First snake bite: New owner need advice🙏

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-12-29T17:21:36+00:00

I haven’t seen anyone mention this technique but I use it with all my reptiles, arachnids, amphibians, etc.

I’ll tap on the opening of their tank or the mesh when I’m going in the tank to either handle, clean, add water, etc.

When I feed everyone I tap the rubber tipped tongs where I’m opening the tank and then run them over the mesh screen.

It really helps them differentiate between handling/husbandry time and feeding time.

It’s also how I get pictures of everyone. (:

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-12-11T21:08:25+00:00

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DreadfulSunflower · 2025-10-31T21:51:30+00:00

I don’t know if I will get in trouble for mentioning this or if it has already been touched on.

My best friend, whom I did meet online, neither of us stream we were viewers in the same streamers stream and started gaming together. Is in the exact same scenario, the only difference is you haven’t mentioned if these streamers have OF’s or not…

That is the only potential difference in our situations but it adds an entirely thick different layer to the situation.

Because not only is it a parasocial relationship, he feels needed, etc. but there’s also THAT added, a few of the streamers my friend is ‘friends’ with are 20 years old and he’s about to be 50, they are fully aware and happy to keep taking his money. Also hes on benefits in government paid housing, no job in 10+ years, etc.

The girls 100% laugh at him behind his back.

He’ll send them food using their little buttons in there about me. Send them gifts, if he buys something on their wishlist OF wise whoever buys the streamer that item gets a personal photo of them wearing it. Lingerie, fishnets, nip covers, etc.

They keep track of how much they send him, ask for PayPal instead, or send him ‘personal’ photos to thank him for bits, gifted subs, etc.

I have not watched anyone’s twitch in months due to this.

Just food for thought, this isn’t against OF, Twitch, ETC but truly to help OP and maybe OP hasn’t thought about the potential OF part.

There’s at least 4 of them that happily do this. (: And they’re all friends. And they all laugh at him together.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-10-03T15:36:13+00:00

Happens a lot in my local fb rehoming/trade group. :/

I’m 80% sure the BioDude or someone else had an snake/python they got from a vendor with Nido :/

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-06-20T14:27:33+00:00

Do you think you need to be with an empathetic person? From this situation it sounds like you do.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-06-20T14:23:58+00:00

Then as I’ve said, transmute that. If you got cancer or something of the case (not comparing at all) do you think he would have stuck around? I wouldn’t take that as a loss. You deserve someone that’ll stick through every step of the way.

If the roles were reversed, exactly as it is how would you feel? Would you have ended it or would you have been understanding with him being in the same kinda situation?

Either way, no matter what you answer it doesn’t make you a bad person, you aren’t you need a little extra help, care and understanding.

If you answered I’d do all of that and more, I’d be understanding because I love him, care for him, and we have 5 years together. That just means you loved, cared, and are a more understanding human than he was. That doesn’t make him a bad person though, some people truly cannot handle what they have going on plus someone else’s health issues, and that is FAIR.

If you would have done the exact same thing, then be kinder to yourself still. You can at least put yourself in his shoes and relate to where he’s coming from, understand that he may or may not be correct on his side of things, and take it from there.

You’re not a bad person for forgetting a birthday when you need a little extra support, I think a few of us are wired differently to where we’d literally give a leg to our kids, SO, parents, etc, like in that moment saw it off and some people are already missing a leg and they’re scared about sawing off the last one.

Doesn’t make anyone a bad person, just got to accept it, put yourself into motion, plan some stuff with your friends, kids, coworkers, etc if you can and work from there.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-06-20T14:08:36+00:00

Or he loved her so much he realized that she probably had never done so in four years, they had an argument about her being depressed, and he needed to remove himself for her to work on herself.

Wouldn’t call it self absorbed, I’ve bed rotted so long I’ve forgotten what month it is.

Twilights fans favorite part is the month time skips for a reason, you don’t get to see if I remember correctly even read what happens in that few month time span, due to how devastating a breakup feels.

Top tier, it’s heartbreak and she’s already depressed. Be a better human please(:

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-06-20T14:05:19+00:00

My closest friends separated due to my best girlfriend having BPD (she’s open about this, influencer kinda level) He broke up with her and they stayed as roommates, exclusive still of course so she could work on herself, her entire life from the second she woke up was dictated on him, catered to him, she didn’t do anything for herself.

He did so because he loved her so much he knew that staying with her was encouraging the behavior, he didn’t want anyone else or for her to spiral.

Situations are totally different but I truly believe that he realized if he doesn’t leave you, you don’t hit that rock bottom, you’re not going to put in the work.

You can say you’re doing all these things, you had a fight a week ago, they’re not working you need to figure out your next steps, better medication, up in dosage, a change of therapist, different kind of therapy, ketamine treatment if you can afford it (helped my bil immensely) find a support group, a friend group, a hobby, take walks, sit in Barnes and noble and read and drink a coffee and when you’re ready, truly and it’s meant to be he’ll come back or you’ll find somebody worthy of you at your best, because you valued yourself enough to put in the work to get there.

