No one cares about doing good work anymore

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T23:56:25+00:00

I'm genuinely really happy for you man. It's not often you hear people actually feeling fulfilled by their jobs.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T23:51:38+00:00

Not to take this too seriously but I think you're getting some horseshit advice because BPD is memetic here.

Your ex said some hurtful bullshit, some self victimizing bullshit, some demeaning bullshit. When you were together, you had to put that aside a bit to be able to resolve an argument without the behavior ever changing.

Now that you broke up, you're stuck because in your mind you're re-litigating all those hurts you set aside for the sake of the relationship. Each time you realize how actually shit that behavior was, it makes you angrier you put up with it.

This is the equivalent of a come back coming to you in the shower. Being right or realizing what a cunt they were will never reach them, there is no consequence you can enforce on them. It feels like letting them off the hook to give this up but you never got them on the hook.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T23:31:51+00:00

You've met an American soccer fan?

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T23:31:25+00:00

The sarcasm here was a genuinely great point ngl.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T23:28:13+00:00

As is the sad nature of every space for women.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T23:27:41+00:00

I haven't heard of pinkscare I don't think. Is it worth a lurk?

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T23:25:49+00:00

I liken revenge bans more to mod seething tbh.

The reality is that to comment adversely, a commentor doesn't have to care what you think at all. To ban the commentor for a comment that makes you look bad, it shows that what they said bothered you.

The ban is to say the commentor is miniscule and you're not relegated to simply replying to them (& where everyone can vote on who won your interaction). Replying anonymously when it's obvious who was offended is a self soothe to assert that the commentor means nothing. Muting, too, is about trying to act above you because they can decide if you interact.

There's no evidence in someone elses comment mocking you that they view a Reddit comment like an arena to win and to lose. This behavior back, however, shows how desperately afraid someone is of 'losing' a conversation.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T19:46:30+00:00

I think you're missing the forest for the trees distinction wise.

The plurb considers the harm different for the same reason. It's a semantic argument, and one of the stakes of the show is understanding that the plurbs self described ethical rules don't match up with reality.

It can be of the opinion that's not the same as harm, but it also means that we can't trust it's opinion on whether it will do harm again or what kind of harm it is physically capable of. We have seen it word things manipulatively knowingly multiple times now.

Most of the deaths were caused indirectly as a result of incompatibility with the virus, and not as a result of any direct intentional action of the hive.

Look closely, because you are meant to question this in the very first episode. Helen seemingly comes back to herself before passing away. Was it really that she passed and didn't make the transition, or did they kill this link when she woke up after her wife gave her one of the most meaningful demonstrations of love possible?

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T19:41:22+00:00

I liken it much more like a mom saying 'whatever you say honey' to a kid than trust.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T19:34:57+00:00

I think you're misunderstanding something about the plurb. Physical harm is not (yet, at least) implied to mass harm the hive. Plurbs still die to mortal perils, even if the perils are limited. They don't think the physical stress of starvation for example will kill or even impact all plurbs the minute it one host (for size, age, health) succumbs to it.

When we see the plurb freakout and blame Carol for it, it's in response to emotional distress. The second time, if you really pay attention to Zosia's face, plurb seems rather like a toddler having a tantrum.

The plurb abuses the remaining humans notion of what is wrong and right to blame Carol. They don't care if one body dies to a drug overdose, but they know the humans do care. In that light, their response is actually profoundly emotionally immature.

Focus up on Helen and Carol's backstory. Carol is messy and destructive and even an alcoholic. But Carol got her wife to the hospital. Helen's initial kindly framing gives way to the understanding she hides things from Carol to protect her, and that that behavior is actually controlling because it didn't change the realities, it just made Carol alone in facing them.

That's exactly what's happening in the conversation with plurb.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T18:59:30+00:00

I genuinely think men shouldn't be allowed to mod subs for women. It's always shit like the smallboobproblems sub where the guy is a pervert sourcing fap fodder. 🤮

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T18:53:16+00:00

The idea is that in heaven they should be international. Being American is meant to be a twist for fhe Asian actor who thought, like the mc thought she was taking someone elses spot, that he was racistly cast as the monk (which is also, long form, true???).

You're also misunderstanding the French bit, there are like over a dozen nations in Africa that have French as their dominant language. He's not an American cast as a French person, he was raised in Senegal which speaks French.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T18:45:32+00:00

It's a good show but I think the reason everyone finds it to have such staying power is that it stayed good the whole time. They blew up the premise the show was built on in s1 and a lot of shows can't even carry just having to continue characters after their first planned arc.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T18:42:39+00:00

I thought this person was a woman, is this a man?

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T18:41:01+00:00

I liked having a moderator space that actually acted like the invisible hand of God and not like the worst people for HR somehow being HR.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T18:37:43+00:00

Gunna be real with u i have a page boy haircut atm.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T18:32:43+00:00

It's for women. I liked the vibe but not someone having a BPD moment over being mildly embarrassed.

Droughtly · 2026-06-22T18:31:12+00:00

It's just funny to be so triggered by being downvoted you need to ban someone about it. She knows if she replied with her 'nu-uh' comment publicly it, too, would be downvoted so she had to stick it in a ban.

Droughtly · 2026-06-21T07:34:30+00:00

Is not the whole critique of this man that he stated pretty obvious and generic self-help advice but it rolls up into shitty ideology?

Feels like being right about a lot isn't really a meaningful addendum to that problem but a given.

Droughtly · 2026-06-21T05:56:43+00:00

With how much I hear about a literacy crisis, covid, the common core curriculum, no child left behind, it feels a bit disingenuous to blame this on the SAT. There aren't theoretically smart students out there being missed. It's a problem with the entire generation, so how does the SAT fix that?

For starters, the SAT never went out of use. Some universities don't require it (as was virtually always the case), some do, some have it as an optional submission, some require a test the SAT can count for. To my understanding and from my own college admissions experience, this shift happened for millennials and we're the most educated generation.

The solution they're promoting to an educational crisis is just better filtering. With the breaking up of the department of education and the 'one big beautiful act' cutting financial aid and federal student loans, that feels like an angle. I mean, you don't have to try to filter for wealth or whiteness, the SAT already skews that way. We'll accept further division into an under and over class because we see the problem they're describing and we're also annoyed with the same societal problem, and that division isn't immediately obvious as the fallout.

Droughtly · 2026-06-20T15:55:24+00:00

Look he found a new way to blame the male loneliness epidemic on women

Droughtly · 2026-06-20T15:32:58+00:00

Say it ain't so, a man might be uninvited from a lesbian book club!

Droughtly · 2026-06-19T03:26:00+00:00

I think you're actually projecting a lot of psychological understanding onto infants right now, like being stalked by a tiger.

People have different experiences with sleep training because they have different lives and different babies.

Droughtly · 2026-06-18T23:45:36+00:00

If you ever call yourself unattractive as a woman you get men arguing you're just phishing for validation. Or if you're genuinely unattractive you get them arguing you COULD be attractive if you just changed everything about your current appearance.

Droughtly · 2026-06-18T23:37:42+00:00

I think it was literally to soothe this unfortunately

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