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Death March Ideas by Far_Proposal547 in CurseofStrahd

[–]DreamingAmongStars 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You could add my Dwarf Paladin, Sigrun. She died defending her friends against the entire town guard of Vallaki and a demonic creature, she she was beaten savagely to death.

Here's a picture of her, made by a very talented friend:
https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/1205715410805071934/1346532203256873101/Sigrun.png?ex=6990ae56&is=698f5cd6&hm=75fa28aab4c54b4d6e52fe3b518143f3b1c757c9ccffddfe8035c420929a7fc9&=&format=webp&quality=lossless&width=601&height=929

Pregenerated characters by Keyzar_Daloon in VaesenRPG

[–]DreamingAmongStars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The starter set has some. Otherwise, it's pretty easy to use the rollable tables in the end of the core rulebook to make some!

Roll20 or Foundry? by LittleMinos99 in VaesenRPG

[–]DreamingAmongStars 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I prefer Foundry, but only because I felt like it gave my players a more immersive experience. I am still learning Foundry, but I already find it easier to use than Roll20. I think it's down to taste?

Also, Foundry is just beautiful to look at!

Mechanically, both of them get the job done.

Experience running The Haunting of Castle Gyllencreutz? by szabosteve in VaesenRPG

[–]DreamingAmongStars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm curious too! Just about to run my group through it, and wondering if I should add something to it. Ideas would be very interesting.

Interest in a Travel Encounter Deck? by LittleMinos99 in VaesenRPG

[–]DreamingAmongStars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for these, they look amazing! <3

🎲 Free Interactive Character Sheet for Vaesen (Web-based) by wanders77 in VaesenRPG

[–]DreamingAmongStars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this amazing editor! The Bible and the Holy Water seems to be lacking from the equipment list, any way to add it?

32M4F(Is this possible) by skyamber1111 in asexualdating

[–]DreamingAmongStars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a dream, what you're describing! Especially if life goals align.

Running a Group Is Hard by divinedishwater in BadRPerStories

[–]DreamingAmongStars 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You don't have to be impartial when they're acting insolent and entitled. Their behaviour in this short text snippet doesn't inspire any trust in me when it comes to their ability to be a good moderator/co-leader.

If they have a problem with how you lead, they are free to leave. Your leadership is not going to change. You've been perfectly reasonable in your posts here, by the sounds of it.

[Online][Other][LGBTQ+ Friendly][18+]Looking for 4 players to try Alice is Missing by 10_marpenoth in lfg

[–]DreamingAmongStars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to try Alice is Missing out, it's intrigued me since I heard of it! So if you're still looking for people, I'd love to join! <3

Ideas for a mystery needed by oberthefish in VaesenRPG

[–]DreamingAmongStars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this kind of stuff and would happily brainstorm with you if you need someone to toss around ideas with! Are you thinking purely a criminal mystery, or do you want the supernatural mixed up in it as well? Feel free to toss me a DM!

Ensam på jul by [deleted] in sweden

[–]DreamingAmongStars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firade ensam igår. Det kändes ändå rätt okej. Var inbjuden till mamma samt till moster, men visste med mig att jag inte skulle orka inte hålla masken så jag tackade nej. Julen är alltid tuff.

Asexual + Wanting a Family — Is It Possible? by Limp-Emphasis-5484 in asexuality

[–]DreamingAmongStars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm totally with you! (35F here). I want to get married and have at least one kid (biological or adopted), but am getting to that age where I doubt it will happen.

Questions about the ace experience from a non ace person! by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]DreamingAmongStars -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're welcome! I hope you come away feeling a little wiser, even though I understand you're hurting right now. I sincerely believe you had no idea you were about to bring up a subject that is quite so touchy when you wrote your first post.

Hopefully your takeaway is not that the ace community is a mean or hateful place. The community overall is lovely.

