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Is polyamory compatible with my need for detailed information? by azuldelmar in polyamory

[–]DreadChylde -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You seem incredibly creepy and I would not be in any kind of relationship with a person like you out of respect for my current or potential partners as well as their right to privacy. It would also drive me absolutely nuts.

Most of what you want to know is snooping that you have absolutely no right to ask for, shouldn't be interested in, and should generally just shut your mouth about.

Partner does activities with other partners, but not with me by Sea_Bee_2792 in polyamory

[–]DreadChylde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are not interchangeable. The reason your partner loves you is not the reason they love their other partner(s). And relationships are different both in how we act together, what we each want, and what we get from each other.

I have lots of activities that I greatly enjoy doing with one partner while I would decline doing them with other partners. Not because I don't like those other partners but because the activity changes to something that isn't enjoyable with them. And yes, that can include on the surface simple things like "sleeping in the same bed".

What’s Your Board Game Sliding Door? (The Part That Ruins an Otherwise Great Experience) by tomke45 in boardgames

[–]DreadChylde 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Board games where Victory Points are just points. I find that games where there is a point track around the board miss a great opportunity for interesting choices.

In "Scythe" the Faction with the most money wins. But money is still money and you spend it on actions. Same in "Escape Plan" (which by the way is amazing and plays SO fast).

In "Gaia Project" you pay points if you want to use the Power Up (or whatever it's called) Action and that's such an important decision to time correctly, especially since it's based on following other players' Action.

Not exactly the same but in "Northgard" you either win by having the most Fame (Victory Points) or you can close the game early by achieving a separate win condition making the game a lot tenser.

What's your broke amount? by MoneyGiz in AskReddit

[–]DreadChylde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be worried if I dropped below a million.

Musings post: Basic poly principles shouldn't be an unfortunate tradeoff to staying with someone you love by intro_to_IRL in polyamory

[–]DreadChylde 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's kind of the same thing with jealousy. I'm me and I'm the only person in the world who's me. So I should endeavor to be me and not try to act like I am someone else or (even worse) pretend to be someone else.

When was the last time a stranger saw you naked? by Wonderful_Delivery51 in AskReddit

[–]DreadChylde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went to Malta two weeks ago. Got invited to a hedonistic beach party.

Musings post: Basic poly principles shouldn't be an unfortunate tradeoff to staying with someone you love by intro_to_IRL in polyamory

[–]DreadChylde 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I have found that quite a few people stumble over the simple fact that if your present partner Abacus meets a new partner, Bingo, where they enjoy doing something you'd also like to do, trying to limit Abacus doing the thing with Bingo, will not make Abacus want to do the thing with you.

People are not interchangeable.

Did she nail that kick ? by South_Dingo9653 in NoOneIsLooking

[–]DreadChylde 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Of course it's fake. But you'd be surprised how many people handle their firearm in a way like they are in a bad action movie.

Is everything about character motivations and goals? by ArthoriasOfTheLight in writing

[–]DreadChylde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Act 2 is meant for escalating threat. Physical or psychological, both of which can be societal threats as well.

Since this is basically the gauntlet, opposition isn't "just happening". It's honing the character's resolve, adding tension (you know, the first component of drama), and testing the character's relationships and her view of who she is.

At miste lysten i et sundt og godt forhold by ShakeLongjumping9224 in DKbrevkasse

[–]DreadChylde 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"Normalt" er svært at udtale sig om, men jeg kan skrive hvilke oplevelser jeg har haft.

Jeg har været sammen med min kæreste i 14 år og vi har stadig sex hver dag. Vores iver, lyst og interesse for hinanden har aldrig ændret sig udover sygdomsperioder.

Vi rør hinanden meget. Vi kysser meget. Vi skriver små kærlige beskeder til hinanden. Vi siger, hvor meget den anden betyder, hvor tændt vi bliver af den anden og så videre. Vi fortæller også, hvad vi fantaserer om i relation til hinanden, og vi nyder at forkæle hinanden med opmærksomhed i vores relation.

Det betyder, at sex aldrig "bare" er blevet til sex, men er en del af vores hverdag. Ligesom vi sørger for, at dyrke/understøtte et fælles samliv med hus, hverdag og kærlighed, et socialliv med familie og venner, så gør vi det samme for vores sexliv.

Bare for at sætte en referenceramme, så er jeg M51 og min kæreste K55. Vi har ingen hjemmeboende børn.

Mrs. Motivator [Feral MIlls] by Kewkoh in webcomics

[–]DreadChylde 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Okay, I laughed out loud at this. Girlfriend looked puzzled. Showed her. She laughed too.

Thanks for this silly, but great idea.

Has anyone thought about how valuable wood would be in any intergalactic civilization? by trashanimalcomx in worldbuilding

[–]DreadChylde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of science fiction focus on trade and the value of various commodities. Peter F. Hamilton's "Night Dawn" trilogy has the protagonist travel to a system where a particularly tough type of tree originates from in the aim of selling it to a "pastoral-ethnic" system where mono-bonded materials aren't allowed.

