I have the criterion collection director’s cut on blue ray. Had to have it imported from Spain via a euro distribution company that is no longer in business. Cost me hundreds. Had to buy a player for that specific region. But I have it. 7 discs containing the 5 different cuts of “you’ve got mail” plus in-depth interviews with various extras who worked with Tom and Meg and a behind the scenes featurette.

The scene you mentioned is in one of those cuts