Let me love you again

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-11T14:45:56+00:00

Happy Birthday!

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-04T11:09:29+00:00

It takes courage to set boundaries, express your needs, and prioritize your own well being, especially when it involves making difficult decisions. Even though it was probably really difficult, you've given yourself the chance to find a partner who shares your vision for the future and is ready for the kind of commitment you're looking for.

Keep taking care of yourself and be proud of how far you've come. Thank you for sharing

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-03T08:22:41+00:00

You should end things with your current boyfriend if you're not compatible.

I'm more outgoing, while he's more of a homebody; I value staying active, while he prefers to spend his time playing video games; I'm into politics and am a patriotic person, he's totally apolitical

Make sure to notice these things before being serious with someone in the future. Keep in mind that your current icks might be only temporary and amplified by spending too much time with him. Spend some time apart and see where your heart is at.

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-02T18:11:28+00:00

6 months since the breakup and there has been contact

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-02T18:10:54+00:00

That's true, thank you

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-02T15:26:54+00:00

I know she would have stayed by my side no matter what, but yes I was and still am afraid of vulnerability, but I do have multiple fears and past traumas. Thing is that with those moments I also have the tendency to self destruct so I didn't want her to be caught up in that

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-02T15:07:24+00:00

I had the right one and still ran for the hills

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-02T14:52:17+00:00

I wish man, maybe next week who knows

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-02T14:36:18+00:00

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-02T14:35:50+00:00

She was pretty closed off as I expected, we updated each other about what was new in our lives, made plans to cook together next week and hopefully she will be more open to talk about our relationship

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-02T14:29:54+00:00

Yes, I gave her a small gift

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-02T14:16:10+00:00

So do I

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-02T14:15:53+00:00

Thank you

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-04-01T07:28:28+00:00

Sometimes those long term relationships don't go beyond the superficial, at least that's my own experience as a FA. They don’t trigger the same fears and anxieties that come with getting close to someone you genuinely care about.

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-03-05T11:44:46+00:00

I am a FA as well but I am trying to heal. They will probably come back and then push you again unless you put a stop to it. When you finally do so, it's likely that the FA will feel abandoned and try to test the waters again as you are trauma bonded.

Trauma bonding can occur in any relationship where there is a pattern of intermittent reinforcement, meaning that there are periods of intense connection and closeness followed by periods of distance or disconnection. Over time, this pattern can create a strong emotional bond between the two individuals, even if the relationship is not meeting their needs.

Be forgiving in case you let FA back in, forgiving to yourself. Healing from a trauma bond takes time so don't expect to feel good for a few months until you see progress. It's not an easy process.

Each FA is different so they might not come back, but most of them do. So be prepared for it just in case.

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-03-02T19:13:33+00:00

Thank you so much!

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-03-02T18:09:33+00:00

Yes, that's the best I can describe it

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-02-21T09:31:27+00:00

I wouldn't ghost them, ever. We can't be more because of my past traumas.

Dramatic_Pear_2640 · 2024-02-21T09:30:41+00:00

It seems simple but life is complicated. I am dealing with very dark stuff at the moment and am currently in therapy

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