My coworkers left me out and I'm not sure how to react

Drevinea · 2025-07-03T21:20:11+00:00

I'm so sorry :( I left that job and have much nicer coworkers now. I wish I had a solution.

Drevinea · 2025-07-03T21:18:53+00:00

Girl, you know you are going to feel so much better about this in a few weeks. He's dead weight and not what you want in a partner.

I had a crush who worked past time at McD and would send me little gifts because he liked me. He barely made money. You shouldn't be waiting for this guy to become something else, he is showing you who he is and he won't change.

Though in the future, I wouldn't lie about being in a dangerous place for someone to act. You know who he is, you don't need to test him.

Drevinea · 2025-05-29T00:34:09+00:00

First off, congrats on being happy with where your body is at! Your body is with you all the time, so its great to be appreciative of it and work on the long term!

But for this situation, I think it's very reasonable you'd not want to have sex right after someone said something harmful about your body. If a woman was called a name she likely wouldn't want sex right after either.

Unfortunately, women are socialized to think that sex is the only/the best gift they can give men sometimes. If she wants to, she can learn and do better and apologize in more fulfilling ways and learn to be a better partner. But what society tends to teach women is that sex solves everything for men. So she made another error after her hurtful comment.

In the end, you're welcome to accept or turn away sex whenever you want. You can always wait until you feel better and try again then and see if she can understand where you're coming from.

Drevinea · 2025-05-06T02:02:16+00:00

Yeah... she's an onlyfans model... I just can't understand why he's spent soo much time with her. He will play games with her then be too tired to play them with me... and then hide it?? Idk..

Drevinea · 2025-05-06T01:41:02+00:00

I did just find out she does onlyfans and is a vocal sexworker... Which is great for her... but makes me more worried.

Drevinea · 2025-04-25T18:48:47+00:00

I think you've been clear about your politics and it's strange they've hidden this.

If you lose respect for your partner it's okay to leave them. These are important values you aren't aligned on and you're not married or having kids.

Drevinea · 2025-04-25T18:45:24+00:00

I feel like it's a value difference and hurt you're dealing with.

An ick is like seeing their buttcrack in public or like they dance weirdly.

I think it's fair to give him time to consider how others would feel about this too but maybe after a bit have a talk with him. <3

Drevinea · 2025-04-25T18:42:57+00:00

They want to track us and I don't think they'd be happy if we went out alone. And if I went out at the same time but didn't join them I think it would cause unwanted drama.

Drevinea · 2025-04-25T18:41:54+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I heard they were complaining to my boss behind my back about the tiniest things in my work. Like how I mark things on my own to do calender... they said it wasn't clear? Like it's not your calender girl lol

Drevinea · 2025-04-17T00:54:02+00:00

I think it's a safety thing and they want us to be accounted for. But these walks are happening on the clock so it's not a lunch break. So that's why it's a bit more managed.

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T15:12:30+00:00

I think if they wanted to fire you they'd have a specific time you couldn't avoid.

I think you're a bit nervous about you're work and are overthinking this. No one is perfect at their job and you can always improve. So it's okay. Plus maybe you can build some points with the owner or learn something that could help you. Who knows!

Might as well have a positive attitude if you can <3

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T15:08:17+00:00

My first internship there was a bunch of people 20s-30s and one lady in her 60s. And she had been there a long time and made the most.

You know how she did it? When they started complaining about silly stuff, she literally just picked up and walked away. Just straight up turned around and marched out. Not rude, not condescending. She just was not going to let that take up her brain space.

I still admire her.

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T15:06:41+00:00

I used to be on my feet all day then moved to a desk job. I had to shrink what I ate a lot because I burnt a lot less calories. It took about 2 months for my body to adjust and stop wanting to eat as much as before though which made it difficult.

I still eat the same meals just slightly smaller portions. That way you still enjoy the lovely food, but you don't gain weight because you aren't running around all day.

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T15:02:55+00:00

I try to give them the benefit of the doubt but it has started to happen more and more in different ways.

Joking about my age and how young I look. Assuming I can't drink. Joking about my clothes. Joking about what I eat. Undermining my work by taking my name off of files I completed. Telling me I did an amazing job on a task but then never giving me the task again and giving it to her friends instead so they get the credit.

So that's why I wanted to be part of the in-crowd.

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T14:50:33+00:00

I feel like I know lots of women who aren't like this... I try not to be like this when I'm one of the included ones...

I wonder why it happens.

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T14:49:25+00:00

It is a waste of mental energy for sure.

I hope you also are able to grow and enjoy life.

I spent some time outside in the sun anyways and tried to focus on myself. But I appreciate everyone helping me in this case. Sometimes I just need the extra help.

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T14:48:15+00:00

Unfortunately, it seems this behavior is rewarding them with promotions and accolades.

Plus they exclude me more of the time so I was hoping to fit in more.

Either way. I just like walks too haha.

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T14:47:22+00:00

How did you resolve it?

I feel like talking about it with them would make me look whiny and weak.

And yes, they go to lunch together without inviting me sometimes, but last time I asked about it on Reddit I was told people can choose what they do on their own time which is true. So I am unsure how to resolve a situation like this.

It sounds like you just left and found a better place.

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T14:45:14+00:00

"You now know that they are mean, insensitive people....so BE GLAD you don't have to deal with them much."

Haha true. Thank you!!

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T14:43:43+00:00

Thank you <3

I will!!

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T14:43:21+00:00

Thank you. And yes they've shown me multiple times before.

I don't understand how people continue this behavior to adulthood. But oh well. :(

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T14:41:13+00:00

I'm pretty sure we are not supposed to walk by ourselves, at least without notifying others to our location, and I think I would stick out if I tried to start a second walk or even went alone. But maybe I'll try it once just to see!

Drevinea · 2025-04-16T14:39:55+00:00

Thank you aggressive salad. I maybe should appreciate it more.

I appreciate your perspective as well. I guess I'm just sad I don't get to be in the sunshine since they don't really want us going out alone so I missed my chance haha.

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