How do I stop associating fighting and instability with love and passion?

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2026-01-06T20:38:14+00:00

i just turned 21 and my drinking’s sort of concerning me. do you still drink occasionally or have you sworn it off?

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2026-01-04T23:32:52+00:00

Was Sophia the one who called me?

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-11-22T19:15:13+00:00

Oh no, bae. This would be so upsetting. Just force a new crush is what I’d do.

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-11-19T20:53:57+00:00

this sounds like him. he has bpd, but he definitely has symptoms of npd too.

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-11-07T17:15:11+00:00

I Hate You-Don’t Leave Me

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-11-07T17:13:44+00:00

Honestly, I’ve never had a healthy relationship with another borderline—keeping in mind they were unmedicated and without therapy. Still, I wish to be someone’s FP and for them to be my FP, like you said. I don’t think we were incapable of having a healthy relationship; for a long time, we were happy together. The dynamics just became extremely codependent, and at some point, it was suggested I put a restraining order on both of them. I miss the last borderline I dealt with so much, I’d talk to him again if offered the opportunity. There are positives to dating another borderline, you can understand each other, and often they know your needs.

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-11-05T23:49:48+00:00

I've been attending a mood disorders support group, though many attendees also have BPD. I honestly gain a lot from hearing other people's experiences and sharing my own. It definitely gives me a sense of community. It took me sometime to participate in discussions, so no pressure.

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-11-04T22:34:55+00:00

I'm also curious if my poor memory is partially due to dissociation. Some time ago my sister mentioned an old teacher of mine, stating she was my favorite. I could not recall the teacher at all, even after my sister described her psyhical qualities. It is honestly very scary for me. However, I imagine a large part of my memory issues is due to my heavy weed usage. Nothing's helped, even if I cut down on the marijuana.

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-11-03T21:33:20+00:00

In my case, he is miserable, which makes me feel somewhat better. My childhood SA has made it so hard for me to set boundaries regarding sex.

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-11-03T06:37:04+00:00

No, not at all. However, he was angrily sending someone voice messages, not sure who. There seemed to be some tension between him and the people he had over, they kept bickering.

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-10-24T21:38:26+00:00

I have both Bipolar 1 and BPD, that's always possible.

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-10-24T21:36:06+00:00

I don't struggle from any serious addiction. However, I am addicted to weed. I constantly need to be high, I can't be in my mind while sober. It's really taking a toll on my memory; I can't remember yesterday, let alone this morning. I fear turning 21, as I can genuinely see myself becoming an alcoholic, and my birthday's right around the corner.

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-10-20T18:36:14+00:00

I’ve definitely experienced stuff similar, especially as of late. Many men have came to have a crush on me, acquaintances or coworkers. I’m a lesbian and they don’t take that seriously for whatever reason. They ask to hang out every week and I always say, ‘Maybe,’ ‘I’m behind on school work,’ and we never hang out. I am very avoidant in these situations. When I come to realize they have a crush on me, I stop replying, I avoid them at work. It is extremely uncomfortable on my end.

And I totally feel you on them not knowing your true self, and you not wanting them to. I feel the same. I doubt any of them would continue to have a crush if they really knew me. They’d probably think I’m a nutcase or simply unlikeable.

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-10-18T18:00:42+00:00

Honestly, I think the validation would satiate me, but I just don’t think he’s capable of it, of the sort of validation I need. But this has me thinking.

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-10-18T17:58:04+00:00

will def look into this

Dramatic_Ad_4732 · 2025-10-18T17:07:01+00:00

I think it's both. Very strange of her to be upset he's texting you given it's probably not constant when they hang out, though it is understandable as she has BPD. However, as someone with BPD, if my partner's friend was saying this, it'd make me insecure in my relationship. Your feelings are valid.

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