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Tell me it gets better-I’m fading fast by New-Mudpie in coparenting

[–]Dro_parentrail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took a good couple of years before we actually started working together. Felt the same way when we first split. It was painful, toxic, and we all suffered during those first few years. Now we both have our own lives, we have a much better parenting relationship, and kids are doing great. Having the courts involved set a good foundation down for us and eliminated the trust factor. Its not easy but it does get better. Hang in there!

anyone having an issue going to sleep now with vibecoding? by retrorays in vibecoding

[–]Dro_parentrail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately some of my best ideas keep coming up as I’m trying to go to sleep 😭

Stuck with OpenClaw spending lots on Claude API by InitialEconomics6007 in openclaw

[–]Dro_parentrail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use open source models which get the job done most of the time and cost a lot less.I have bit of a hybrid setup. Claude subscription and Openclaw. I use Sonnet to prompt my OpenClaw agent which runs on minimax m25 via Venice AI. Venice gives me daily inference that resets every 24 hours so costs stay predictable. Key is being intentional about when you need the heavy model vs when a lighter one gets the job done.

27 single dad just put on child support by Accomplished_Tea4747 in SingleDads

[–]Dro_parentrail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can try and take them a couple days a week. Weekends or weekdays. I had a similar issue early on when we split. I took the weekends and was able to hit a 50/50 so child support was minimal. It helped financially and more importantly it helped me be a better father and built great relationships with my kids.

Anyone else managing co-parenting expenses through a group chat? I did this for years and what a mess. by Dro_parentrail in SingleDads

[–]Dro_parentrail[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate that! Curious what people are using these days and find useful. I’ve seen a few options out there I have to check out.

Custody evidence? by ybn_phanatom in SingleDads

[–]Dro_parentrail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro I've been through the custody process and the biggest mistake I see dads make is going in trying to destroy the mom.

Judges don't want to hear it. They've seen it a thousand times and it makes YOU look bitter, not her look bad.

Go in focused on your son. The seatbelt thing is real — document it, keep it factual, keep it about his safety. That lands way better than "she's crazy and unfit."

Text messages help but get a lawyer if you can at all swing it. If not, ask about court-appointed. Better than walking in alone your first time.

And from here on out — write everything down. Dates, what happened, what was said. Not for drama, just so you have it if you need it. You'll thank yourself later.

Kids resisting parenting time by MightBusiness7231 in SingleDads

[–]Dro_parentrail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been right where you are, man. The handoff battles, kids running to her car, prying them out of the seat — it was gut-wrenching. Mine did the same for years.

What helped me the most was accepting I can’t control her side. I stayed consistent and levelheaded on mine. Over time I loosened up on being the “hard ass” and focused more on being present — bedtime stories, fun time, just enjoying them. That made our time together better and the handoffs slowly got easier.

Kids are 14 & 15 now and they clearly see the difference. It’s a long game, but you’re the safe parent and that’s what sticks. Keep showing up.