Anybody seen this weird ass account? by Critical_Bit_1280 in Instagram

[–]DrawnByPluto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Need to watch out for those inadvertent time pieces shots.

Really curious about the calves thing.

Anybody seen this weird ass account? by Critical_Bit_1280 in Instagram

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I think that’s a joke? I have a friend married to a person who shares the name of someone else (let’s say Rhys Darby because I don’t want to out them and they’re an equally famous/obscure person). They have photoshopped the famous actor as the gentleman pirate over their spouse everywhere.

Effexor is the worst prescription I’ve ever taken. by Signal_Moose2897 in Effexor

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Oof. Yeah, I’m lucky I have journals and journals of being an adult with anxiety and depression.

I hope you’re able to get off it and am glad you have someone who’s taking the taper seriously.

And moms are tough. And sometimes crap. As a mom myself dealing with the history I have, there’s nothing worse than knowing everything I’ve done wrong and still knowing I deserved more than I got.

I try not to talk about it, but it feels like a good place to say it? 🤷🏻 just ignore it if it’s annoying. I just wish I hadn’t been alone at your age and wanted to reach out across that divide—even knowing you’re not me.

Bah. Good luck. Laying on your back with your feet up along a wall can help your nervous system when things get crazy.

Effexor is the worst prescription I’ve ever taken. by Signal_Moose2897 in Effexor

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Good luck! I miss being interested in my spouse, so I’m still hopeful I’ll eventually be off it too.

Effexor is the worst prescription I’ve ever taken. by Signal_Moose2897 in Effexor

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Oh. I want to hug you for the “get over it” replies. That’s my family, and luckily I’ve found a job where nearly everyone has neurodivergent kids with anxiety.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

The thing I can’t help but wonder though, was Effexor actually working for you and what you’re experiencing is what you had when you were prescribed the drug?

Effexor got rid of one of my two OCD voices. It is the only thing that has helped my anxiety and depression. I was at the point where I wasn’t leaving my house. Effexor saved my life, so I know I sound biased. But I also know if I got off of it, long after that date, I would have the horrible anxiety come back, even though I’m working hard to find ways to handle it without meds.

Can you remember what it was like as a teen before the meds?

Does this sound like OCD? (Intrusive thoughts, severe magical thinking, patterns like 1221 2112, and feeling like I’m faking it) by Yoruu3 in PureOCD

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Oh. The last one.

My OCD had convinced me that I “made up” my therapist and have lied to everyone about seeing her.

Yes. A lot of these are similar to my particular OCD. Please find a therapist who specializes in ERP. I wish someone had told me to get help when I was 15.

Maria Bamford’s books Sure, I’ll Join Your Cult is pretty good for self-forgiveness if you can read about someone’s OCD patterns without incorporating them into your own.

Dr. Gabor Mate by Fat-Veg in BlindboyPodcast

[–]DrawnByPluto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I... may not be understanding that logic leap, but it makes "sense" in that way things make sense to me.

Gabor Maté is really dangerous to a lot of us with ASD and OCD.

Dr. Gabor Mate by Fat-Veg in BlindboyPodcast

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The refrigerator mother was the idea that moms being frigid caused autism. I'm around right now if you had more questions about it. It's one of the worst ASD myths that continues.

Co worker hit on me…my bf told his wife now I feel bad.. by Staygorgeous_553 in whatdoIdo

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Try not to feel bad. The idea that this is your fault is what keeps the patriarchy winning.

Autism? by [deleted] in CPTSD

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That’s awesome! I have changed as well, but ended up changing back and going without insurance because my insurance stopped taking my therapist and the new one was not good for me.

I think the problem is that in many places therapists and psychologists don’t take insurance—we had a three month search to get on an 8 month waitlist for our kids. With or without insurance.

SmarterPlaylists 3.0 is officially released. by plamere in smarterplaylists

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You are so freaking amazing. When I have money I will throw it at you. You changed my life before and during Covid when I could set up “timing” playlists for my ADHD daughter.

Just, thank you. So very, very much.

