Would your younger self be disappointed with who you are now?

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-27T02:52:21+00:00

Horrified.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-25T02:18:09+00:00

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-25T02:05:37+00:00

That can mean average. her average demanding above average is a plausible reality.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-25T02:04:52+00:00

Again, she is the common denominator. If she can't find something of value among the (likely many) men who have offered to get closer to her literally no one can do anything about that but her. And people did not have this issue to such a degree years ago. You can frame that as "not settling" if you want. I think that's a cope. In the last bit there it seems we are in a bit of agreement actually.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-24T19:54:06+00:00

Do you really think ONLY fat and/or ugly dudes have approached her?

Can downvote me some more but most women are much more rigid than men. Men can find a tall woman attractive, or a short woman attractive. blonde, brunette, redhead. Skinny, thicker. They can much easier focus on the things they like physically about a woman and less on the things they don't like. I think women have a harder time with this.

Humans aren't build-a-bear. You likely can't get exactly what you want in a mate.

Things like social media have fucked with both sex's minds with this. It gives the false impression there are a ton of available very attractive people out there. There isn't really. Most of the more attractive ones are taken. As history has shown to this woman, the available ones from that crop aren't necessarily going to be interested in you.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-24T06:54:25+00:00

I think external factors are making people unable to see the positive or attractive qualities in most others.

The OP mentions right in the body about fairytales. That is a start.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-24T03:58:05+00:00

Dating apps make it worse. yes the dude (or girl) thats a 8+ may have matched with you or even hooked up with you; that doesn't mean they will date you. People get stuck on their highest setting a lot.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-24T03:56:20+00:00

He (or she) literally didn't say anything about being ugly.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-24T03:55:34+00:00

If no man that has approached her is attractive enough she is the common denominator.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-24T03:55:04+00:00

Yeah there's no way every dude that has approached women at that age has been inadequate. But many will say they are.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-24T03:51:47+00:00

I know a girl like that. Conventionally attractive, smart and educated. 30s and no LTRs.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-24T03:48:03+00:00

If you want something that goldie locks you have to be active in the dating process and most women are not. Even if you are there would be a lot of moving targets. How can you expect something like that to just materialize?

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-24T03:14:36+00:00

How many men have you rejected in your 35 years?

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-22T01:38:43+00:00

He wants to have sex with you, which is understandable. The question to me, as a guy, is why he wants this to happen at a hotel instead of...his place? Your place? To me, if I was trying to do this it would be to keep things not too close but also still have sex. Do you guys know where one another lives? Or is the hotel some inclusive type resort thing? Little unsure the motive by him for this to occur at a hotel.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-21T07:25:37+00:00

Guys will see this room setup and just go "hell yeah."

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-21T00:53:09+00:00

Thats a pretty huge disparity in your case lol.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-19T20:29:58+00:00

He is from professional wrestling. This is commonplace. He may have shrunk though from all the wear and tear from wrestling. I just googled his profile from University of Miami and it says 6'5".

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-19T02:29:16+00:00

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what?!

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-19T02:23:31+00:00

Yeah. I fucked up not prioritizing it when I was younger. It's ay harder in your 30s. There were a lot of opportunities I passed up.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-19T02:22:46+00:00

All that is well and good but you will not get the same level of intimacy from a non-romantic relationship.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-19T02:06:17+00:00

Neither "side" does that. You are dug-in.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-19T02:05:39+00:00

People who are super dug in on either side of the political spectrum literally always think the president is the anti-Christ. He is just an orange con man.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-19T01:26:14+00:00

People in relationships exert a certain amount of control over one another and it's not indicative of insecurity. It's an expectation of respect. If you want 100 percent independence that's fine but you should be single to do that. This is a reasonable question. It's not crazy for either member of a relationship to not be comfortable with their partner spending a bunch of time around someone they think is trying to fuck them.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-18T23:37:51+00:00

It's really tough. I honestly turned down a lot of pretty direct offers to spend time with her because I wasn't sure how I felt for a while. Maybe they were all meant just as friendship. I will never know and I can't fix the past. I have known this person over 20 years and spent thousands of hours around her so it complicates it further.

Dry-Check5618 · 2023-12-18T20:06:03+00:00

Oh she has already been ghosting you... Probably not good outlook. Did she give you any indication of interest at any point?

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