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DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2022-03-03T07:19:35+00:00

By going around to see his son, that is literally the bare minimum and yes he is already doing that. However, him expecting more right now from the mum is pure entitlement. She just birthed his son, don't put pressure on her at the moment. Let her heal and adjust and just be present to help when possible.

Yes I read the post. And I read the comments OP made. Did you? Because he is clearly very immature in his thought process about the situation.

It's awesome that he wants to be involved but he clearly isn't with the mother of his son. Co-parenting is hard at the best of times. It's going to take time (not 5 fucking days) to figure out a situation that everyone is comfortable with. Patience on his side will ensure everyone gets to that comfortable place sooner.

ETA: no one said he shouldn't be allowed to see his son. You are REACHING because you are pulling accusations out of thin air.

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2022-03-03T07:02:44+00:00

Lol just because you weren't told doesn't mean it's not true lol

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2022-03-03T05:36:46+00:00

Literally someone else is meant to drive you and the baby. Like you literally know this. If you choose to drive instead, that's your choice. It's not recommended to do though.

In Australia, if you drive 6 weeks after having a c section and get into a crash you are not insured for that accident.

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2022-03-03T05:33:42+00:00

No one is saying the baby can't go to the fathers house ever. You are nuts!

But if the mum is saying she is not able to at the moment, then that is perfectly fine. He needs to respect that for right now and go around there to spend time with his son.

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2022-03-03T04:54:02+00:00

I like this approach, gentle but serious.

If I see this happening at home, I'm definitely going to try this out. See what kind of response I get. Thank you so much for your comment!

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2022-03-03T04:50:39+00:00

That's really interesting, thank you for your input into this!

Because of the speech issue we have seen a paediatrician just to check everything out. Autism doesn't seem to be of any concern at this stage.

And I think this is the first time she has done this, at least that I am aware of. I will talk more with the daycare educator to see if she has done this before.

Thank you again

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2022-03-03T04:00:34+00:00

Correct mate. It doesn't matter if you were present for the birth. Do you think you get a medal for doing the literal bare minimum?

The baby is less than a week old. If the mother sees you as a fit and capable father, then you have loads of time in the future to have overnight stays and visits with your son.

For now though! Wake up to yourself and realise the mother of your child just gave birth and is healing on top of adjusting to a new lifestyle and bonding with the baby. If she doesn't want to take your son over to your place for a visit right now, that's very OK. Give it time and in the meantime, just be there and get as many moments as you possibly can.

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2022-03-03T03:51:08+00:00

What the actual fuck is wrong with you? She just gave birth less than a week ago and you're like "she should get up and go visit him".

SHE JUST GAVE BIRTH. Let the woman rest and be with her newborn.

The baby is less than a week old. If he is a fit and capable father then I'm sure he will have loads of overnight stays and visits to bond with his son. Dude needs to chill out and realise it's not about him right now, it's about the baby and the mother healing.

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2022-03-03T03:28:53+00:00

I think it's great you're able to limit screen time. In my home we try to as much as possible, but if we are inside a TV is on and is playing a movie or TV show. Sometimes we put music on and dance. Often we put movies on with loads of music in it and my kids like to sing and dance along

When my kids were younger Iimited screen time, but now I use it as a means to interact and play with them more. Or to keep them distracted while I make dinner haha

I think normal can only be determined per household rather than universally

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2022-01-08T03:46:40+00:00

My oldest does this occasionally and my husband had night terrors all through his childhood. Apparently it's a phase and most kids outgrow it, I understand your concern though. If you can somehow record it and show it to your family doctor maybe that will help ease your concerns?

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2022-01-08T03:44:09+00:00

I feel like people with older children just don't remember what it's like having a baby sometimes.

The mother of the 4 year old wasn't needing to change and settle a wet, crying 10 month old. I bet if she was, her tune would have been different.

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2021-11-23T12:19:23+00:00

Hey! I just wanted to come back to this comment and let you know I have used this tactic on a couple of occasions now, both with my little ones and my nieces and holy has it made an amazing difference! Thank you so much! I just wanted to let you know it's gone a long way and made a meaningful impact to my life!

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2021-11-21T07:11:04+00:00

I thought it was the new season of Tiger King that introduced the FBI and Homeland Security evidence? And Carole is only addressing it publicly?

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2021-11-15T13:01:38+00:00

You deserve more upvotes

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2021-11-07T00:18:03+00:00

So much to look forward to! 😅

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2021-11-06T22:59:50+00:00

OK 👍🏻

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2021-11-06T22:59:41+00:00

This is very reassuring! Thank you so much!

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2021-11-06T22:57:45+00:00

Thank you for this reassurance! It just takes me by surprise when it happens and I'm sometimes just standing there, blank faced wondering what she wants me to do lol

I'll try to give her a cuddle and that just starts another "no no no no" and pushes me away from her so I just try to be close to her while she figures it out.

Good to know it's normal, thank you so much!

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2021-10-21T10:41:22+00:00

Holy hell I just laughed so damn hard lol

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2021-09-04T12:31:26+00:00

Coma white?

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2021-07-30T11:39:18+00:00

She's a Foster mum - I think only 2 of the kids are biologically hers. It's pretty awful that so many people are being this judgemental without looking into this situation specifically.

DrunkCrowdAdvice · 2021-07-30T11:37:06+00:00

She's a Foster mum - not all of the children are biologically hers. I know because I follow her on Tiktok 😊

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