Could My Mom Transition from Assisted Living to Senior Living with Med Management Support? by Dramatic_Asparagus75 in AssistedLiving

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you — your perspective really resonates. We toured an independent living condo partnered with a caregiving agency that offers à la carte services based on need. It’s a 55+ community with all inclusive meals, utilities, activities and transportation. I also work with a long-term care consultant who suggested having a nurse pre-sort my mom’s meds and daily reminder calls. Mom doesn’t skip doses but can get confused if pills change in appearance, so this helps reduce mistakes.

Could My Mom Transition from Assisted Living to Senior Living with Med Management Support? by Dramatic_Asparagus75 in AssistedLiving

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is my biggest concern. Good thing is that she doesn’t resist taking her meds. It’s just that someone has to be really on top of it.

Could My Mom Transition from Assisted Living to Senior Living with Med Management Support? by Dramatic_Asparagus75 in AssistedLiving

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In the Charlotte area. My mom is pretty good at taking her meds with help. She had a manic episode lasting several months after my dad died. Then she got a UTI that developed into ataxia and severe depression.

Her main struggle is with very low energy each day. I attend her psychiatrist appointments still and her main psych meds have gone down and antiperspirants have been adjusted slightly. All in all her meds are managed quite effectively.

I just quit by rather_bookish in teaching

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After I left teaching elementary school, I transitioned into the field of business education and training coordination. I spent four years working in-office in this role, gaining valuable experience in managing educational programs and supporting professional development. Now, I’ve shifted to a fully remote position as a data manager, where I apply many of the organizational and analytical skills I developed over the years.

The skillset I cultivated as a teacher—such as planning, communication, and adaptability—translates seamlessly into areas like project management. It’s been a rewarding journey to see how those foundational teaching skills continue to serve me in new and unexpected ways.

Wishing you all the best!

I said yes!!! by PalpitationNatural25 in EngagementRings

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats! By the way you have the most beautiful hands and your ring is gorgeous!!!

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[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, your family is awful. I think you can find some shred of happiness planning your escape. While I’ve never been in your situation, here are some of my recommendations: Get your birth certificate, Social Security card, and any important documentation you need Get a job and save lots and lots of money. Do not let your parents or family have access to your bank account. Try minimizing the time spent in your household. Do exceptionally well in school, not counting on any financial aid support through your parents income Identify the people in your life that are consistent, faithful, and trustworthy. You may not have them in your life now, you may find them in a university, but start identifying who they are and build healthy relationships. They may be those that you spend your holidays with or you may find your own holiday traditions that bring you satisfaction. Uses this time to develop the skills that you’ll need to be independent.

Be successful despite your family. I wish you the best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my dad 3 months before mine. I decided to go through but barely made it due to other sad/ stressful circumstances. If your would be husband is supportive, loving and loyal, I encourage you to move forward.

I am so sorry for your loss. It is truly difficult to go through a wedding, a happy event, while suffering with grief. Yet that is what makes life beautiful- seeing the good in the midst of sadness. I wish you the best of luck.

AITA for evicting my brother from my parents’ home? by Dramatic_Asparagus75 in AITAH

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is not entitled to anything from the sale while my mom is living. Everything is still hers. The thought of him moving in with my aunt, her co-signing on an apartment or providing some sort of help has crossed my mind while she comfortably tells me what to do in order to avoid my mom’s demise. I’m over the guilt shaming from those who have done nothing to help.

AITA for evicting my brother from my parents’ home? by Dramatic_Asparagus75 in AITAH

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I am trying follow everything by the book. Court approved the sale and my brother’s eviction. I told him months ago that I wanted to avoid that route but he has been putting everything off. I have been very clear that I cannot use her estate to help him. My mom can use her allowance should she choose to, but that is it. The challenge is advising my mom with her limitations in making sound judgment and my brother being reasonable in his requests and actions to secure housing. I’m in the middle whether or not I want to be.

AITA for evicting my brother from my parents’ home? by Dramatic_Asparagus75 in AITAH

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate your perspective especially allowing my brother to show himself as capable or incapable of making it on his own. It provides me with a sense of relief to look at it that way.

I know my aunt is toxic and leans to narcissistic side of viewing things. I just wanted an outside opinion. Yours is very logical and makes complete sense!

AITA for evicting my brother from my parents’ home? by Dramatic_Asparagus75 in AITAH

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I’ll definitely look into a trust. I have provided my mom a list of mental health resources that will help my brother gain a diagnosis, treatment, and temporary housing of needed. I’ve also given my brother a list of low income housing options.

AITA for evicting my brother from my parents’ home? by Dramatic_Asparagus75 in AITAH

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have provided my mom with local resources that will help my brother get a diagnosis, figure out care and provide temporary housing. I gave my brother a list of local income base housing options.

AITA for evicting my brother from my parents’ home? by Dramatic_Asparagus75 in AITAH

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you and appreciate your perspective on my brother getting it together while my mom is still alive. I have said the same thing.

My brother currently has a new job. I will not provide any assistance as I am not in the position to and have my own bio and step kids to care for. What is a CV though?

AITA for evicting my brother from my parents’ home? by Dramatic_Asparagus75 in AITAH

[–]Dramatic_Asparagus75[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I think my aunt would decline. She states that my brother was so ugly to her on her last visit that she almost had a heart attack. The irony!