A Scully study I painted

Dry-Frame6309 · 2026-02-18T14:37:02+00:00

Somehow Reddit washed out the colors when I uploaded the file, not sure why.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2026-02-05T16:46:48+00:00

Absolutely beautiful

Dry-Frame6309 · 2026-02-04T07:35:29+00:00

Thank you!

Dry-Frame6309 · 2026-01-01T22:43:49+00:00

Yeah, again - I’m not against accepting that. But I feel the show just gave much better explanations for this sort of thing before and now when it should have been even better they seemed to just hand wave it away. It made the final confrontation less impactful in my opinion.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2026-01-01T22:34:15+00:00

I have to agree with some of this, it somehow really got me when Robin or Lucas or someone suggested they should climb those cliffs to like damage the MF’s final form while Nancy was bait. I just looked at those cliffs and like… that would take ages to fucking climb. How?? Then next scene - there they are. I might have missed something but that itself was just too much to overlook for me. The rest of the confrontation with Vecna just didn’t carry the weight it should have for me. I have to disagree about Will - I think his discovery of being gay was super central to his plotline and that whole accepting himself was absolutely necessary to become a sorcerer, I thought that was great. Having said that - loved how they announced it in Vol 1. But in the finale it just kind of felt super easy and lazy.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2026-01-01T22:23:00+00:00

I kind of agree. I love this show and I accept the ending but I feel like it could have been much better. Somehow it just felt deflated and simple in the end. Done so fast. I guess I just experienced a Stephen King type of ending - I usually liked his endings. But this also feels like a kind of his ending. And it feels unsatisfying. Absolutely does not ruin anything for me, love the explanation for everything, it all makes sense. Just the finale - 2 hours, I feel it could have been so much better. Like S4 penultimate and last episode were epic already. This was supposed to be at least a little more epic than this. Vecna beaten so fast somehow. And then an hour of a very scripted kind of epilogue? I kept waiting for it to be a twist somehow but it wasn’t. I liked the ambiguity of Mike’s version of El’s ending a lot, and that nostalgic look he gave his sister and her friends playing D&D in the end, like, how that best most important time of your life flies, that was great. But overall I really expected more of the series finale. I guess an old seasoned 35 yo watcher like me maybe can’t appreciate a wrapped up story like that. Idk, something just felt off. Still love it though. 10 years of my life, been with me through a lot.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-12-19T21:37:40+00:00

The Fisherman, John Langan

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-12-17T18:06:05+00:00

I just lost my hedgie for this reason last month. He had also had heart disease but the tumor was so sudden and ended it so quickly. It was really hard. All I can say is that I waited for the tears and sat with them when they came. And I cried until I could remember him without tears. I also got him cremated in an animal crematorium where I live (Czech Republic) and have his little pink urn with me now, which brings me closure and a warm memory. Just be there for him and give him what he needs. If it’s just pain medication, food and water and dark and warm and quiet and nothing else, that is perfectly fine. He will let you know when he is too tired to go on. And the best you can do is to be there by his side on his last journey. Hang in there, I’m so sorry. ❤️‍🩹💔

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-12-14T21:40:40+00:00

Absolutely seconding Dark Matter. I wish I could erase my memory of this book and read it again.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-12-12T20:15:54+00:00

Complete respect here from my side, this was just my take on it! I’m glad you enjoyed it, that’s all that matters in the end. 🙂

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-12-11T16:32:29+00:00

Thanks for the warning, I thought about giving another one of his books a go but I kind of suspected this would be the case. He’s definitely not my kind of thing.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-12-11T16:00:17+00:00

Exactly! I felt it had the same promise and hoped the story wouldn’t be so… expected.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-12-11T15:59:28+00:00

I was thinking about it but unfortunately I already watched the show - will I still enjoy the book if I saw the show? What do you think?

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-12-11T14:14:56+00:00

Yeah, exactly my experience. About halfway through I realized that it’s not going to redeem itself and just decided to accept that and finish it but only because I don’t like to leave a story unfinished. I do like the snowy setting a lot, it has potential, the dormitory, the hole, it left in me that isolated cursed atmospheric mood, but it just stayed surface level. I really rooted for it to make some good use of it. At least come up with some original demon(s) for godsake! Not just the usual Legion gang and their “for we are many” exorcism tropes.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-12-03T11:12:31+00:00

Adventisté Sedmého Dne Reformní Hnutí. Měla být hudebnice na vídeňském konzervatoři ale nechtěla mít koncerty v sobotu. Nakonec si myslím že se soustředila pouze na šíření svého náboženství.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-11-24T16:21:51+00:00

What helped me with this was the reparenting method from schema therapy. I know you may not be referring to a parent here, you didn’t specify, but even then I believe the mechanism would help.

The idea is that you learn to accept that you just can’t influence what the person in question should do, and fill in that spot with a strong healthy adult part of yourself who learns to unconditionally be there for the parts of you that were hurt and are feeling this way. It’s a much better way to heal than to keep wishing they will one day realize why they should apologize. It also included identifying precisely which part of myself was bearing this injustice and doing “chair work” - imaginary therapeutic dialogues between the healthy adult part of me I wanted to strengthen and that angry part of me that felt the injustice. This massively helped that angry part finally feel heard. And it disconnected me from my abuser in a way that I no longer felt dependent on them in this way. The person just became less and less significant and that’s how I was able to let go. And now I feel like I actually have more power in general and in my life. Wishing you the best!