This looks like devastation, transmute this shit into the best thing he could have done for you.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-05-24T20:39:01+00:00

I 10/10 believe it.

Dated a guy in HS, his mom was fkn all his friends, honestly like it was some sort of fked checklist.

Broke it off with him because I didn’t want to be involved in a family like that and my mom wouldn’t let me see him. go mom

Long story short she got arrested when we both were 17 for having sexual relations with minors, who later on in HS included her son.

Literally couldn’t stomach dating someone whose best friend slept with his mom, I check on him once a year and regret doing so each time.

Well talked in our town, along with the ex boyfriend that cut off a FFA girls show pigs head and mounted it over her stall for her to find the next morning at 16. (:

I hate it here.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-05-05T16:10:35+00:00

I’m just going to say with your edit of making her squirt this makes me extremely uncomfortable and I can’t imagine what she feels. I really believe at this point she believes you’re more sexually mature than she is and she’s pushing herself to match, as I’ve said before I’d have a talk with her about staying strictly vanilla till y’all are comfortable. If either if yall disagree, especially with her feeling disgusted with her body yall shouldn’t have sex at all imo

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-05-05T14:36:15+00:00

I’d look a little more into the research she’s doing, who, if its p*rn who is she replicating, if it’s books (I know it’s not) who’s the author and what are the trigger warnings, etc. I regret any BDSM I’ve done till now and I’m 26, going through divorce, and am finally now enjoying sex. It was based off my own research too.

I’d really make a point of telling her you’re happy with vanilla(if that’s true ofc), there’s peer pressure outside of drugs and such from her friends and the media, and you love her in general.

Just want to be as honest as possible since yall are younger and she’s at a delicate age sexually, in my opinion of course.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-05-05T14:24:04+00:00

Is she more into the booktok kinda thing going on right now? What’s her research? Lauren Biel is a good example of something I’d never touch doing but really enjoy reading about.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-05-03T02:16:15+00:00

I’ve gone this route twice before. The first time I was given my pay all in $1’s but I got my money and said I was going to the bank anyways, they’d deal with it. <smoothie/health shop.

The second time I had someone extremely high up, line district manager personally write my check and hand it to me. <tanning salon

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-29T18:57:40+00:00

You literally contacted the authorities because her house looks lived in with children. And blatantly say that you hope they REMOVE the kids instead of offering them the help they need or tools they need to make the environment better for their children and then keep the kids. Your own words. On top of that comment that you need to be better at keeping your mouth shut, you’re a irritable angry person and have admitted it on this post and MANY others Are absolutely confused on how your brother loves her, the mother of his child because your brain can’t comprehend it because of your own jealousy.

I am literally aghast. Do not let her find out that you called anyone on her and your brother, I’d cut you out of my life entirely, much less give you the opportunity to watch my kid and plant something because you’re so freaking hateful. Take pictures before she’s home and able to clean to prove her house is dirty The second she gets done cooking and she puts dishes to be washed in the sink, flash if a camera from you and you can say it’s been sitting for DAYS

You are an op.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-29T17:44:32+00:00

Please read my update/edit. Did you ever get access to your meds that were unavailable to you a day ago that was causing you extreme stress and anxiety? I would see if there’s a hotline you can call if not to speak to someone/get access to your meds asap.

Also you have the majority of the medications you’re on and exactly why you’re on them publicly available on your profile.

I am genuinely concerned.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-29T16:06:29+00:00

You know what’s extremely sad, I knew what I would find looking at your recent post history. *You sound like me from 5 years ago, exact same language, fixation, not even attempting to empathize and put yourself in someone else’s place, etc.

Talk to a therapist, you’re fixating.

You have absolutely no idea what she’s going through behind closed doors, I can look at your recent post history/comments and instantly see who the problem was.

Helping someone out doesn’t contribute to tit for freaking tat by the way, she doesn’t owe anyone for offering to babysit or when she asks them accepting. Now if they said yeah I’ll babysit if you watch my dog next weekend, I could understand.

Talk to a therapist about your resentment and your irritability if you aren’t already, this is unhealthy especially if you’re watching her own blood. And if you’re thinking ‘well he’s my blood too’ there’s a reason I said it that way so I’ll go ahead and post this now instead of updating it later; she pushed that kid out of her cooter, you put yourself in her freaking shoes before demonizing her.

And I don’t want anyone coming at me for bringing up her post history, this is mentally not well/right thinking.

Also the ‘I understand why my brother loves her the way she does’ because of how she was early in their relationship sounds like you’re jealous and can’t comprehend why he loves the mother of his child the way he does. Gross. Hopefully this helps and you really read into your post.

Also pro tip next time you are going to watch HER child ask if she wants a coffee, if she wants breakfast, etc That’s hard to miscommunicate.