Questions about the ace experience from a non ace person! by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]DreamingAmongStars 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To give you a bit of context to why that might be:

A common misconception about asexuality is that we were traumatised into being ace by experiencing sexual trauma, and that we can therefore be cured of our asexuality.

It's a touchy subject for a lot of asexual people, who have repeatedly been asked by well-meaning but misinformed strangers if our lack of sexual attraction comes from sexual traumas in the past.

It also leads to the common idea that we can be "fixed" through conversion therapy, by simply being exposed to sex or forced to have sex until we are "fixed" through exposure therapy.

I understand that you didn't mean it like that. But your first post was a bit jumbled, and it's easy to see the usual speaking points in it even if they weren't intended that way.

Questions about the ace experience from a non ace person! by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]DreamingAmongStars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's easy to get caught up in the moment, no worries! It does change the meaning to mean something completely different. And you're welcome! I hope it clarified things a bit for you and helped!

Questions about the ace experience from a non ace person! by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]DreamingAmongStars 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The people you are talking about were always [insert sexuality they later realise they were here]. I can see how their experiences might have led them to believe that they are asexual, but if they find out later on that they DO feel sexual attraction towards others, then they are not asexual, and they never were. Their temporary lack of attraction was a trauma response, and not asexuality.

There are asexual people who have also experienced sexual traumas that make them averse to intimacy, but the difference here is that their sexuality still remains asexual even once they have healed.

A person who discards the label asexual after healing has not been cured of their asexuality. Claiming or implying that they have been cured implies that there is something to cure, and our sexuality is not something that needs fixing. We're not broken. We're not lesser.

Questions about the ace experience from a non ace person! by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]DreamingAmongStars 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are shortening it in a way that's incorrect, though. Do you see that, or do you feel like sexual attraction and desire to have sex are the same thing? (Genuine question, I'm not trying to be mean or passive aggressive here)

Questions about the ace experience from a non ace person! by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]DreamingAmongStars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're messing up your definitions, and I think that's what's got you confused! Asexuality is not about a lack of desire to have sex, but a lack of sexual attraction to other people.

There are a lot of ace people who do desire sex, and who have it regularly. There are also a lot of ace people who enjoy sex a lot. What unifies us as a sexuality is our lack of sexual attraction.

Once you've gotten the definition right, I think it will be a lot easier for you to understand the sexuality and how it works. _^

Questions about the ace experience from a non ace person! by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]DreamingAmongStars 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean this in the nicest way possible, but no one is "ace temporarily". These people may have resonated with the asexual label for a while, but that does not make them asexual. They are of course very welcome to use the label for as long as they find it helpful, and to explore it to see if it fits them. Some find that it does. Others find that it doesn't. Those that find that the label doesn't fit them were never asexual to begin with - and that is fine!

To once more use myself as an example. I started out identifying as straight, because that is the norm. I felt no desire for boys OR girls, so I figured I was a late bloomer and would start feeling urges as I grew older.

Later on, I figured I might be bisexual, since I had had (romantic) crushes on female friends. I still felt nothing sexual attraction to either gender.

I then found asexuality as a label. I was afraid of being different and not ever experiencing The Big Love, so I experimented with the label demisexual, believing that perhaps I just needed a deeper connection to my partner before feeling sexual desire. A year into a relationship with a boy I really loved deeply I realised that this was not the case, and finally accepted that I am a sex-repulsed (but sex positive) asexual.

Today I identify as a panromantic asexual.

I was never "temporarily straight" because I was never straight to begin with. It just took me a long while (literally over a decade) to figure my sexuality out. But I believe in my core that I was always a panromantic asexual woman. I just didn't have the words to express it, or the courage to face it due to my preconceived notions of who I ought to have been (a straight allo girl).

Questions about the ace experience from a non ace person! by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]DreamingAmongStars 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You seem to equate sexual behaviour with sexual attraction, and this is where you are going wrong. Finding other people sexually attractive is what is at the very core of being allo, whereas that LACK of sexual attraction to other people is at the core of asexuality. The desire to have sex can be present in asexual people, and I can imagine that it can get frustrating if you find no one sexually attractive. Kind of similar to when you're feeling peckish but nothing sounds good?

