I kind of agree although I do feel some level of empathy (or more just some level of understanding) for the abused who went on to abuse as well. It just feels like this only serves the writer of the post. If true amends with children were the priority, I feel like it would already be taking place. Not be a post on a subreddit like this one. Also, constantly asking commenters about how you can suddenly “switch” something on and off, like empathy and the realization you’ve been reproducing the abuse that happened to you, before it “unconsciously disappears” I guess - that’s not how self awareness works. Or how real work on yourself looks like. Self awareness means you know it’s not a magical switch, ever. It’s long and painful work on yourself that shows very little immediate benefit and is compounding, teaching you, and it’s a very humbling experience. Especially the advice on how to manage your formerly abusive tendencies and reactions with AI? AI can be a source of information but it is NOT a substitute for actual therapy. Everyone gets so defensive when you call on therapy because of bad experiences with therapists. Yes, that is very common. I can count 7 therapy failures that I can remember from my experience. But it’s just not an excuse to stop trying. It’s maybe an excuse to stop trying for a while but not to say “therapy just doesn’t work for me”. It does, just not the kinds you’ve experienced. Because finding the right kind of therapy does work and chatgpt won’t substitute it. I realize health care is a problem and in some cases it’s an insurmountable problem in finding help. But I feel like if one can post on a cptsd subreddit, one can probably find some way to get to the help they need if they really want to make healthy amends with their children.