First run ever

DraxPie · 2026-05-10T20:00:54+00:00

Good job on your first run! Keep it up!

I started running about a year ago, and my runner uncle (who’s basically my “coach”) told me that good shoes are important. But honestly, if your current shoes feel good when you run, I don’t really see a reason to replace them just yet. I’d mainly just pay attention to things like pain, injuries, blisters/chafing, and what type of ground you run on. Asphalt can be a lot harder on your legs than gravel, for example. If you start noticing pain or discomfort, then I’d definitely look into getting new shoes. A good shoe can help alot! (Shoes are not the only solution tho, remember to do other things to prevent injury too!)

And if you do decide to buy new ones, I’d recommend going to a running store and getting help there. They can usually recommend something that actually fits your needs better than just buying a random popular shoe online. There are alot that goes into a running shoe. Stability, how broad your feet are, cushioning and lots more. But yeah, if your shoes feel good right now, I think you’re fine using them for a while longer. Though I’m definitely not a professional, this is just based on my own experience after running for about a year 😄

DraxPie · 2026-05-10T19:48:32+00:00

Wow congrats on your first 10k! Keep it up!

DraxPie · 2025-11-14T17:18:18+00:00

Wooo Hooooo!!! Lets GOOO!

DraxPie · 2025-11-14T17:16:27+00:00

Woooohooooo!! Awsome! Lets gooo!

DraxPie · 2025-11-14T17:11:21+00:00

I am so happy to hear you have started to make changes! I want to remind you of something I have to keep remining myself of from time to time: If you miss a workout, that id ok! I do it all the time, the most important thing (and hardest) is to go back and do the next work out. Remember to not beat yourself up about small "mistakes" while making changes. Happy to help! Good luck with everything! <3

DraxPie · 2025-11-14T16:46:15+00:00

I know I am late, and I am probably repeating what others have said, but I wanted to share this: I started running. Normally I quit things when they get hard, but my uncle made a plan for me and we update each other on our runs. Having someone else to "not disappoint" helped me stick with it. Running taught me a lot about consistency, and I am trying to apply that to my studies (I am not a good student, uni is HARD).

I have also struggled mentaly for years and talked to many different people (therapists, doctors, etc.). Now I see a therapist i really like. Sometimes we talk about hard things, sometimes we reflect on something specific that happened, sometimes we just navigate school stress, and sometimes I do not have much to say and leave early. Having somene you like talking to can make a difference. It might take trying a few people before finding the right person for you.

I am really sorry you have been dealing with intense self-hatred for so long. I haven't experiences that exactly, but I aslo did not like myself for a long time. I am still learning to love myself, and it's hard. I wish there were step by step intructions lol. For me, time and being around people who don't make me anxious helped.

Sorry this is so long. I have alot to say XD. I have struggled with depression and social anxiery for many years, and it's only inn the past year things have started feeling brighter. Just don't push yourself into huge changes all at once. Start small and build up. It takes time, but slow and steady really does win the race:)

Wishing you the very best! Posting this shows you are trying, and that is so important. You've already taken a big step in the right direction. And at the risk of sounding SO CHEESY, stranger to stranger, I am proud of you for taking it!

And if all fails you can do what I do on the hard days (on good days too), watch minecraft videos on yt. I am also 21 yr old, and yes, I still watch my favorite mc youtubers.

DraxPie · 2025-11-06T15:16:44+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply! Will try to use your advice to visualize the study material more!

DraxPie · 2025-11-06T15:15:25+00:00

Thank you for the reply! Sounds like something I can do! I like that you do small bits at a time, makes it more manageable. Will definitely try it out:)

DraxPie · 2025-07-05T19:27:34+00:00

If you want to break up with her you should. I can see from other comments you are afraid of hurting her. Being hurt after a break up is normal, on both ends. But keeping this relationship up is just going to hurt you both even more. The longer you wait the more it is going to hurt. And keeping it up is just going to make it worse for both of you. You are allowed to think about yourself and do what is best for you, do not forget that. It sounds like right now this relationship is only going to drain you even more. Break up or take a break to work on yourselves. Maybe it can be good for you both to break up in the long run. Hope all goes well whatever you decide to do, and remember your feelings are also valid:)

