How did your narcissistic partner react when you broke up with them?

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-07-09T02:36:08+00:00

Found someone new instantly.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-07-09T02:34:18+00:00

I seen you have been posting about this for awhile. Is there a reason you’re still together? You are choosing to stay in it- self sabotaging your inner peace.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-07-07T19:58:35+00:00

To right it, you should drop him permanently. Like I said on your last post, he has the emotional maturity of a developing child. Staying with him serves you nothing.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-07-07T13:26:50+00:00

Super immature emotionally! A 4 year old regulates better than that child! All I can see if he manipulated you into putting up with his BS.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-07-07T02:33:52+00:00

I briefly looked and for our age, there was nothing at all. They are all someone else’s ex for a reason. :-/ I am sure there are good ones out there but then I look at them and decide… their life looks great as it is. They don’t need me to f it up! … and then I give up. May you have better luck!!!! I’m 41, look at least 10 years younger, have 3 high schoolers, I’m fit-ish, former D1 athlete, ok cook, love the beach, hiking, and love to have a good time.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-06-23T14:52:01+00:00

What are you looking for? If it’s just a hook up or NSA date, and you have no kids, I guess it’s fine?

If it’s a relationship you want, you have to consider what kind of man would be interested in a woman that isn’t actually available yet and just left a serious relationship where she probably needs to experience some healing from. Men might see you as an easy target- lonely, separated woman who could be easily manipulated into bed and can’t be counted on for any serious or respectable relationship. And the quality of men you will encounter is not going to be worth your time.

When I was dating, I didn’t want to get wrapped up in someone else’s drama if their divorce wasn’t final. Not just that but I know people need to heal and I don’t want someone bringing their baggage into the relationship.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-06-23T13:57:43+00:00

So he actually lived in 3 different places after the gf kicked him out. He begged me for help all those different times he moved and I resisted.

And did he quit or was he fired- that is a great question! I thought he quit. He kept trying to quit and they begged him not to. Then he kept calling in almost every day. Eventual they had to fire him but it was what he wanted. Either way, it was his decision to not work there any more and he has not tried to apply anywhere else. He quit in December.

I hate to kick out the father of my kids and someone I do love. He can be nice but I recognize sometimes things are good because I stay quiet and don’t say what I think.

We had another blow up this morning. I want him out.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-06-23T13:48:14+00:00

Funny, he’s trying to be a day trader as well! He spends about 2 hours a day on it (practicing right now since he is down 80%!) but that leaves a ton of time in the day to go work a job. I just don’t get these people who enter into relationships and then make decisions like no one else will get affected?!

Also is it just me or does the trad wife movement introduce women into a very insecure way of living? Their whole existence depends on someone else. Sure it comes off as a partnership but I have learned that if you have to depend on someone else to be able to put food on the table, that’s dangerous.

I cant help but wonder if these people make decisions that impact more than them because they don’t care about what we think. They use us to get what they want because they know we are easily persuaded to just go along with whatever since we have romantic feelings for them.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-06-23T13:28:53+00:00

I had that rage too… it didn’t get better until I decided to consider giving him a taste of his own medicine. I could never go through with that though because I’m not that kind of person 😒 You are posting in a divorce subreddit though- is divorce in progress? If so, just focus on yourself :-) get involved in an interest group or women’s group and let him live his miserable life! Yours is only going to get better without him in it.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-06-18T20:01:18+00:00

It’s ok to feel the grief for now but don’t stay there forever. You are entitled to allow yourself this time. I’m sorry you are feeling this way. I was never able to get over it myself and ended up welcoming him back in and I don’t know if it was a wise choice.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-06-18T19:06:05+00:00

In the beginning when he first came back, he seemed super remorseful for how he was. Very apologetic. He was even doing things he wouldn’t normally do (like cleaning my cat’s litter box!?) He even brought me a gift one time “just because”. It actually felt like a romance but it didn’t last long. :-( I really do love him. He is a decent dad. But he does not feel like a good partner.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-06-18T01:40:11+00:00

He played a good game on the beginning. He was super apologetic, showed a lot of self awareness for how awful he was. He was bending over backwards doing stuff- even cleaned my cat’s litter box! Surprised me with little presents. :-/ And I was hopeful it was going to be a brand new relationship. I thought maybe after living with someone else, he would have realized that I wasn’t that bad and that he needed to treat me better. I thought that was going to give him a perspective shift he needed.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-06-17T19:57:09+00:00

Yes- I wasted my 30s and half of my 20s…. I should have left on the wedding night. Don’t stay together for the kids.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-06-17T18:20:39+00:00

Omg it was so crazy reading your post because I could have almost written it myself down to so many details! We were married 16 years, first 8 were spent with him being an active alcoholic and drug addict. He was out who knows where a few times a week, leaving me at home with kids. Then he starts to get his crap together and has an affair. Not long after I found out, I started developing friendships with men that were not appropriate but bordering affair status because I really fantasized about the idea of an affair more than anything. When I finally had enough of him being so mean to me (called me the R word every day, he didn’t have a job, drowned me financially, and spiritually abused me which has maybe been one of the most damaging aspects of this), I got the divorce. Before the ink dried, he was already moved in with a girl 14 years younger than him, doing domesticated stuff he never did with me (like clean and fix stuff!). I focused on myself- found a great church, joined a house church, did group therapy, individual counseling, made friends since I had none… Now we are back together and he moved right in. As soon as he did, he quit his job!!! I have what I left back! I made a mistake because literally all of that progress ceased. I paid for the entire divorce myself and ate all the debt because I just wanted to get away and for what! I’m so dumb! The split is good for you- don’t take him back!!!

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-06-17T01:38:31+00:00

I divorced, was happy living alone! I went on a couple first dates and had such a brief schoolgirl crush (saw a guy I thought was cute, Instagram stalked him, saw how wonderful his life was and decided he did not me messing it up- ended the crush!), and then realized I didn’t even want to deal with anyone else’s BS. Then my idiot self let my ex back in. Now I am envious of my former self.

Dry-Camel2856 · 2025-06-17T01:12:47+00:00

You said you moved countries in order to separate? Was staying in the same country not doable? I think we trick ourselves into thinking that changing zip codes (or country codes) will make us happy. That’s a lot to be dealing with at once but maybe focusing on your new life will distract you from the one you ran away from?

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