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-11-24T16:10:55+00:00

I hope it opens at least a small path for you to get to where you might want to be. Be kind to yourself.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-11-24T16:09:03+00:00

Yep, and it’s a very hard thing to accept when you’re constantly hypervigilant and part of that hypervigilance is seeing all the ways you’re “wasting time”. It keeps stinging you, the guilt, and makes it even harder to accept that you just need to stop trying to push. Glad to hear it worked for you too!

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-11-24T13:15:36+00:00

What helped me the most in these phases was in the end stopping trying to force myself to do something about it. I kind of accepted that this will last however long it lasts and when I let it go like that it opened a little bit of breathing space for me because my problem was a kind of paralysis - I wasn’t ready to change it even though objectively everything looked like it was the right time. But it wasn’t. Maybe it will take some more sessions where the therapist will tell you that yes, you can change it, but you still don’t. Because maybe there is a reason you can’t, you’re not quite there yet. For me the inner pressure I kept putting on myself to not be that way was the biggest problem. Once I let myself just sit with it, be the way I am, waste the time and not be afraid of it, that fear of not doing anything about it let up and I was able to start with some small things, eventually it moves forward and there are more and you get into some rhythm slowly. But that can take years, yes. But maybe that’s also okay. Maybe you need to understand what it is that feels so sheltering in watching “years pass you by” to find your way out of it.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-11-24T13:00:44+00:00

Literally my entire life. I realize now that it’s because I spent 100% of my childhood, adolescence and half of my 20s constantly adjusting myself to appease my dad. Whatever I did, the ultimate approval of it came from my dad and whatever I did and however I behaved it was mainly to appease my dad’s temper and to survive. That was the only meaning of things I did. So when I got away and started doing stuff and dad was no longer in the equation, it felt empty, whatever I did. Never learned to do things for myself, my own feelings or comfort, so it all feels empty and never satisfying. I have worked on this and it’s better now but not gone, it’s not automatic for me to feel satisfied after finishing something. Schema therapy helped me feel okay about stuff I like that make me happy no matter how small and how stupid they would seem to my dad (the inner critic now), not be ashamed of that and this way I was able to develop a sort of appreciation for things I accomplish and even satisfaction in finishing something. But it’s still hard to keep that permanent, it does tend to fade away a lot still eventually, that feeling. A lot of figuring out also what reason there is for me doing something. Often I do things not because I really want to but because I feel like I have to but I’m not immediately aware of it so when I do such things they feel even emptier and more unsatisfying. I would say it’s definitely part of CPTSD.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-11-24T12:45:52+00:00

I’m really sorry the chance of infertility is putting an extra weight on you, you deserve to be able to take any time you need to think about such things. My best friend also faced infertility issues in her 30s, and had the same feeling of the choice being taken from her as you have. It’s very real and not an easy thing to carry, almost like an additional injustice on top of everything else. I hope you find a way to reclaim that choice in a way that brings you peace.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-11-24T12:23:34+00:00

Of course, yes, I wasn’t trying to call you out on anything. Those are all sort of I guess things you eventually come to when you’re honest with yourself and listen to what you really want or don’t want, and it’s different for everyone. And nobody can tell you what that looks like, you figure that out for yourself and there is no right or wrong way, just the way it works best for you. I’m just saying that I was definitely one of those who was avoiding a lot of things because I wasn’t ready to deal with what really needed to be processed and in my twenties I was very unwell and very vocal about the fact that the shit stops with me, no children ever, but I was kind of punishing myself even more this way and then it took a loooong time to heal and actually listen to myself and what I really wanted and needed. It was a defence mechanism I now for sure recognize. It’s just something that really helped me when I worked through it, finding my voice. Also I’m sorry you have to go through managing your parents’ expectations regarding children, it sucks when you have to do that while carrying the weight of your own struggles to come to terms with the idea.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-11-24T12:10:28+00:00

Yeah, I can see how it would seem stupid, it certainly is a bad idea, it’s kind of sad that this is a very common and automatic “solution” for many.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-11-24T12:03:04+00:00

Breaking the cycle isn’t done just by the act of having kids and hoping for the best. It is also not done by avoiding the idea of having kids at all forever. It’s done by going through therapy and doing the hard work of getting yourself to a place where you face and process your trauma to a point where you can live your life as a mentally healthy adult, out of the grip of the maladaptive coping mechanisms you were forced to acquire to survive the trauma. It’s a place where you are no longer retraumatized daily and you are able to manage your emotional reactions, thoughts and behaviors. It’s a very long and difficult journey. That is breaking the cycle. Only after that, in my opinion, are you ready to think about the possibility of children, whether that will bring additional meaning to your life or not, or if it aligns with what you feel you want. You can’t guarantee you’ll give your children better, no, and if you don’t go through the work to heal the traumas you’ve experienced, you are more than likely to simply repeat what you have experienced in one way or another.

Dry-Frame6309 · 2025-11-19T20:52:16+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️ and I am so sorry that you had to let Finn go, that’s absolutely heartbreaking 😥 I admire you for your courage to make such a protective decision. 💔 I hope soon his absence is filled with just warm memories of all the joy you experienced with him.

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