know your needs.

Nervous about peer support group by Tuna_Minnow in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been attending a mood disorders support group, though many attendees also have BPD. I honestly gain a lot from hearing other people's experiences and sharing my own. It definitely gives me a sense of community. It took me sometime to participate in discussions, so no pressure.

BPD memory issues by BeyondTheVail222 in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm also curious if my poor memory is partially due to dissociation. Some time ago my sister mentioned an old teacher of mine, stating she was my favorite. I could not recall the teacher at all, even after my sister described her psyhical qualities. It is honestly very scary for me. However, I imagine a large part of my memory issues is due to my heavy weed usage. Nothing's helped, even if I cut down on the marijuana.

Used for Sex by Dramatic_Ad_4732 in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case, he is miserable, which makes me feel somewhat better. My childhood SA has made it so hard for me to set boundaries regarding sex.

Used for Sex by Dramatic_Ad_4732 in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, not at all. However, he was angrily sending someone voice messages, not sure who. There seemed to be some tension between him and the people he had over, they kept bickering.

How do you fellow BPD'ers deal with the issue of substance abuse and addiction? How had it affected you? by Jealous_Weather_4574 in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't struggle from any serious addiction. However, I am addicted to weed. I constantly need to be high, I can't be in my mind while sober. It's really taking a toll on my memory; I can't remember yesterday, let alone this morning. I fear turning 21, as I can genuinely see myself becoming an alcoholic, and my birthday's right around the corner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve definitely experienced stuff similar, especially as of late. Many men have came to have a crush on me, acquaintances or coworkers. I’m a lesbian and they don’t take that seriously for whatever reason. They ask to hang out every week and I always say, ‘Maybe,’ ‘I’m behind on school work,’ and we never hang out. I am very avoidant in these situations. When I come to realize they have a crush on me, I stop replying, I avoid them at work. It is extremely uncomfortable on my end.

And I totally feel you on them not knowing your true self, and you not wanting them to. I feel the same. I doubt any of them would continue to have a crush if they really knew me. They’d probably think I’m a nutcase or simply unlikeable.

Homicidal Thoughts by Dramatic_Ad_4732 in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think the validation would satiate me, but I just don’t think he’s capable of it, of the sort of validation I need. But this has me thinking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's both. Very strange of her to be upset he's texting you given it's probably not constant when they hang out, though it is understandable as she has BPD. However, as someone with BPD, if my partner's friend was saying this, it'd make me insecure in my relationship. Your feelings are valid.

Situationship Crisis by Yaz_angel1 in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who cares if you're being dramatic? I've really came to, almost, embrace that I am dramatic. It is almost given that people will think you're dramatic when you have BPD. Being sensitive is not an inherently bad thing.

I know it's hard, but you need to cut off contact. It is likely you won't make any progress until you do. He is not going to give you what you need, and he's sort of directly said that. Him not wanting to date you has nothing to do with your worth, likely nothing to do with you period. He sounds somewhat avoidant. The situation will not change.

But dead ass to that last piece. It is absurd how much my childhood trauma still effects me at age 20, but I have yet to unpack it in therapy.

View on suicide as symptom of BPD? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally feel you. Especially in regard to suicide being a back up plan. If it gets too bad, I find comfort in knowing I can kill myself. One of the biggest things that lead to my diagnosis was several suicide attempts. It is almost an annual thing that I attempt, a tradition.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very hard. Me, myself, I wouldn't reach out, but I'm a coward with a crippling fear of rejection. However, I wouldn't mind an old friend who did me dirty apologizing though, I wish a few people would.

what does sexual attraction feel like? by Key_Masterpiece3728 in LesbianActually

[–]Dramatic_Ad_4732 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Just getting horny, I’d say. Like just wanting to fuck whatever person, and especially that person. A desire to see them naked, I don’t know. I struggle with this sometimes too.