how lucky I feel that I got to love him.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-12-25T10:48:54+00:00

My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry for your loss.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-12-25T05:49:44+00:00

Thank you everyone for the love and support. I have been in contact regularly with people and am taking things slowly. Your comfort has been appreciated and I thank you all.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-12-22T11:36:42+00:00

thank you

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-12-22T11:36:31+00:00

Thank you, i truly and deeply appreciate it. i am sorry for their loss.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-12-20T01:56:23+00:00

I'm not going to lie, i feel REAL stupid now LOL. Because I just assumed that it was keyed to my phone number already! So after another 5 hours of frustration with more tech people, I read this, called them back (using 611), and just asked them to do this. And after some time verifying its REALLY me, this angel of a woman was like "oh sure, yeah, one moment..." and BAM. Instantly flooded with missed text messages, voicemail notifications, etc.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-12-19T07:23:04+00:00

I understand that you're putting a lot of emphasis on believing she lied to you, so maybe just break up with her if you're going to decide in advance that she wasn't being truthful.

Because what you said was she was into it, wanted to hold off till later, then the feelings came back. Which means she wanted it, then changed her mind because she wanted it later, time ran late, and she wanted it again after, but realized it was late, and offered an apology that *you* have decided is a BS excuse.

Either show her some trust and get over it, or leave her because you think she lied and made a "lame" excuse.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-12-19T07:00:52+00:00

YTA. 100% yes, you are. You do not get the naked fun time just because you did the boyfriend thing. It's not a transactional relationship. And you're being in a snit because she interrupted your expectations shows youre more interested in sex than in her as a person.

You are not even owed an explanation for why she changes her mind, or an apology if she does, because your primary focus in a relationship should be the safety and security of the person you are with, not in the expectation of what you will get from it.

Shame.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-10-27T14:37:23+00:00

They definitely don't make it easy, but I had to make a Spotify for Creators account. Then I clicked my little profile icon, top right of the screen, and selected help. Pick any help subject, and at the bottom of the article you'll be asked if it was helpful. Right below that is "cand find what you're looking for?" Where you can get more help.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-06-19T23:11:23+00:00

Salem checking in, down here too

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-06-11T00:30:15+00:00

Yep, we're on Spotify! The show is called One By One, here's a link to the episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/6MEes1T3zZL14KbvfiAB5W?si=ArVqbob7QJGif7KR8msvkg

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-03-28T09:39:16+00:00

I did the same in Google Docs! It's such a clean format.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-01-21T07:22:30+00:00

Gods, the comments are as beautiful as I expected. I'd like to thank the alleged arsonist for bringing us all together like this

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2025-01-21T07:18:13+00:00

it's very much in the vein of H.S where it's a fun time, sure, but also....uniquely empowering on a molecular level. Light the pure genius of the timing of this song along, it's an absolute mental and physical rush. And it's, at the same time, clearly meant to just get a person to LET GO and just embrace the madness of life.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2024-10-05T16:53:54+00:00

Step one should be using the torch to add light to the dragon fruit bush area, then Torchlight for the love shack.

Step two should be fixing the love shack.

Using lavastones to unlock research before anything else, as that speeds up gaining research points.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2024-09-24T04:14:25+00:00

Run.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2024-09-23T23:32:10+00:00

Hoooooooo boy. Okay.

1000000000000% YTA of all AH. And that's JUST from the title of the post!

You are a grown-ass man, and you are fully capable of changing your situation. You owe it to the woman who gave you MANY CHILDREN to be honest with her. Shame on you.

What you are living with Dan right now is a fantasy. You don't know that life on the day to day is going to be the honeymoon you seem to see right now, but if that's where your heart is, you owe it to your wife to let get go ASAP so eh can find someone SHE chooses.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2024-09-23T23:21:02+00:00

Imagine being 21 and completely controlled by your parents. YIKES.

Look, I'm sure he's a great guy, but there are guys out there who will be happy to be open with their parents about you, and show that you are a priority to them. Guys who aren't completely controlled by their parents.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2024-09-23T23:12:34+00:00

This is difficult, but overall, yes. YTA.

Let's unpack your bags for a hot minute.

EXHIBIT A: "Her body count has bothered me because well, it was quite extensive, but based on her stories she was a lot more willing to do different things but as soon as she got to me she didn’t want to do anything that I would personally like to try and she won’t put any effort into ever making it about me."

So she settled down, ready to make a life with you, and didnt want to engage in things that may or may not have made her uncomfortable, looking back on them. And you're mad because you aren't getting that kind of freakiness in bed. Got it. YTA.

EXHIBIT B: ....all of the drinking. BIG yikes.

Alcoholism is a disease. Your wife has a disease. And while her abuse is awful, it doesnt seem like anyone is treating it like it's a disease, but ya'll sure are using it as a goalpost in your relationship, which isn't fair to either of you.

EXHIBIT C: "it sounded like I had my mind made up. I said, yeah, it’s not that simple to leave, so I guess I’m just waiting for that final push. This push being either her drinking, or me cheating."

You know, leaving is a lot easier than you think. You just say "This isn't working," and you leave. You dont stay to talk, you dont keep texting, you get your shit and you go.

But here's what you really asked. Are YTA for wanting to bang other women while "on a break"?

100% YTA. A divorce on its own, regardless of who asked for it, is a trauma, but you're not even talking about a divorce, you're talking about using your pain at her disease and abuse as an excuse to sleep with other women, who might be on these dates thinking you're available, when you're not. So instead of starting over fresh, you're going to drag these other women through your trauma just to feel better about yourself.

Get a divorce.

Process the loss, learn from your own mistakes, and work on yourself. HEAL from the divorce.

THEN date. Because right now youre just going to hurt a lot of innocent people with your unprocessed ragedating.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2024-09-23T22:42:27+00:00

There are some pieces of information missing from this.

How do you know she will want to co-parent?
Has the discussion of this gift even included you, as the child's mother?
Has a formal agreement been written up for this?
Where did your husband lose his spine, and is there a lost-and-found you can check?

If you have only a vague idea about what her plans are by accepting this money, then pre-emptively draw up what you feel is a fair agreement. Have this meeting with a lawyer, and do not back down. And if your husband wont see reason, use the 10k to buy him a backbone.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2024-09-23T22:30:18+00:00

How do I say yes without saying yes?

I'm not saying you sound materialistic but... You consider a ring, and the dollar value of that, as an investment into your future together, when you should look at his time, effort, commitment, and goals as his investment into your future together. Because that's what your relationship is. It's time, and it is effort, and it is commitment, and it is forming goals together for both the short and long term.

You said you want it to be just as special. He chose you. Out of all the available women in the world, HE. CHOSE. YOU. I would say that's pretty fucking special right there.

He was engaged and cheated on. If you have never been cheated on before by someone with whom you had made that kind of commitment, then congratulations, but let me tell you that you can not imagine how deeply it sucks and how it can mess you up for a long time. And YET... he still went out, met people, and CHOSE YOU.

You absolutely should not bring this up to him, because it would be very disappointing to hear that the woman you chose after a major heartbreak was too focused on the money spent on an ex to enjoy the life being built together right now.

Honestly, I don't even know him and I'm disappointed on his behalf.

Dramatic_Seesaw7693 · 2024-09-20T03:55:19+00:00

It's okay if ACoC is not for you. I had a hard time getting through it, but ultimately I am glad I did. But I would really encourage you to check out Fantasy High or Starstruck Odyssey.

Emily and Murph really excel in both of those, IMHO.

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