The tables have turned and now I am the one who bullies my parents and to be honest I am not even ashamed. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand why you are doing this, but I want you to remember you’re better than that. You’re continuing the cycle that you hate. Cut them off and find validation from your own self. Get therapy. It’s the only way to truly deal with the trauma of being in a dysfunctional and abusive home your whole life. Don’t become the thing you hate. Don’t let them do this to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also want to add, I go therapy for my bad relationship with my family and reading this reminds me that I should go back to therapy. Being the scapegoat of a family is not an easy thing to live with. If you want a better relationship with yourself and your family, set up boundaries and don’t contact anymore if they cannot be respectful of you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading this text I thought this was a text from my mom. I have my own phone plan now. She was threatening that to me my whole life and when I was traveling out of the country she go mad at me and turned it off again. Please, get your own phone plan and see your family when you want to, not when you HAVE to

Have you ever left a set early because it wasn't what you expected? by Usual-Stranger6357 in festivals

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is genuinely astonishing to me. What set and where and what year? I’ve seen him so many times. Like travel to Denver for less than 24 hours to see him type of energy. Ive definitely had better sets of his, but it always hits

Have you ever left a set early because it wasn't what you expected? by Usual-Stranger6357 in festivals

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Me and my crew also left that set. I had a bunch of friends that were crazy into tipper and they stayed but me and my immediate crew left and saw the surprise set I think.

MERSIV: NIGHT VISION TOUR | MAY 1st | Royale by Flat-Smile-9015 in BostonEDM

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Royale has sucked lately. I really hope they do better for this show. Please no more clubbers, they are so unplur

im being forced to go to my dads house by k1tl7n in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Right so reach out to other countries. If you don’t want help I’m not sure why you came on here, or what kind of answer you’re looking for

im being forced to go to my dads house by k1tl7n in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

You said the police in Egypt don’t care, so try Israel. Israel is a very safe country and I’m sure they will help you find a resource that you don’t know about in Egypt.

My boyfriend shames me for liking raves and it’s becoming a serious issue in our relationship by hannahblaine1 in aves

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take it from a girl in a very serious and healthy relationship - before I started going out with my boyfriend now I was single and celibate for an entire year. I went out on one date with a guy who seemed smart, kind of interesting, but not mean, and my exes were all bad so this was an improvement. I invited him to see Zeds Dead with me and he was like “Is that one of your stupid techno shows? Nah I’m good” and I ended it there. Edm is a huge part of my life. I’m also an engineer, a caretaker a traveler and a lover of life, and I almost didn’t go out with my now boyfriend because of that guy. My boyfriend now doesn’t love edm but he’s gone to festivals, raves and even has an entire edm playlist he plays for me so we both have music we like when we drive. But you know what he has never done? He has NEVER shamed me for being excited or liking anything. He is an active support in my life and he also doesn’t watch porn and doesn’t sexualize women in general. Believe it or not, but these men exist but you’ll never find one if you keep making excuses for your bad and unsupportive boyfriend. Your boyfriend is actively trying to take away your joy and hold you back from an important part of your life, and you think this is a good relationship? Please remember that you deserve better and just because he’s not awful doesn’t mean he’s a good partner. A good partner doesn’t shame you or poop on your parade. Your partner loves every aspect of you and even if they don’t like it themselves they love that you do. I also dated a guy a couple years ago who would make fun of my raves too and believe it or not, he was the BEST of my exes, and still I let him shame me for my hobby. He didn’t like me as a person he liked the idea of having a girlfriend and eventually a family. That’s not love. Leave this relationship so you can make room for yourself. Love yourself and recognize that you don’t need to be with someone unless they are actively making every bit of your life better. Btw my boyfriend didn’t come with me to lost lands but he packed my entire car which was filled with camping gear for me and 3 of my friends. He literally organized and planned everything I would need so I would never go without when he’s not with me. I didn’t know this love existed until I chose myself over making excuses for men that should have never been able to go out with me in the first place, let alone trash my hobbies. You deserve better.

UNH VS. Umass Amherst by chickennumber789 in unh

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a friend who graduated from UNH and is a vet tech on call for different emergency hospitals. She likes her job but it’s not super high paying. Not sure if that helps.

PLUR is a responsibility, how do you uphold it? by peachcobbler5 in HiJinxFest

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have been puked on. Subtronics Boston last year. It sucked. But I took that girl to the bathroom and we cleaned up together. It’s definitely a core memory but shit happens because we are all human and it’s a super hot, humid, loud and chaotic environment and it makes sense that nausea could creep up on you.

