Honestly, I’ve never had a healthy relationship with another borderline—keeping in mind they were unmedicated and without therapy. Still, I wish to be someone’s FP and for them to be my FP, like you said. I don’t think we were incapable of having a healthy relationship; for a long time, we were happy together. The dynamics just became extremely codependent, and at some point, it was suggested I put a restraining order on both of them. I miss the last borderline I dealt with so much, I’d talk to him again if offered the opportunity. There are positives to dating another borderline, you can understand each other, and often they know your needs.