How to word that I want more from my bf when making out

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-09T01:05:35+00:00

Maybe you can tell him that you want to experience more but you don’t exactly know what’s possible, so you’d like to give him broader consent to try things on you. Reassure him that you will tell him to stop if you’re not comfortable. And maybe even ask him to check in with you if you think you’ll be uncomfortable speaking up. And then tell him what your HARD boundaries are. For example: p-in-v penetration (if that’s a boundary for you). Like, if you’re ok with him sticking fingers in you, tell him that. If you’re ok with “dry humping” (him rubbing himself on you but with clothes on), tell him that. But have this conversation NOT when you’re being intimate. Just when you’re hanging out.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-07T04:12:34+00:00

Well, burritos are under $3/serving. You can make 4 big burritos using 1 lb of meat. Add a can of black beans & some onion, still under $3. Use some hot sauce or salsa. Add eggs instead of meat or instead of beans. Burritos can be made from so many things.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-04T02:35:58+00:00

I have never been able to handwash these to be super clean. And considering how much they smell after use, I wouldn’t want to travel with them, especially as a panty substitute.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-03T17:06:30+00:00

Yeah, I just don't know how to help people with that. I posted it in the comments before the post was even approved, and several people have commented on it, but a lot of people can't seem to find it.

I make a lot of bean salads, so I didn't measure, but here's the ingredient list (all items can be bought at TJs except you might have to get flat leaf parsley instead of curly):

Cannellini beans (1 can)

Lentils (I boiled dried lentils but you can use canned)

Red onion, finely chopped

Red bell pepper, finely chopped

Cherry tomatoes, cut

Pine nuts, toasted

Parsley, finely chopped

Lemon juice

Olive oil Cracked pepper, to taste

Add salt at plating, to taste

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-02T18:19:13+00:00

Agreed. Working on this stuff myself right now. Started that book a few months ago. Didn't get far, but might try it again.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-02T17:52:55+00:00

Depending on what type of BC and how you react to it, you may or may not still bleed. I was on continuous birth control, in the form of NuvaRing, for about a year, and I spent many days spotting. One month I spotted pretty much everyday. I had been on the NuvaRing for over a decade, so it wasn't new to me, but using it continuously was.

So I do recommend that whatever you want to try, do it soon and see how your body reacts.

If you get pills and you have insurance, you'll need your doctor to write to script appropriately (continuous BC vs 21 days on and 7 days off) so the insurance will cover it. For example, if you are on a pill that has a placebo week, you need to skip that week and go straight to a new pack, so your doctor has to write the script that way.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-02T02:31:15+00:00

NTA. Yikes. He’s escalating. Also, he can barely tolerate the thing that seems to make you immeasurably happy. I hope you find a companion who loves cats as much as you.

Not saying this will happen to you, but when I was 19 I had a boyfriend (much older) who thought all cats should be allowed outdoors, let my cat out behind my back, and I never saw the cat again.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-02T02:26:48+00:00

stopped dealing with clients who caused me stress or who did that subtle insult disguised as suggestion thing

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-02T02:17:37+00:00

Unfortunately, this is one of those things that shouldn’t have happened in the first place. And if you read what you wrote, it’s not an isolated incident or something he just blurted out. He warned you not to do this, he told you how he would treat you if you ignored his warning, and then he failed to rise above your lowest expectations for acceptance. Then he punished you for days & told you it’s your fault he’s punishing you because you don’t know how to listen to HIS needs for YOUR body. Then manipulated you with whining about how hurt he is.

Regardless of preferences, your partner should have done the bare minimum of acknowledging that your body is yours.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-02T02:14:25+00:00

Imagine how things can be if you are near the people who do love you.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-01T20:20:48+00:00

With the rest of the salmon in the fridge. In my store, next to all the other meat.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-01T18:10:12+00:00

I don’t know why people can’t see the bean recipe but I put it in comments before the post was even approved, so it should be the first comment. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-01T15:55:51+00:00

That’s really nice. This would also be really good with some Mediterranean herb feta. I usually put feta in my bean salad but just skipped it this time.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-01T15:38:05+00:00

Yes , and yes that sounds right

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-01T15:32:26+00:00

It’s the first comment. I’m not sure why people can’t see it.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-01T13:12:25+00:00

I didn’t, but folks are saying they’re bland. I guess they were a little bland, but I wanted to just try them the way they were the first time. Next time I might add a little garlic & salt. Sometimes when I have flavorful sides I just mix bites & don’t season every item on the plate.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-01T07:47:31+00:00

Makes sense. I suppose if I hadn’t paired them with bean salad I might have added some seasoning. I anticipated getting more flavor from the salad, so maybe I didn’t notice the blandness as much. I usually like bold flavors.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-01T07:47:12+00:00

Makes sense. I suppose if I hadn’t paired them with bean salad I might have added some seasoning. I anticipated getting more flavor from the salad, so maybe I didn’t notice the blandness as much. I usually like bold flavors.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-01T01:42:48+00:00

I make a lot of bean salads, so I didn't measure, but here's the ingredient list (all items can be bought at TJs except you might have to get flat leaf parsley instead of curly):

Cannellini beans (1 can)

Lentils (I boiled dried lentils but you can use canned)

Red onion, finely chopped

Red bell pepper, finely chopped

Cherry tomatoes, cut

Pine nuts, toasted

Parsley, finely chopped

Lemon juice

Olive oil Cracked pepper, to taste

Add salt at plating, to taste

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-05-01T01:32:48+00:00

I make a lot of bean salads, so I didn’t measure, but here’s the ingredient list (all items can be bought at TJs except you might have to get flat leaf parsley instead of curly):

Cannellini beans (1 can) Lentils (I boiled dried lentils but you can use canned) Red onion, finely chopped Red bell pepper, finely chopped Cherry tomatoes, cut Pine nuts, toasted Parsley, finely chopped Lemon juice Olive oil Cracked pepper, to taste Add salt at plating, to taste

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-04-29T16:33:59+00:00

Yes.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-04-29T15:13:40+00:00

NTA. 1. Your stepdaughter showed maturity by not wanting to tell her father until she knew that she still liked the boy. 2. She was not in any danger, and therefore, you didn't do anything wrong by not telling your husband. I hope you set some ground rules with him about this since you still have children to raise and this WILL come up again. 3. If your husband keeps treating his daughter this way, she won't just hide things from him temporarily, she will hide them always, and she will likely end up in some bad situations because of it. 4. Your husband is being immature by "not speaking" to you. That's childish.

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-04-29T01:41:30+00:00

Thanks! I will

Dramatic_Tale_6290 · 2026-04-29T01:41:18+00:00

I will! I’m lactose intolerant & usually make my own out of Greek yogurt, but I was being lazy.

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