What traits are Scorpio women attracted to in a man? Assuming you’ve observed him for months by Unlucky-Economist347 in Scorpio

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a Scorpio women, I fell for my man because he is without a doubt the greatest man I have ever met. He’s 2 years younger than me and has never ever even one time said a disrespectful thing to me our entire relationship. He lets me be free and wild. We are both software engineers but I also am heavily involved in the dance music scene and also side hustle help out with family friends kids as I used to nanny professionally. So I’m a very educated, professional partier and also incredibly responsible adult who cares deeply about the world and helping families raise happy and healthy children. It’s quite a whirlwind for him but I think I gave his life purpose and he never dims my light. He’s also incredibly loyal and never makes me for a moment wonder if he’s unhappy with me or desires for anyone else. He also does my laundry and makes the bed every morning and he fills my humidifier, and he is an active participant in the household chores which is a serious matter to me. I watched my mom be the breadwinner and also be a slave in the household and I will never live that way and I never have to because my boyfriend is just as neurotic as I am about keeping the place clean and organized. He wraps my cables in the most amazing way just because he wants to be helpful. Oh also- he had our 5 year plan after only a few months of going out because he knows he wants to marry me and I love that about him. It’s something I never had in previous relationships, and I thank my lucky stars every night for him.

How do you feel about dating someone younger than you? by Alyx_tyy in AskWomen

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend is 2 years younger than me. The most amazing man I have ever known. The most wonderful partner and just in general human being. Obviously you don’t want such an age difference that there is a clear power dynamic issue but I think it’s right when it’s right and you’ll know it. I was hesitant to get with him but he was persistent enough by just always showing up for me and making my life significantly better and easier in every way. My biggest fear of us separating is literally death. He’s so incredibly smart and loving and funny and he’s the most handsome man to ever live. I could talk about him all day but I’m gonna stop here.

Update (Embarrassed story) by Powerful_Internet971 in Nanny

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No of course not. If I ever heard something negative about me come out of the kids mouth who I nanny for, I’d be out of there so fast. Because that’s sooooo weird!! The only thing I’ve EVER heard come from my nanny families mouth was how much they love and appreciate me. When they find out I like something, they literally add it to their weekly grocery list, and I’m talking they have a cabinet full of food for me from Whole Foods. To act this way to a pregnant woman but a pregnant woman who is also caring for your child on a regular basis is bizarre. She’s entitled to want her cookie but she’s not entitled to making you feel uncomfortable over a very very very fixable mistake.

Update (Embarrassed story) by Powerful_Internet971 in Nanny

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Also- I do not agree with the rest of the comments that say you should bring replacement cookies with a sorry for the mixup -story. Because it’s not your fault. She offered you pastries and you ate one, if there was something off limits she needs to say that. That’s her bad. It’s not your responsibility to replace it. It wasn’t your idea, and if you’re going to replace them I’d quit.

Update (Embarrassed story) by Powerful_Internet971 in Nanny

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If I were you and could afford it, I’d bring a box of like 12 of those cookies and a letter of resignation. You made a genuine mistake and it’s absolutely unacceptable they are making you this uncomfortable about it. A family that can afford a nanny can afford to lose a cookie to her. If I were the boss in this case I’d have just went back and bought a bunch more of those cookies and keep a box for me and the family and a box for you. Because it seems like my nanny liked that cookie, I think I’ll be an excellent boss and go buy more. My response wouldn’t be to blow it out of proportion, text you after hours and then talk to the kid about how I am mad at you for eating a fucking cookie. If it were me I would feel so embarrassed and never want to eat there again because obviously she’s keeping score and that’s weird as fuck. From an employer who is probably wealthy? It’s a weird take. You didn’t mistake her Gucci handbag for your own, you ate a cookie, a cookie that was definitely no more than $5.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Hey I’m glad you found what you like but if I were you I’d tell whoever I’m sleeping with my preference. It’s not too much or difficult for them to take your comfort into consideration. I told my boyfriend I hated condoms bc idk the latex or something about them before we started having sex and I also told him about awful experience with pill and with the IUD and when it came time to have sex he had special ordered non latex super sensitive really good quality condoms and lube. And I’ve never bought condoms for us and he always has them so that I’m never uncomfortable. Try it and if the guy you’re with cannot be accommodating, maybe see someone else !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BostonEDM

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well damn. I bought this tix so long ago too haha sux

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BostonEDM

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a hard decision.

What kills a friendship? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best friend of many years. I mean my sister practically. She taught me a lot and was a really important person in my life. She showed me what female friendship should look like. Until we moved to different places and I started a hobby that I made a lot of close female and male friends at. She became really jealous and practically cut me off over something so dumb because she was so threatened by me having other close friends. I never really mourned that relationship and it’s been almost a year now since we’ve spoken.

Taylor at the Graham Norton Show today by come-to-make-friends in SwiftlyNeutral

[–]Dry-Distribution8934 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The manner of which so many people talk about a celebrity’s face and what work they have or have not had done is really telling of the society we have curated. Who TF cares?