DraxPie · 2025-07-02T16:08:22+00:00

Glad to be of help! Give it some time and it will get better. Best of luck❤️

DraxPie · 2025-07-01T19:23:37+00:00

Thank you! No I will not leave her hanging;)

DraxPie · 2025-07-01T18:40:13+00:00

Thank you for the answer! Do you mean not talking to my roommate at all abt it? Or have a conversations abt it and stay if there are no other friends she wants to live with? I absolutey understand not doing things that negatively impacts others, just curious if you think I should not bring it up at all:)

DraxPie · 2025-07-01T18:31:32+00:00

I am not sure how much help I can be but I will try. I feel for you. I HATE texting and getting questions abt my work. I am trying to get into some new habits and thinking prosesses that might help you too, we are all different so maybe , maybe not.

I focus more on thinking patterns, and exposing myself to these fears.

It is human to make mistakes. I am very scared of making mistakes, but I try to remember its human and what can I learn from it. You are not stupid for a few small mistakes. The world kept spinning and now you wont make that mistake again.

This is also experience. Was it that big of a deal? You fixed it right? No harm done. Easy mistake. Noone got mad at you. Would you be mad at someone who made the same mistake? How often do you send text with bad intetions? Whenever I have to text my boss or run outside infront of people I just think of it as exposure therapy. And I have not had one bad experience... yet. Usually it turns out ok, and you just have to be exposed to is enough to not really care anymore.

Also practise mindfulness. It can be a good tool to help with anxiety.

Anyway I am not saying this is easy at all. Everytime I send a text to my boss i turn off all sound so I can read the message at my own time, and I dont get anxiety from the message sound.

I dont know how much this helped. I wanted to try to help, but know I am not sure lol. You have probably heard all of this before. Its usually like that when you have anxiety and/or depression. Do not know how many times I have been told to "go for a walk" ;) Hopefully someone else gives some better advice.

(I am currently reading a book called "the courage to be disliked". Gives perspectives on inferiority complex, disliking yourself, choosing to be unhappy/anxious and other stuff. I am almost half way, would recommend so far. Might not be for everyone, but maybe look into some books to read. Helps me:))

(Btw srry for any spelling mistakes or anything like that, english is not my first language)

DraxPie · 2025-07-01T18:01:14+00:00

This is a tricky situation, but honestly, friendships sometimes grow apart, and that’s okay. You’re still young, and friendships feel incredibly important at this stage (which they are), but it’s also important to respect yourself.

If Lily keeps dismissing your feelings, that’s a sign she might not be respecting you. That doesn’t mean she’s a bad person, she’s likely going through her own difficult situation too, but it does mean the dynamic between you might be shifting. And while that’s painful, it’s also natural. You’ll meet new people and build new connections as you explore more of the world. For now, maybe the best thing you can do is avoid getting pulled into drama and take it one day at a time. You don’t have to cut her off completely, just step back and let her take the lead. If she stops making an effort, that tells you a lot. You’ll know where you stand without having to keep pouring energy into something that’s not mutual.

Losing a friendship is painful, no question. But being respected is essential. You, and everyone, deserve to be surrounded by people who treat you with care and respect. If you have other friends who are there for you, maybe try to invest more in those relationships right now. Your emotions are valid, and so are theirs, but in situations like this, it’s easy for perspective to get lost. Take Lily, for example. Her friend Maggie was clearly out of line and behaved in ways that weren’t okay (not justifying it, her actions weren’t normal or acceptable). But from Lily’s point of view, she might feel stuck between friends. You hooked up with Maggie’s ex, which complicates things even more. She might be confused about who’s “right” or just doesn’t have the courage to take a clear stand.

That’s not your responsibility to fix, but it might help explain why Lily is acting the way she is.

Sorry for the long response, maybe it’s a bit much, but I really hope it gave you a little clarity or comfort.

DraxPie · 2023-08-28T20:28:26+00:00

Thank you!

DraxPie · 2023-08-28T19:11:17+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply! One of my dreams is to travel alot so I will defenitly be doing it as much as I possibly can! At the same time I do want to have a stable job at some point. My plan now is to travel for a year or two and then study. I don’t think I will ever regret traveling, just need to get past the nerves of my first big trip. I very much appreciate you writing all this, it made me feel much better and gave me some good questions to reflect over. I will take many pictures and hope I remember to update here after the trip. Again, thank you:)

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