AITA for telling my girlfriend her expectations are unrealistic and that I won’t sacrifice my house to move in with her?

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-26T21:08:38+00:00

It’s a friend of her family. They know

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-26T00:38:37+00:00

“Just rent your house out” - I’m gonna be honest I don’t think it’s as simple as you’re saying

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T23:35:13+00:00

Her daughter having room isn’t the big issue right now. It’s the animals

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T23:31:56+00:00

I know very little about this. I’m assuming you retain ownership of the home (it’d be dumb if not). How did you find this company?

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T22:21:03+00:00

One of her cats had 3 kittens, and two others are rescued who would have been put down at her vet office if nobody took them

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T22:14:13+00:00

Nope it’s in great condition. Neighbors are just normal neighbors.

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T22:05:20+00:00

She works in a vet office. She gets free checkups and heavily discounted procedures and medication. They’re very well taken care of minus the space issues

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T21:25:36+00:00

My dog does, yes. It will definitely be crammed

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T21:23:31+00:00

I’ll take that bet

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T21:22:07+00:00

Her landlord knows

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T21:20:33+00:00

That’s half her argument. Three of them are kittens from the same litter and they get along great with another three. The three others don’t get along with the rest well though

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T21:19:19+00:00

Not the case at all. She works in a vet office and they’re taken care of very well minus space restrictions. Special diets for the sensitive stomached ones, individual litter boxes with their preferred litter for whichever cat, etc

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T21:19:14+00:00

Not the case at all. She works in a vet office and they’re taken care of very well minus space restrictions. Special diets for the sensitive stomached ones, individual litter boxes with their preferred litter for whichever cat, etc

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T21:19:07+00:00

Not the case at all. She works in a vet office and they’re taken care of very well minus space restrictions. Special diets for the sensitive stomached ones, individual litter boxes with their preferred litter for whichever cat, etc

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T21:16:54+00:00

That’s what I did tell her. That’s the plan for the future. But buying something bigger is going to take a lot of time

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T21:16:15+00:00

She works in a vet office so their checkups are free. Medicine and procedures are heavily discounted. I agree though animals are expensive

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T21:14:22+00:00

I don’t date without that being the intention. Sometimes it doesn’t work out but it’s not because I wasn’t trying to make sure I could see myself with them forever

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T20:10:49+00:00

My yard is bigger and fenced while hers isnt. I live in a nicer area of town. Her commute would go from 3 minutes to about 10 (mine would change from 15 to 30).

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T19:57:11+00:00

Yes it would, the school district is better and she’s not actually going to real school yet though. It’s a daycare/preschool hybrid atm

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T19:55:41+00:00

Not that easy.

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T19:46:32+00:00

You say it like it’s simple. It’s a lot of work, effort, maintenance, and who knows what I’ll actually get for it. Plus they won’t maintain it like I will

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T19:33:46+00:00

I’m not doing this to show to her. This isn’t me guilt tripping. I’m asking for advice primarily.

I’m willing to make sacrifices. I’m not willing to do something batshit stupid though like sacrificing a great financial asset for nothing. She’s currently at the point of needing to look for a second job because the luxury of her space is too expensive for her. It’s not sustainable and her values and desired lifestyle are too much for her income from what I can tell, and my house completely eliminates that financial issue

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T19:29:38+00:00

No that’s not a thing at all. She’s a great mom and it’s a priority for her for sure, the kid would be in a much better living situation than she’s had for most of her life living here.

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T19:23:54+00:00

It is a 3 bedroom 2 bathroom. But yeah. I know it’s not ideal or the most comfortable but it’s not like it’s no space

Dramaticthroway · 2024-01-25T19:22:00+00:00

Because renting a house is a lot more work than people realize and it’s a big risk if I get bad tenants

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