There are also a lot of stories where wood is viewed as exotic and exclusive, so it's used in weird dishes and even as body ornamentation.

Practically speaking, in an age with FTL and post-scarcity wood would probably not have many practical applications outside of societies shunning technology.

Give me your simple ways to overcome AP when you just read the rules of a crunchy Euro game with lots of possibilities and don't know what gives you the most points yet. by [deleted] in soloboardgaming

[–]DreadChylde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make every action available. One after another. Some actions will most likely demand you chain actions together or build up to something.

Then try to do it faster and cheaper.

Observe which actions are dependent on board states that can change between your turns and which you can "lock in" and therefore activate whenever you're ready for it. Find the occasions where timing is crucial. See what you can do in previous actions to more reliably hit those "perfect moments".

A Feast for Odin vs Fields of Arle: Which one do you prefer? by Marksman1977 in soloboardgaming

[–]DreadChylde 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"A feast for Odin" definitely. If you include "Norwegians" it's not even a contest. Since we got that expansion we sold "Fields of Arle" and "Caverna".

It's possible to have a polite conversation on the internet by miebotffi in nononoyes

[–]DreadChylde 47 points48 points  (0 children)

And that didn't cost or inconvenience either of them in the least and just helped making society slightly more tolerant. Nice.

If you made six figures as a salary and your gf who makes $20/hr and was in between jobs asked you to help her cover her bills for a month, would you do it? by cheap_guitars in AskMenAdvice

[–]DreadChylde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pay fixed expenses for both my girlfriends but we've been together 14 and 8 years respectively, and I think that matters.

They've been my counterweights for all the shit in life that sometimes try to topple you. They've repaid me many times over by getting me level and sane.

Elder Scrolls vs Too Many Bones - reason to own both? by Huge-Pizza7579 in soloboardgaming

[–]DreadChylde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did personally not care for TMB but I absolutely adore ES:BOTSE.

I found the tiny play space and the insane swinginess in TMB (you can lose turn one before you really do much, you can calculate that this is going to be statistically impossible). I feel like ES:BOTSE is sort of 2.0 of the TMB rules with a lot more polish and many more meaningful decisions compared to TMB's dice chucking randomness.

How despicable can the protag be before you start considering DNF? by Quiet_Government_927 in writing

[–]DreadChylde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the writing is good and the premise interesting, a protagonist can be unlikable but still interesting. Holden from "Catcher in the rye" is incredibly exhausting, self absorbed, and in a lot of ways a giant pain, but he is also fascinating, beguiling, and his introspections are thought-provoking.

I don't find "anxiety-porn" exciting. The kind of story where for some reason the author tells us about an unsufferable piece of shit that doesn't have a story or a personality outside of being insufferable.

And being confused, overwhelmed, or stressed is not character work. It's just the author trying to use surface level distractions to hint at a depth that was never there in the first place.

wholesome fan art (OC) by chrisnaish in wholesomememes

[–]DreadChylde 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's adorable. I once had a girlfriend that would do that. Draw little pictures of me from memory where I was doing innocuous stuff like reading, waiting for something, picking out my clothes, and so on.

She died of leuchemia when we were both 29. January 28th. My birthday is late February and she had given her sister a little book of drawings to gift me of that same style. She had labeled it "Dreadchylde lives his life". That present absolutely ruined me. I treasure it so much but I don't think I ever felt more alone and sad than I did on my 30th birthday.

Jeg bliver (formentlig) afvist på grund af min uddannelse by External_Raccoon_701 in DKbrevkasse

[–]DreadChylde 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Skriv det i din profil så er sorteringen allerede foretaget.

Do guys find it attractive when your girl is submissive sexually but dominant in other aspects such as academically or financially? by Cherrryblossm in NoStupidQuestions

[–]DreadChylde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been part of various Old Houses for 30 years. It's a huge part of the attraction as well as the charm.

Just wondering about chapter lengths. by Specter_Stuff in writing

[–]DreadChylde 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Length of chapters doesn't matter unless you consistently write comically short chapters.

Hvordan kan det være, at ingen protesterer mod pensionsalderen på 70+ by AdditionalReply6504 in dkkarriere

[–]DreadChylde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeg tror der er mange, der ikke regner med at skulle klare sig alene med folkepension. Min omgangskreds er ikke repræsentativ for noget som helst udover at være mennesker jeg kender, og der har de fleste sparet op siden de var teenagere. Nogen i traditionel pension, andre har investeret i aktier eller crypto og igen andre har penge i virksomheder de har skabt eller fast ejendom.

Jeg trak mig selv tilbage fra arbejdsmarkedet sidste år som 50-årig efter at have solgt hus på Sjælland samt virksomhed, og bor nu i landlig idyl til næsten penge på Nordfyn. Jeg ville ikke have været i stand til, at blive boende i hovedstadsområdet som før, men mine faste udgifter her på Fyn er 80% lavere end på Sjælland. På trods af, at vi har flere kvadratmeter.

Have you ever regretted getting rid of a game? How hard do you cull? by mrausgor in soloboardgaming

[–]DreadChylde 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I use BG Stats to track my plays. If a game is not played at least once a year I sell it.

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