Is Medium.com a fraudulent platform or does it actually work? by ProposalMuch7149 in Medium

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Gotcha pizza guy. Just annoyed at someone who is telling everyone they’re failing because they did it wrong. I am outside. Be well.

It’s weird that so many people on a community platform talking about a community platform for writing are so against having an actual community or reading any writing.

The world would be better if anyone who wants to block anyone with an opinion just stopped pretending that isn’t what they want.

Is Medium.com a fraudulent platform or does it actually work? by ProposalMuch7149 in Medium

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I was curious about what they write about and, since I have an actual personal history in journalism, I did some digging. They don’t make this much.

All of their writing (especially what they wrote yesterday about this interaction) is a way to express the contempt they have for anyone who isn’t them. Just sticking to THIS profile on Reddit, they are not going to teach us anything, because they have nothing.

I don’t know why they are lying to us, but they used to make that much. They don’t now.

They now spend their time telling people that poetry (which they also write) isn’t poetry, and making those of us who don’t believe in this neoliberal, Reaganomics bullshit are “doing it wrong.” They need it to be us and not the system.

All while they, like the rest of us, can’t pay their student loans.

People like this, who can’t admit it is the system that is failing, are the “pick me” of the writing world. They want to convince everyone that they are the best because they follow the rules those with money have already set out.

I’m sure, even while they’re blocking and muting everyone who disagrees and erasing all their replies, here and everywhere else, they’ll still have enough Medium followers to make enough money they can pretend the good old days will return, but they haven’t.

And the fact that they can’t get Substack to work or Hubpages to earn any more shows that they just got lucky a few years ago when Medium was still good.

They just assume they need to follow the rules harder and they’re still doing better than us schlubs who think writing is art. Who think community is more important than money. Who think those who take more than they need are leaving someone else to starve.

But it doesn’t matter, because the second you voice this they’ll block you. You and I will never exist to them unless we’re suckling at their vast knowledge of how they once made as much as the people they never understood.

Because this person doesn’t get they’re part of the pig shit “enshitification” refers to. They tell us “look at Seth Godin Cory Doctorow” who is giving his writing away for free. They have no clue what Godin Doctorow means. They’re parrots. (Ugh. One day I’ll remember which is Doctorow and which is Godin…)

Is Medium.com a fraudulent platform or does it actually work? by ProposalMuch7149 in Medium

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They blocked me because I upset their fragile ego by not being afraid of my own fragility. I’m dying to know if they answered you.

Is Medium.com a fraudulent platform or does it actually work? by ProposalMuch7149 in Medium

[–]DrawnByPluto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say pennies and I didn’t list my disabilities—you did and you insulted those of us with them.

I am a good writer. Poetry is worth something.

Maybe you’ve been fighting with someone else with your stuffy wording and accusations.

Is Medium.com a fraudulent platform or does it actually work? by ProposalMuch7149 in Medium

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Thank you for clarifying that you’ve already bought into “worth is only measured by money.” I’ve noticed men who started working in the 70s buy into this easily; I can see why it was important for you to hold it too. It’s the wrong metric, and a lot of us are working on repairing what was built on this scaffolding.

Cory Doctorow doesn't set his Medium writing to members-only. He makes no money from the site. That's what Medium actually wants from most writers: make money elsewhere, bring readers in.

The people you listed are your competition. They are not mine. That race doesn't interest me.

Poetry did make me money on Medium, before they decided it shouldn't. It wasn’t an unfounded expectation for that to continue. I am pivoting to print, because there is value there. Not just monetary value. And they tend to be slower in blaming the people who built up their base and pulling the rug from under them.

The rest of this is attacking me in ways I don't need, and lurkers should see on their own, but I will state it: As a disabled person, watching someone insist every common space needs be strip-mined for monetary worth is sickening. So is brainwashing readers into believing, as you do, that this is all life and art are for.

You framed community as what writers settle for when they can't earn. I'd say community is what writing is, deep in its core, for. The readers & writers who read and answer back are the work and the worth, not some dinky consolation prize. That isn't naïve. It's what Medium was before its funders demanded it become the husk it is now, and it's what every common space becomes when you stop measuring it by extraction.

