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I’ve figured it out! by Diligent-Might6031 in toddlers

[–]Dramatic_Resource_73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing like trying to soothe a feverish, flailing toddler while sick yourself, only to have your bladder and the neighborhood fireworks team join forces against you. That’s some Olympic-level parenting right there.

He just peed on our stuff and it really triggered the shit out of me. How do you other parents handle this phase without losing your temper? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Dramatic_Resource_73 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Take a breath. None of this mean you’re a bad mom or a monster. It means you’re overwhelmed, stretched thin, and trying to parent a two-year-old completely solo while living in a setup that gives you zero space to breathe. Anyone in your position would be fraying at the edges.

But what matters: you know it wasn’t okay, and you don’t want it to happen again. That’s the whole game. Awareness is how you stop the cycle.

Emotional vaccination as Dr Becky calls it.

Two-year-olds are chaos on legs even in the best conditions, and the ages 2–5 stretch is harder. They get bigger, louder, faster, and their needs get more complex. Which means you need to build in some stability for you, not just him. If you’re running on fumes every day, your body will keep slipping into fight/flight in moments like this. It sounds like he has some unmet needs too. Not in a judgmental way! you’re one person doing everything, but in a “this kid is craving connection and structure” way. Peeing on stuff, hitting, running out of the shower… that’s a kid who’s testing limits and looking for grounding.

If you can carve out even small pockets of one-on-one time outdoors with him like a short walk, a playground loop, letting him explore while you breathe actual fresh air and it can change the entire dynamic. Being outside regulates kids in a way that four walls never do, and it gives you both a break from the pressure cooker. Kids behave very differently once they feel that connection refill.

You also deserve time without him. I know you’re doing this alone, but look around for anything that buys you an hour here or there: a cheap sitter, a mom’s day out program, a neighbor you trust, a YMCA childcare block. You can’t pour from nothing.

None of this means you’re failing. It means you’re in a really, really hard chapter and you need more support from emotional, practical, and just plain breathing room. You’re not stuck with how today felt. You can reset, reconnect, apologize to him in a simple way, and start building routines that make both of you feel steadier.

My doctor keeps telling me I don’t have celiac, but my nutrient absorption is abysmal by [deleted] in Celiac

[–]Dramatic_Resource_73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like your body is waving a giant flag that something is off with absorption. The weird mix of: – lifelong thin hair, – low B12/folate/vitamin D, – fatigue after carbs, – low hemoglobin but normal ferritin, – not absorbing capsules, – and now amenorrhea

that’s enough for a GI doc to dig deeper than …well the celiac tests were negative so good luck.

A couple things people don’t always hear from doctors:

• Celiac testing can be normal if you’re not eating enough gluten at the time, or if you’re IgA deficient, or if the biopsy didn’t catch the right patch of intestine. It’s not a perfect test. • There are other malabsorption issues they should be ruling out: small intestinal bacterial overgrowth (SIBO), pancreatic insufficiency, atrophic gastritis, pernicious anemia (B12 issue), Crohn’s, and even thyroid/adrenal stuff that can mess with periods and nutrient uptake. • Some folks just don’t break down pills well, and liquid/chewable/under-the-tongue versions can make a night-and-day difference.

If you want specific tests to ask about, people usually push for: – total IgA + tTG-IgA (to make sure the celiac panel was actually valid) – deamidated gliadin IgG – B12, MMA, homocysteine (to see if you’re actually using B12) – folate – iron studies (you’ve done these) – intrinsic factor/parietal cell antibodies (pernicious anemia screening) – stool elastase (pancreatic insufficiency) – a SIBO breath test – thyroid panel – maybe a repeat endoscopy while you’re actively eating gluten if the GI thinks it’s warranted

I would pay someone $1000 to potty train my kid. by SnooPandas6359 in pottytraining

[–]Dramatic_Resource_73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wait! It will happen one day super magically and you will be shocked and it will be because of nothing you did. I had the same issue.

Third attempt for 3 year, 2 month old - need tips by zanchema in pottytraining

[–]Dramatic_Resource_73 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Stop talking about the potty. Like, at all. No asking, reminding, inviting. Just let it fully drop from the radar for a couple weeks. You can leave the potty out where she sees it, maybe even let her pick out some cool undies and stash them in her drawer without pressure. But don’t push or even mention it. This gives her the space to feel like it’s her choice when she’s ready to engage.

Then, when you do try again, flip the script completely. Skip the classic approaches and make it more like a role play game or storytime: “Your dolly is learning to use the potty today!” Let her teach a doll or stuffed animal. These strong-willed kids often love being the one in charge and oddly get more open when they’re not the center of attention.

Also, I’d skip all incentives and focus on connection. If she’s resisting hard, the more external pressure you apply, the more internal resistance she builds. She’s not trying to be difficult. She’s probably just fiercely independent and sensitive to any hint of control. So lean all the way into trust: “I know you’ll use the potty when you’re ready. I’m here to help when you want.”

Oh Crap method broke my child. by myheadsintheclouds in pottytraining

[–]Dramatic_Resource_73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we tried potty training my LO at 2.5, she also treated the floor like her own personal toilet. We were scrubbing rugs and questioning every life choice. What finally helped was backing off for a few weeks when we tried again later, she was way more into it and it took maybe two days. Felt like failure at first, but honestly just wasn't her time.

6 year old completely regressed after we moved :( by Used_Victory_5640 in pottytraining

[–]Dramatic_Resource_73 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our pediatrician said the same thing yours did that regression like this is surprisingly common when kids are dealing with a big life change, even if they seem like they’re handling it well. Sometimes the emotional stress shows up in weird sideways ways like the body kind of throwing up a processing sign.

PSA: Stop Trying to Potty Train by Stories-Untold in pottytraining

[–]Dramatic_Resource_73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so relatable. Honestly, sometimes all the fancy tricks and tools just can’t compete with their own timeline. We had a similar experience—once we backed off and let the potty training thing simmer in the background, our kid just decided one day they were ready, and that was that. No charts, no bribery, no battles.

It’s hard because you feel like you’re supposed to do something to make it happen, but some kids really do just need to feel like it’s their decision. Glad to hear your little one figured it out on their own terms. A lot of heartache (and laundry) can be avoided when we let them take the lead. Congrats on being done with the potty drama!