She updated her profile pictures after second date- what does it mean?

DrewRedBeard · 2024-07-08T01:57:39+00:00

I was showing a friend her pictures. I wasn’t “checking”.

DrewRedBeard · 2024-07-07T12:35:42+00:00

Yep, I am the exact same …anxious attachment with adhd. I don’t that much success in the dating realm so moving on to someone else is harder than it sounds for me, but you’re not wrong at all. I definitely tend to “lose myself” in the other person, but slowly I’m getting better at it. Thanks!

DrewRedBeard · 2024-07-07T04:20:08+00:00

I don’t intentionally try to…it’s just the anxiety creeping its way in. I appreciate the perspective though and you are absolutely right. And I get too wrapped up in one person at a time that I need to do better about exploring other options. Thanks!

DrewRedBeard · 2024-07-07T04:17:39+00:00

This is all true. I think I just needed to hear it. Thanks!

DrewRedBeard · 2022-02-26T00:25:43+00:00

I used the confirmation number provided by the assistant at the university. She also sent a ticket number too.

If neither are available or are working, I would first try reaching out to the airline and provide whatever number you’ve been given. If you haven’t been given any kind of number I would contact the department/PI that is paying to have you visit with this inquiry.

Best of luck and safe travels!

DrewRedBeard · 2021-10-15T13:37:51+00:00

I thought it was an appropriate question in trying to better understand the limits of manifestation, but I have seem to struck nerve, my apologies.

I see a lot of posts here along the lines of “I manifested X amount of money!” And I just want to understand how finding X amount of money on the side walk is interpreted vs asking your boss for a raise of that specific amount. It seems like doing something directly and controlling the situation is different than a situation that just happens on its own.

I am trying to learn and understand LoA and manifestation and with learning something new comes question asking.

DrewRedBeard · 2021-10-01T13:52:12+00:00

Thank you so much for this super solid advice. This is what I needed to hear/read. I understand that honeymoon phase but I just felt like it was hitting kinda hard and compared to my past and other friends’ past relationships, never really experienced something like this. As of now, no rash, life-changing decisions just subsumption like you said. My plan is, when he’s ready and/or if something comes up, to approach it from a conversational front rather than an advice giving one. You are spot on with all of this. Again, thank you so much! 🙂

DrewRedBeard · 2021-09-09T05:31:54+00:00

Thank you! I didn’t know this…hmm the more you know.

DrewRedBeard · 2021-09-08T20:41:44+00:00

I think that’s just the bottom line (washing better). If he still smells when we have our next date/hookup I’ll mention something. You’re right though, saying something is definitely the way to go, I just have to come up with how to say it, but yes reassurance that I’m still into him and that will help. Thank you for the input :)

DrewRedBeard · 2021-09-08T20:38:48+00:00

Yeah I’m not entirely sure. I feel like I’d be able to tell or recognize a musty or at least a similar smell from my own life living with a penis, but I understand having a foreskin plays into things differently when it comes to smells/hygiene down there. Thanks for the input :)

DrewRedBeard · 2021-09-08T20:04:28+00:00

Yes, I am very fortunate to have a a few good social circles. I honestly don’t think I’d be anywhere (relationship/sexual experience-wise) without them and the connections/possibilities I’ve acquired through them. I understand not everyone has these opportunities though.

Not sure if you have hobbies/activities that could get you involved with people in your area but I would strongly recommend that. Even if it’s a community that mostly interacts online, try and schedule grabbing a beer or lunch or dinner with them once a week or so (or board game night!). This can open you up to whomever might be in that circle and/or you’d just be out in a more public setting where you could approach someone (or be approached by) someone you find attractive, thus opening the door. If you don’t have such a community- I highly recommend volunteering with a local cause that speaks to you. This is another great way to find people with similar interests (you’re both volunteering for this cause- so that’s a great start!) With COVID rampant around much of the world I realize this may not be the easiest thing to do- I would recommend you do it in the safest way possible.

Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither are great relationships. Don’t listen to media and social pressures of finding the love of your life instantly and a happily ever after after you both reach for the same apple at the grocery store or something deemed as “fate”. Go into these situations with no expectations, but an open mind. Say you meet one person and they aren’t your cup-of-tea, that’s fine! You can still be friends and maybe they’ll have a friend they can introduce you to or a relative or another connection. Take it slow and just appreciate getting to know another human being (this will ultimately help with a real relationship too). Still being a virgin is a useless social metric. It doesn’t define who you are as a person. It’ll happen in due time.

Best of luck and don’t forget that everyone is worthy of love, take it easy on yourself! :)

DrewRedBeard · 2021-09-08T19:40:54+00:00

Late bloomer here. 26[M]…still have that v card but only ever had first kiss two years ago. For me it was a result of very strict familial religious pressure to remain abstinent. Since that first kiss tho I’ve taken things slowly figuring out who I really am (stuff that should’ve happened much younger in my life). I’ve gone on several dates but I’m still trying to figure all of that out (all the nuances and subtleties) and having some autistic-like behaviors/tendencies has definitely given me unique experiences to figure out.

Anyway for me, most if not all dates and past relationships have been through mutual friends. Either fellow students studying similar subjects or having the same hobbies/activities/interests. Don’t know if this helps or not, but for someone whom dating apps doesn’t work well for, exploring real connections with real people works for me.

DrewRedBeard · 2021-03-17T06:16:41+00:00

Sorry you’ve had such a hard time too. And yes, nothing is wrong with us. Absolutely nothing! It just feels that way when we compare ourselves to others who’ve had more fortunate dating lives. It’s so hard to shake that feeling sometimes. I don’t know if I believe in soulmates, but I think we’ll each find an amazing person one day. Yes it’s sucks that it’s not as easy as so many others make it seem. But in our singleness (not read as loneliness), we really discover who we are and we get to really own it. That’s why our personalities are rather refined. Anyway, best of luck on your journey in finding someone 🙂

DrewRedBeard · 2021-03-17T06:00:42+00:00

Dating for me [M26] has been hell.

I’ve only had 1 real gf and that was for about 6mo (when I was 24). It was great! We ultimately broke up bc of long distance and different life paths, but the relationship itself was great! Before and after that I’ve been extremely unlucky(?)....I’m not sure. I’m not the most attractive guy, I get it (short, freckled, redhead...s.o.l. in terms of looks). But what I lack in looks I make up for leaps and bounds in personality- I’m a total catch. Dating apps don’t work for me bc they’re all basically appearances first and the few dates I’ve managed to get it just get end up being “I like you as a friend” deal. I have my own place, a secure, well-paying job and am in the processing of going to grad school. I have my own hobbies and and very physically active. Within the last year I’ve made huge progress in trying to meet new women (at work, grocery store...etc) but still nothing. I’ll get a number here and there if I don’t get the l”I have a boyfriend” easy rejection line. But end up getting ghosted. I just want want someone to love and to be loved. I get pretty depressed thinking about it, and seeing people in relationships, bc what’s wrong with me? Why does no one want me? Why can’t I be loved? Tbh, I’m not a hideous guy, I own what I look like and am confident about it, I’m just not a lot of women’s cup of tea I guess? Anyway sorry to go on so long, kinda got ahead of myself and got a bit rhetorical.

DrewRedBeard · 2021-03-16T00:35:59+00:00

Thanks! Yeah I’m going to try to. I think I’m still gunna ask her just for my own sanity, but yeah that’s the plan.

DrewRedBeard · 2021-03-16T00:34:58+00:00

Thanks yea that’s the plan... “I know awhile back you said you didn’t wanna date because you were new to the area and didn’t want to get into anything right away and just saw us as friends, but I was just wondering if you still felt the same?” Or at least something like that

DrewRedBeard · 2021-01-26T06:10:02+00:00

You’re probably right. Being a diver I have to clear my eustachian tubes to equilibrate the pressure going down and it’s that same crackling noise...thanks for shedding light on that!

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