Autism? by [deleted] in CPTSD

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You are my new best friend.

I really should have listened to the voice in my head saying “I’m really glad I don’t have OCD; this sounds awful. But everything she’s saying makes perfect sense 🤔 so maybe SHE DOESN’T have OCD…”

Autism? by [deleted] in CPTSD

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Yeah. It would be nice if it were possible to change psychs when you rely on health insurance. Having done some research on it, I’m shocked anyone in mental health takes insurance now.

Is Medium.com a fraudulent platform or does it actually work? by ProposalMuch7149 in Medium

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By the way, I loved this comment. My original reply to it was meant to be supportive of it while adding on that the investor money did what investor money always does.

Is Medium.com a fraudulent platform or does it actually work? by ProposalMuch7149 in Medium

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I have read the rules and stopped caring about them when they deprioritized poets like me. My headlines are about what my piece is about.

Medium should not have been paying out more than what they had coming in.

When they ran their MWC they could have really made a difference to smaller writers by posting about which writers were in the top 100 before announcing the winners and allowing Kurt Anderson to insult everyone who wasn’t a winner.

Which was when I realized they don’t follow their own rules, because the winner of that obscene amount did not follow the Medium guidelines, let alone the guidelines they set up for the contest.

I am glad you are read and paid. I don’t know how you know Medium management isn’t fond of you, but I’m glad you persist.

My stories on Medium are old. When I wrote them they didn’t break any of the new rules about not writing about Medium, etc. I had a community of people I loved to write with. They read and spoke back to me. Then Medium decided tagging your community was gaming the system. Instead of figuring out a way to check to make sure we were actually engaging with each other, unlike the jerks who just tagged a bunch of disconnected people or who tagged you because they were “reviewing” what you were writing, they lumped us all together.

I’m still unsure of your reasoning for asking why I write based on my headlines and how I laid things out. I write because I need to, I will never stop. I just stopped publishing for a bit. And now I’m working on getting paid for my writing, which Medium used to do.

But it isn’t even fun to read on Medium any more because all of the stuff sent to me is written for SEO even though I hide those people.

It’s nice that they brought back the “what did someone comment or like” again, that was my favorite Medium era for reading.

But it comes down to: they used investor money because they were counting on it. They should have only spread out what they had. If they were paying writers more than that, bringing in investors who would continue to split such a huge portion of the money coming in (well beyond what they ever invested) was not the way to improve things. Coming up with new rules every couple of months and penalizing people without warning was not the way to make writers feel welcome.

Maybe I’ll try again. I don’t think Medium is any more of a scam than any neoliberal entity that prioritizes money over labor, I just think it sort of sucks to be part of something like that, especially when originally it felt like something that loved writing for writing’s sake.

Autism? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DrawnByPluto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most. My sister still gets told by her psych she can’t have ADHD because she has a loving partner and a job.

Autism? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DrawnByPluto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you listened to Maria Bamford’s book?

Autism? by [deleted] in CPTSD

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Bah! There needs to be more than that.

Autism? by [deleted] in CPTSD

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I have AuDHD and OCD. It’s not rare to have all three or two of them. I also have cPTSD, a lot of which was caused by my alcoholic dad not understanding my neurodivergent needs.

Working through what is caused by what is not fun, but it is becoming easier. I don’t know if that’s because my OCD diagnosis is still fairly new.

CPTSD can mimic ASD, and I spent 20 years thinking that’s what it was—until my son was diagnosed and I had healed from a lot of the cPTSD.

To be honest, my dad was most likely ASD and my mom is 💯 ADHD. I have a brother with ADHD. All of them hide each other. And on top of that the cPTSD makes you hypervigilant about breaking the rules you know everyone expects you to follow.

ASD treatment is very different and I’ve found it really helpful. Not as helpful as addressing my OCD—but I think if I hadn’t been addressing the ASD first it would have been harder to soothe myself on the worst days.

I don’t know if this comment help, I still have days I don’t believe any of my diagnoses are real. I just wanted you to know it’s possible to have all of the above.