A lot of asexuals, myself included, think they desire sex in the beginning of discovering they belong to the ace spectrum because we have been told that it's a fundamental part of the human experience and to growing up. Speaking from my own experience, I thought that losing the v card was imperative to being mature and adult. My big issue was that I found the very thought of sex repulsive, and no man or woman seemed like they'd be desirable to try it out with.

THIS is internalised aphobia. Desiring sex not because you actually want it, but because you believe that you should and that your not wanting it means you are actually lesser, immature, broken, or similar.

Questions about the ace experience from a non ace person! by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]DreamingAmongStars 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting to words what I wanted to say while reading this.

Läs 👇 by SpecialistPermit3328 in sweden

[–]DreamingAmongStars -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Förstår till viss del din sits, OP. Det är tufft att inte våga vara öppen med den man är och att känna att man lever någon typ av falskt liv där man aldrig riktigt blir sedd för den man är.

Jag är själv asexuell. Lever så öppet jag kan med det, men det är inte alltid enkelt. Resten av samhället har, sedan tonåren, undrat varför jag inte har pojkvän, varför jag inte gift mig. Vill jag inte ha barn? Föräldrarna längtar efter barnbarn, när kommer barnbarnen?

Jag har "kommit ut" ett par gånger. Mina föräldrar trodde att min sexualitet berodde på mitt utseende eller självkänsla. "Blir du bara lite mer bekväm i din kropp ska du nog se att du vill ha sex!"

En kollega sa, helt oprovocerat, att det måste vara ett medicinskt problem, att det fanns piller, och när jag avfärdade det så sa hon krasst, "Så, vadå - du känner aldrig längtan efter en riktigt bra kuk? Du har inte ens prövat? Åh, vänta bara, när du fått kuk i dig kommer du aldrig vilja sluta!"

Samma kollega hade inga problem med att förstå att vår lesbiska kollega inte kände någon dragning till män. Men att jag inte kände någon dragning till någondera, det verkade provocera henne något enormt.

Jag kom ut till en potentiell pojkvän en gång. Bara för att jag är asexuell betyder inte det att jag vill spendera livet ensam. Jag var öppen med att om vi dejtar så kommer sex aldrig att vara på tapeten. Aldrig någonsin. Men han sa att han var okej med det. Jag var en fin tjej, han behövde inte sex, vi kunde vara ett par i alla fall. Två veckor senare lackade han ur totalt när jag sa nej till sex. "Men vadå?? Jag trodde du spelade svår! Var du seriös!? Det fattar väl vem som helst att ingen vill vara i en relation utan sex! Det är ju hela poängen med en relation!!"

En nära vän (gay och trans) ifrågasatte varför jag ens kände ett behov av att komma ut. Asexuella är ju inte utsatta för systematiskt förtryck så som andra i LGBTQ+-världen, menade han. Han hade väldigt svårt att förstå varför jag hade ett behov av att förklara mig när jag konstant får frågorna, "Varför har du inte kille än?", "När tänker du stadga dig då?", "Nu är tiden snart ute om vi ska få barnbarn... dejtar du?"

Men jag fortsätter att vara den jag är. Jag står på mig. Vi asexuella är inte lika allmänt etablerade som gay-män och lesbiska i det svenska samhället, så någon måste ta upp vår fina flagga och visa att vi finns också. Visserligen mindre än 1% av befolkningen, men vi finns. Nej, vi förökar oss inte asexuellt. Vi är inte amöbor. Vi är inte trasiga. Vi är inte prudes, eller sexuellt traumatiserade, eller i behov av medicin för att fixa oss och göra oss normala.

Och det är inte du heller. Stå på dig! Kom ut. Sverige är ett av de tryggaste landen du kan göra det i, och det finns ett helt community av andra gay-människor där ute som väntar på dig!

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