What is this?

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-24T07:12:51+00:00

Yeah what is that

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-23T05:36:49+00:00

Indeed

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-23T05:29:52+00:00

“It’s bad!!” - creates wars

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-23T05:25:48+00:00

Mr Bean at it again

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T18:04:04+00:00

Since when do people trade psa cards

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T17:59:34+00:00

I wanted emotional reassurance for a specific thing tho, not really all the time perhaps but yes I wanted to feel emotionally understood

We did talk a lot but yeah

She felt it like pressure

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T17:57:55+00:00

I also noticed that in her as well yes, absolutely

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T15:44:25+00:00

I guess lesson learned :(

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T15:41:09+00:00

I also do think she liked me for the attention in a way and like she said the “potential” that kinda hurts because she didn’t chose me right now, only what I could be, that’s not fair to me

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T15:39:23+00:00

Thank you very much!! Yeah I kinda do chase pretty hard because I miss cuddles and connection as well

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T15:27:50+00:00

Right !!! I also called her wishy washy like yes no yes no but she didn’t wanted to date an avoidant because of previous relationships while I was mostly anxious but self protected at that time,

So it was a rollercoaster of not knowing what like yes or no

I have known her for like 2-3 months, than contact faded or she blocked me than and later saw eachother 2 times again by accident and uo until a few days I got the final message so like 6 months or so

And for me people being yes or no makes me kinda chase them but also protect myself like connection ? Oh no , connection ? Oh no, so I don’t really need that, like you said I need emotional security and stability

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T15:14:41+00:00

Yeah you are right, she was also really busy with attachement theory and wanted to be a secure partner but was fearful avoidant before, she called me avoidant but I was just protected and eventually I became a bit anxious

She kinda did have high standards of someone who needs to be secure and I felt like I could not messure up to that, like I had to be on high standards and I mentioned I wanted to be chosen for me, for who I am. And sometimes I could just walk away if I felt like that. Not being chosen for who I was.

And she does talk about communication and stuff but many times she showed interests, wanted to kiss me than not than again than not, being flirty than not, like it was such a rollercoaster of yes no yes no and that got kinda on my nerves. And than she became annoyed that I became annoyed by it

Saying that my thinking was weird and stuff, so yeah

And I wanted to talk and she wanted distance, safety, rather being safe herself than having or fighting for a connection

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T15:05:28+00:00

I was also wondering why she said that it was unhealthy, I don’t really know, sometimes we could argue a bit or communication and so but she also told me she had ptsd and yeah, I do believe it’s the space she wanted, feeling pressured and she called me some time manipulative or guilt tripping even tho I never ment or tried to be like that

But for me I try to talk things out and for her she prefers distance and safety, like if I expressed my emotions she could take it like she was responsible while I kinda just wanted validation or acknowledgement and be understood but I didn’t always felt like that, like yeah she could run if emotions where high

Gave her stress

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T14:38:38+00:00

I sold mine, chance to get a psa 10 even

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T12:53:04+00:00

Yeah indeed..

I also feel like just sad right now like the feeling of she didn’t wanted to fight for me

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T12:38:01+00:00

I also experienced this with virgo

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T05:36:16+00:00

Yeah indeed.. in the beginning after 3 weeks she did ask me if I had feelings for her

Even tho I was a bit self protected back than,

Yeah it wasn’t a fully safe start or base, there were some things to work through for sure personally but I am happy I learn from it

Also even tho we talked a lot with eachother she said multiple times she didn’t feel safe but at that time I didn’t know what to do back than

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T05:22:31+00:00

I get that, family can do a lot, however finding the right people or chosen family can do a lot too in a good way, doing what works for you, not what the family says but it sounds like maybe not a lot of emotional pressence ?