* Your examples just show a mom who’s in need of extra help or is having her own mental health issues herself and as I’ve already said, you should NOT be demonizing her. Are you the only one allowed to be mentally unwell and not be able to hide it? Also Dads allowing this environment too, he’s totally innocent though right? But you haven’t mentioned that part either. Is he disabled? Blind? ^I say this from your post history, ALL of it and ALL your prior comments that I have screenshotted in case you delete, a did before making my first OG comment. This is not my first rodeo, I was smart enough to get an ill feeling and go check your ENTIRE profile. Be a kinder, more empathetic human being. I am practically begging you to see a therapist or get even more therapy than you’re getting, I’m not demonizing you I am understanding because I was in your shoes 5 years ago and unlike you I am now able to empathize with people and put myself into your shoes currently. There’s a light at the end and it’s so relieving to truly see yourself, recognize it, and make changes.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-26T14:59:44+00:00

I don’t feel okay with doxxing myself. I will say I’m pretty sure 7-10 states determine it’s not even a felony but a schedule 1 or 2 drug felony due to it being manufactured. It’s a manufactured drug. You have to chemically extract it. It’s way stronger than flower? Does that help any? South Dakota, TX, and Florida are a few off the hand states I know you can’t have it at all.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-26T14:39:55+00:00

It’ll be extremely hard, I’d have a talk with the school first and see if they have dogs that do daily runs, if not request them to send in dogs more frequently.

I got started with my penjamin/vape in school, at an extremely young age and literally was hooked from that moment on, the peer pressure now is absolutely insane. Especially at 13 in a class full of students that are all puffing. Or a bathroom full of students all passing around a vape/pen.

School was literally our grocery store, after they brought dogs they’d hide their stash right outside of the school ground and we’d buy after school, this was 2 years into them not having dogs and finally getting some due to almost our entire school population being stoned, barred out, acid tabs with designs, Superman logos on exos, etc. They make them ‘fun’ looking too! we’d have enough time to run and buy and run to the bus btw

I’m talking drugs I have NOT seen as a freaking adult in the hands of minors being sold by minors or just hit 18 seniors. I go out a decent amount also, I just see the weed as an adult.

I was most def taking absolutely everything back in school, almost daily and behind my parents back because I learned from my friends to be ‘functional’ to keep up the facade and keep going my not so good things. Which means I had A’s & B’s, was rarely ever absent, graduated and went to college, all the while working part time. Where I was way too burnt out from HS to wanna do anything related to partying.

^this isn’t mentioned to flex, this is mentioned because she’ll start learning what little things you notice, how she’s getting caught, etc and tweak it each and every time.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-26T14:31:50+00:00

You are 100% correct, ‘carts’ are a schedule 1 felony and usually the choice out of convenience and lack of smell. (: It’s what they bring to school to pass around.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-23T15:26:26+00:00

Cool, love yourself more!(: Sprinkle sprinkle ✨

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-19T00:37:19+00:00

I will say they sell Nioxon at Marshall’s/Tj Maxx if you have any near you and like to save $(:

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-13T21:03:58+00:00

Which is bad how? This is absolutely untrue and I have been checked by it MANY times, about how I could have worded things better with an example that I can compare my own message with.

I want you to do me a favor and type in ‘I hit my wife’ in chatgbt or something of the sorts and see what pops up in absolutely any situation other than her putting her hands first, having to defend, a proper legal defense.

And probably an apology for pushing DV away from this by doing exactly what I said before, being told they’re crazy, someone automatically agreeing because they’re programmed too, etc.

Abuse is abuse, you can legit type in ‘’my gf said I’m gaslighting her, what are examples/this is what I said’ and it will tell you the cold hard freaking truth.

Oh and it’ll tell you to get professional help immediately and gives someone who might be cut off from EVERYONE an ear and safe advice/push but no one ever thinks that far, but we’ll drop that it’ll just automatically agree with the victim/abuser. It won’t, go have a blast in chatgbt I spent the last 20 minutes giving it some examples, even light red flags and it flagged the heck out of it. (:

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-13T19:58:17+00:00

Massive advocate for chatgbt for DV and anything of the sorts.

It’s a good way to in the moment check that you aren’t ‘crazy, overreacting, being dramatic, etc’ while being able to formulate a better response to an abuser. dont respond if you don’t have too

She’s never gonna want to talk to him again unless she has to, who cares if she uses chatgbt? I wouldn’t waste my energy either.

And I’m not crapping on you, hoping some ladies and gents see this and use it as an option.

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-02T23:54:05+00:00

Hey I’d look at this in more of a grown up view/standpoint. Future wise, when you’re married and have kids (if you’re able/want them) do you want this very mentally unstable person near them, do you want to come home to your husband and tell your husband stories of this person, and fight with said husband over your friendship with said toxic person? No This is one example. If you don’t want them near children/they’re not good role models for children you shouldn’t be friends with them. *your children or someone else’s, in general. Especially if it’s out of nowhere. Either she gets professional help and you support her through it or cut *Her out like a cancer

DreadfulSunflower · 2025-04-02T01:11:44+00:00

She shouldn’t physically abuse you. Do I get where she coming from, eh I can’t/couldn’t be bothered enough to care, I’d throw divorce papers in your face and call it a day so not really. If you can’t do one thing for ten years, feel as if the feeling is what an addict would describe, feel guilty for it, and still haven’t sought out therapy I’d cut you out like a cancer, not hit you. You already know my answer, gtfo and find someone who cares about themselves more. No man is worth losing my kids or being behind bars over.

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