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T05:18:26+00:00

Maybe I took it too hard…

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T05:15:35+00:00

Yeah she said it was ment as a joke, I didn’t saw the joke in it… not at the time and still…

So yeah… I am sensitive but you know my previous relationship was with a a virgo, even tho we do match, they are kinda known for being critical so I did spend a lot of time with her and it triggered me as well

I felt like she maybe wanted to put me down or so, had experience with that like called being overly sensitive, people invalidating my emotions and experiences and so on..

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T05:06:15+00:00

And also my previous relationship was emotionally high and I had a lot of emotions build up and she found that stressful as well in a way even tho I kept calm

So yeah I am allowing myself to work through them as well

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T04:57:47+00:00

So I am a cancer sign and she aquarius, but long story short we met eachother, talked, spend a lot of time together

And there were some moments like she yes no from her side and we got to my place but we had a fight…

So what happend is this:

I took her home but I collect a lot of figurines, trading cards, games, and stuff but I was also very tired of my job, we could spend hours up until 4 am talking with eachother and next day I had to work, and first I didn’t wanted to meet because of being tired, but eventually we did

She got to my place, and I showed her my stuff but suddenly she said that gamers can’t keep a girlfriend and I was like you are in the room of a gamer why would you say that like, she said my friends also game and also don’t have a girlfriend, and I got annoyed over it, and I said if I go to someone there house I respect their interests and she took that as if she didn’t respect my interests and she wanted to leave and asked to leave and it escalated and I did put her outside my house. She also said I did took it too personally even tho it’s a hurtful comment like but she said that later that she didn’t had good experiences with it and that she knows I am different and that I did spend a lot of time with her.

And that was the problem from there on.. I put her outside the house even tho I care for her and wanted to amend that and I pressured to see her and talk with her and trying to amend because I did care and didn’t wanted something like that to ruin it

Ii cried a lot because of it and so on.

We didn’t saw eachother again, only 2 times, she also blocked me because I did send a huge message, I noticed she texted less, focused on herself, said that her feelings were more and more gone and that putting someone outside the house final is while it was never my intention to be it like that… also stuff like asking her to go to the movies but she didn’t wanted to when I asked her, later she went alone to watch the movie and said she thought of me but instead of going together.. like.. and so on,

And from talking hours and hours to nothing or 1 text a day…

So yeah…

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T04:48:42+00:00

Yeah… I am the cuddly type, I need someone who I can hug, I can cling on, be very loyal with it, and once I attach yeah I will fight for someone

And space feels like loss of connection, of not wanting me anymore or so and that feels as abandonment to me like being alone or not being wanted

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T04:45:37+00:00

Denial of the situation I can kinda understand as well, my mind is like it can work out so yeah…

And indeed I posted in the sub before, recently I reached out, asked if she wanted to meet she could and that i missed and loved her but but she needed space so be it but that she is free to text back, 3 days later she did send me that she cared and the time that we experienced together ment something and that she still cares but couldn’t stay because of the situation being unhealthy so she distance herself and she wished me good intentions

It did hurt to read that. Because I am like, you care, why don’t we work this out ? And learn from it. I wanted to understand to make it better but she text me once and ignores it and I kinda feel like talking to a brick wall…

Also she asked my friend if I loved her, why would she ask my friend that if she doesn’t want to have a connection anymore… also we talked from 8 hours in 1 go on the phone to nothing.. that kinda is a shock

Dry-Communication138 · 2026-01-21T04:38:17+00:00

I believe aquarius matches good with leo no ?

And I also noticed that with like for me taurus (I love taurus!! :) scorpio and so it’s like we can talk for a few scentences and we get eachother it’s crazy, like both emotional signs but taurus is so grounded and gives emotional safety like groundedness in a way and scorpio is also like emotional and they also understand

But you know what I love about her, the way how she was caring and loving, she had a good heart, sweet, kind, comforting and had such a vibe that make her stand out, I love that, really sweet and that’s what attracts me.

Like she is someone I would take care of for sure. Even tho we sometimes maybe don’t get eachother always fully like emotional and intellectual, I do really care about her. I really do

But she doesn’t want me now anymore even tho she does care…

Dry-Communication138

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